Many of his classic famous sentences have also become excellent tools for modern people to cultivate their self-cultivation! First, it is difficult for a person to get rich for a long time, and sharing the benefits of getting rich for a long time is everyone's pursuit. If you have the benefits, but only want to enjoy the monopoly alone, it is undoubtedly a fire and make yourself a target of public criticism. Therefore, in the face of interests, we must not forget the great righteousness and know how to choose. There is a saying in business: "If you have money, everyone will earn". There is another sentence: "It is difficult for a person to get fat." On the one hand, it emphasizes win-win cooperation, on the other hand, it opposes going it alone. Especially in the case of difficult business, we should pay more attention to everyone's unity and cooperation. If there is business, let's join together and don't undermine each other. Benefit sharing, not monopolization. Don't do those dirty things. You dig my foundation, I cut your hamstring, and everyone is embarrassed. The way of doing business is the way of people. People can't make a fortune if they don't do well. A small victory depends on wisdom, and a big victory depends on virtue. Only know that chasing interests is the behavior of ordinary people; It is the work of sages to know how to share the benefits better. If you are interested, you can think of sharing it with others, and you can get more true love and better popularity. Monopoly is the scheming of a villain, and sharing is the mind of a gentleman. The highest state of life is beneficial sharing, and the highest state of intelligence is also beneficial sharing. Second, the world is the worst. Zeng Guofan's father told him not to read the last sentence or the next one. Don't touch the next book until you have finished reading this one. Never go to sleep until you finish your study task for one day. He doesn't know any "skills" or "shortcuts". He only knows one way to darkness, and he won't look back until he reaches the south wall. This "clumsy" way of learning has cultivated an extraordinary spirit of diligence, hardship and sureness in him. The experience of bitter mechanics gave Zeng Guofan a unique inspiration, and he found that clumsiness had the advantage of clumsiness. Clumsy people have no intellectual capital, so they are more open-minded than others. Clumsy people have received frustration education since childhood, so their fighting ability is particularly strong. Clumsy people don't know how to play tricks, but only know how to take advantage of problems, so they don't leave any dead ends. On the contrary, smart people are unwilling to work hard and walk around when they encounter difficulties, with a loose foundation. So "clumsiness" looks slow, but it is actually the fastest, because it is a down-to-earth success, leaving no drawbacks. Although Zeng Guofan has been a scholar for nine years, once he is enlightened, the road behind him will be smoother and smoother. In the second year of being a scholar, he won a scholarship and worked as a scholar in high school for four years. And those students who entered school early and didn't even come out with a juren later. He summed up his experience and said many times that it was because he had a good foundation, so he "should study hard." Third, there are endless ways to learn, but they will never change. Zeng Guofan's words: "The road to success is endless, but it will never change." Tell us that there is no end to learning, no end to art, and no end to all career achievements. Even if we have made a small success in a career, we still can't stop moving forward. We should accumulate small victories into great victories, from one victory to another and from one success to another. Therefore, the road to success is always under construction. The success of any career is only in progress and does not stop. Just like building a road, it is always under construction. This road has been repaired, and there are new roads to be repaired. A little rest is fine, but stagnation is not. Success has only a beginning, not an end. If you don't accumulate steps, you won't reach a thousand miles. Wan Li road, or to accumulate footsteps. Success is a life-long road. We should work hard, struggle and make progress all our lives. Youth is the sun at sunrise, maturity is the light of day, and old age is the light of candle. Although the light is reduced, it is better than no light at all. Where there is a will, there is a way, and we will not rest until we die. Fourth, "forbearance" Most of us have encountered things that are not satisfactory or even wronged in our lives. But many times, our forbearance is often just a general sense of submission to humiliation. When we tolerate more, we get used to it, and finally we become resigned. This kind of forbearance is both timid forbearance and hopeless forbearance. Zeng Guofan's emphasis on forbearance is to make it a strong opportunity for a person, even a team and a country. This kind of forbearance is precious forbearance, forbearance of a man, and forbearance of "shame before man" as Du Mu said. For this kind of precious forbearance, Zeng Guofan also believes that it is necessary to be able to endure thoroughly and bear it hard enough. For setbacks and adversity in life, most people can endure temporary pain, but a common mistake is that when they endure that moment, they will "forget the pain". Not only Zeng Guofan, but also a hero throughout the ages, anyone who can achieve something has made extraordinary efforts in forbearance. From the humiliation of Han Xin's legs to Zeng Guofan's expulsion from Changsha, the more heroes have the courage to bow their heads and endure humiliation. 5. It is said that people's shortcomings are to protect their own shortcomings, and boasting their own advantages is to avoid the length of others. This is why Zeng Guofan criticized some narrow-minded people. Those who talk about others' shortcomings and praise their own advantages, on the one hand, want to cover up their own shortcomings, on the other hand, they are jealous of others' advantages, with the aim of belittling others and raising themselves. No one is perfect, and a ruler has a length. Everyone has his strengths and weaknesses, and the correct attitude should be: to yourself, develop your strengths and make up for your weaknesses; For others, learn from others' strengths and make up for your own shortcomings. Talk less about the shortcomings of others and learn more about the advantages of others; Don't brag about your strengths, your weaknesses are how bright. Strengths focus on their own development and don't show off in front of others; Be sure to make up the shortcomings, don't be afraid of ugliness. You can't run away without boasting about your own advantages, and covering up your own shortcomings can't change it. Better know yourself than criticize others. People with low self-esteem often see their own shortcomings and lose confidence in their own progress, which is certainly not good. Arrogant people tend to see their own advantages more, exaggerate their own advantages, be neither humble nor arrogant, and hold on to them, which is even worse. To know yourself is to examine your own advantages and disadvantages with an objective attitude and a normal mind, turn short into long, become stronger, move towards a more perfect life, and achieve your own moral career and career. Don't say that people are short and boast of their length; Don't hide your shortcomings, but publicize your strengths. Can stop disadvantages, can promote morality and promote self-success! Mature people only see interests. Many newly graduated college students must learn a survival skill before entering the society: learn to be a man first. Be a man first, and you can do things better. This is a law that everyone agrees with. Many people lament: "interpersonal relationship is a question asked by universities, and it is not allowed to be sloppy." No matter how good a person is, the first thing to deal with is interpersonal relationship. A few days ago, China Youth Daily Social Investigation Center conducted a survey on 1 138 people, showing that 84.3% people lamented that complicated interpersonal relationships made them very tired. Only 34.2% people think that their interpersonal relationship is handled well, 53.7% people say "average", 1 1.7% people admit that their interpersonal relationship is "poor". Among the respondents, the "post-70 s" and "post-80 s" in the mainstream of society accounted for nearly 70%. The survey also shows that colleagues, neighbors, relatives and friends generally become interfering factors in various interpersonal relationships in daily life. What causes us to have difficulties in interpersonal communication and fall into a "strange circle of communication"? On the one hand, the benefits and realistic values generated by social development are probably the most important fuses. In the survey, 86. 1% people said that many interpersonal relationships were kidnapped by money and interests, and 76.2% people said that power became the most important factor in determining interpersonal relationships. Some people calculate each other for petty profits, and naturally they can't get the sincerity. On the other hand, 48.3% people said that too few people think of others, and 39. 1% people said that people's awareness of self-protection is increasing. In fact, in the fierce competition of modern society, everyone has to redouble their efforts and protect themselves carefully in order to win their position. Under such pressure of survival, it seems inevitable that there is no time to take care of other people's feelings and no energy to care for and comfort each other. While being troubled by interpersonal relationships, it is necessary for us to remind ourselves to learn to be a wise person, so that complex interpersonal relationships are no longer a burden in our hearts, but a bridge to success. First, you can divide your interpersonal circle into three layers: shallow, medium and deep. Family, friends, good colleagues, etc. Should be the deepest emotional support, so that they feel intimate and happy; "Middle-level" relationships are important relationships that need to be actively made and maintained, such as customers and superiors, so that it is convenient to find help when encountering problems; And ordinary neighbors, acquaintances and so on. When we meet, we can say hello and give a smiling face, so that life is full of warmth everywhere. Secondly, we should pay attention to the cultivation of emotional intelligence. You can read more books on literature and philosophy and listen to concerts to make yourself more human. Finally, jump out of interest disputes, be more tolerant and understanding of others, and don't think everyone is so complicated and infect others with inner kindness. In short, although we can't change the big environment, we can adjust our mentality and influence the surrounding small environment. Generally speaking, we have clearly felt the importance of interpersonal communication. Although we attach great importance to the improvement of interpersonal relationship, we should not distort normal interpersonal communication for some benefits or money problems.