Why is it difficult to have so-called friendship in universities? I have heard many versions of explanations, among which the following are nothing more than:
We are just strangers in class together.
If high school students are comrades who struggle together, then I think college students are probably strangers who attend classes together. We arrive at the same classroom regularly every day, listen to the same teacher and take the same note; We know each other's names, know each other's hometown, and even know a little about each other's family, but that's all. Or is it that leaving in a hurry after class makes us so strange?
There will always be parting in the future, so why bother?
People from our university come from all corners of the country. After four years of college, some people will choose to stay in Guangzhou, while others will choose to go back to their hometown for development. Once we choose different cities, maybe our world will be two straight lines that will never intersect again. I don't want to see the friendship I once had die slowly in the obstacles of time, distance, work, society and so on. If that's the case, I'd rather not be good friends with you from the beginning, so I won't be sad because I finally became a stranger.
Just in time, I just need you at this time.
I took a vacation and went to college alone in a strange environment. Something happened to me and I was very wronged. Who can I tell? At this moment, you appeared. I didn't seem to be as good as you in the past, but at this moment I am willing to tell you about those academic setbacks, love struggles, busy community affairs and complicated interpersonal relationships. You showed up when I needed to talk most. At this moment, I really need you, whether this person needs you or not. But after I confided, everything in my life was calm. I felt that you and I had nothing to say, and even a little annoyed to let you know my cowardice. Thank you for showing up when I needed it. It was only a moment. Maybe that's why we can't gain friendship.
I have heard such a story. The two girls who just entered the university are unfamiliar with everything in the university. It is this tacit understanding of "helping each other in the same boat" that makes them good friends. Good friends, talk about everything. But later, these two good friends with similar age, similar achievements, similar image and even similar family background met the most realistic problem for the first time. There is only one place for postgraduate entrance examination in the college. Which girl should I give it to? Like all TV series, B slandered A in front of the teacher in order to win the postgraduate entrance examination, while A only studied hard and prepared to compete fairly with B. At the end of the story, there is no doubt that A was betrayed by his friend B, and B became the winner and got the number of walks. It's hard for people who have been hurt to believe in friendship, isn't it?
There are too many reasons why you and I can't be friends. When college students come to a strange environment, they will habitually maintain a "self-defense" mentality towards people, which is often manifested as "strangers should not be close, and acquaintances should respect themselves." Maybe we grow up, maybe we see too many betrayals, and we always want to wait for others to open their hearts to us. Only when others take the initiative to talk to each other and the other party can't wait to dig out a heart to prove it to you, are you willing to accept each other's friendship. But don't be silly, even TV dramas don't do this routine, do you? It's not that there is no real friendship in universities, but that we need to take the first step. "Hello, I remember you are our xxx. Why don't we have dinner together ... ""Hey, XXX, I'm going to your place tomorrow. Will you be a tour guide? " "Hey, the work is not smooth. Let's take a trip together to relax. " "Last time I told you, I ... Now ..."
I like the movie My Black Skirt very much. It tells the friendship story of four girls who graduated from drama major. One day, A, who was spotted by a talent scout, made his debut as a big star. This most ignorant and beautiful girl has become the best and most dazzling person among them. As friends, the other three girls are not very happy for him. At the end of the story, when I secretly laughed at the girl's fragile friendship, the m-girls turned around and made up. Those subtle and unspeakable stories between girls will never be finished; They like to stick together and make good jokes; Will also be considerate of each other, often feeling; Seemingly intimate and harmonious; Occasionally, it is inevitable to be jealous and secretly compete …
Universities are not without reliable friendships. After all, those dark truths that seem right can always be overthrown by fearless and positive actions. It's not that there is no friendship in college. You don't want to leave at the first step. You magnify friendship and value it very much. These are the real reasons why you can't be friends with others.
We in the university, imperfect us, can have our own wonderful, gathering, sometimes happy, sometimes quarreling, sometimes making up, sometimes sad, and struggling through the growth pains of confusion, hesitation, sensitivity and fragility. In the end, we found that we can walk through several cities and have been in love several times, but only some friends are still with you and will accompany you in the future.
Maybe they don't know you so well, maybe they will forget your birthday, or maybe she temporarily ignores you because of her own emergency; In the future, you will still bicker over trifles, feel sour because the other party is better than you, and regret what you said on impulse. Who made us human? Humans will inevitably love themselves more.
However, if she really cares about you, for example, she will be very anxious and worried about what happened to you; At the same time, you will be angry after quarreling, and you will deeply resent your straightforward little temper; Will look forward to your forgiveness after angrily turning away; And even if she is busy, even if she can't help you, her concern for you can make you feel that you are not alone.
All the trivial things with friends, because of all these trivial and imperfect things, our memory becomes indelible and more meaningful. In fact, no one can tell.