Recently, the family series "Everything is OK" has been a hot topic of discussion, among which Su Mingzhe, the eldest son of the Su family, has also become the object of many people's spit.

Su Mingzhe graduated from Tsinghua University and then studied at Stanford University. After graduation, he stayed and settled in America.

The wife is virtuous and kind, the daughter is smart and lovely, and the income is rich. In the eyes of many people, Su Mingzhe is a knowledgeable and polite successful person.

However, it is such a know-how high flyers, who was dismissed by the company because of layoffs, repeatedly hit a wall when looking for a job interview.

Why can't he find a job with such good qualifications?

Before analyzing the reasons, I think it is necessary to introduce the university he attended.

Tsinghua University

In the 20 19 ranking of world universities, Tsinghua University ranks first in Asia, ranking 3 1.

As a well-known university in China, Tsinghua is a dream place for many students, and the graduates who come out of it are as dazzling as their own aura.

Stanford University

Palo Alto, located in the south of San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA, is a world-famous private research university, close to the world-famous high-tech park Silicon Valley.

QS ranks second in the world.

Unit American news ranks seventh in the world.

Graduates' employability ranks second in the world.

Ranked third in computer science in the world.

Not to mention studying in these two universities at the same time, even one of them is enough for Su Mingzhe to find a well-paid job.

But why did he repeatedly hit the wall in the interview?

His unemployment, seemingly incredible, is actually expected.

Su Mingzhe's biggest problem is that his emotional intelligence is too low.

His low emotional intelligence body will not judge the situation, make the right choice, and stubbornly keep some unnecessary "face".

In the face of his father's irresponsible and selfish behavior, he chose not to point out the problem, but blindly obeyed, and even fell into a confused state of reversing black and white and ignoring boundaries. This is really not the performance that an elite with high education and high income should have.

If you say this is because you have been to America for many years, hoping to make up for the lack of care for your father, how do you explain his behavior towards his wife and brother and sister?

As a married father with children, what he should do is to work side by side with the other half, contribute to the small family and make life happier.

He rashly promised to send his father to America without considering the actual situation. The vain father flaunted that he was going to America, but everything was ready, but it was poured cold water on him.

When he was still unemployed, his wife advised him to lower the criteria for finding a job, but he refused to put down his airs and preferred to stay at home.

Just stay, because I'm proud, and I won't tell my father that I'm unemployed. Besides, the father is in good health. In fact, he could take care of himself at that time.

However, Su Mingzhe, regardless of the living conditions at that time, regardless of his wife working alone to support the three of them, regardless of his wife's persuasion, insisted on taking the old man to his home.

Because he is the boss of the family, in his view, the boss must be in charge of everything of everyone in the family, and must have the ability, face and ability.

So he pretended that he was doing well in front of his sister, but he didn't know the harm and disgust that his so-called concern brought to others.

Among them, the most harmful thing is probably the right and wrong of the wife.

During the period of unemployment, he supported a family of three on his own salary, but he didn't consider how hard his wife was, how tired he was with his children, and how difficult it was to live with him.

This man only cares about "filial piety", only about his own face, only about their Su family, but treats her as an outsider. And that his wife and daughter should follow him to tighten their belts and meet the needs of his family first.

How can a person who can't even handle family relationships well deal with complicated interpersonal relationships at work?

How can a person who refuses to face up to himself and can't accurately analyze problems be competent for the rapid changes in the workplace?

How can a person who is too proud to compromise calmly deal with major changes?

In addition to saving face, another shortcoming of Su Mingzhe is inaction.

He scolded his younger brother and sister for not taking good care of his father and complained that the people around him let him down. From beginning to end, he accused others of their shortcomings and complained about others, but he actually did nothing.

As the saying goes, "all talk and no action", Su Mingzhe belongs to that kind of talk and no action.

At work, it is often those who are down-to-earth who get promotion and success, not those who just talk and don't do it.

Gorman once said in an interview with the media: "A considerable number of people with high IQ, despite their excellent academic performance, quick response and extensive knowledge, are far less brilliant in their careers than some people with much lower IQ."

Su Mingzhe is the kind of person with high IQ.

Some people's colleagues and friends have been smooth sailing since they started working. They can not only solve problems at work easily, but also have a very good relationship with leaders and colleagues.

It can be said that it was smooth sailing and enviable.

However, the same entry time and industry, in the eyes of some people, seems that every item has become difficult.

The reason is still because of low emotional intelligence.

Ma Yun, Chairman of Alibaba's Board of Directors, once served as a member of the Advisory Committee of Tsinghua University Institute of Economics and Management, and gave a speech in the EMBA class in Tsinghua, with the theme of entrepreneurship and the future.

He said that if a person wants to succeed, people with low emotional intelligence can't manage a group of people with high IQ. People with high IQ are difficult to manage. You must rely on emotional intelligence to manage them.

He said that the so-called way of management is nothing more than the way of being a man.

Great achievements depend on virtue. People who are kind and virtuous have great knowledge, a big mind and a big pattern, and are often the most ruthless roles in the business world.

In fact, not only in the workplace, but also in life, it will be more pleasant to get along with people with high emotional intelligence.

I remember Bo Huang and Tong Liya mispronounced their names at an award ceremony. After the performance, Huang Bofa Weibo responded:

"Limited ability and great pressure. Before playing, I joked that I shouldn't make a mistake like last time, and silently recited all my names ... as a result ..."

I also laugh at myself: how many meals does it take to settle this?

In order to apologize to Tong Liya, he also attached two beautiful photos of Ya Ya and a photo of himself and Ya Ya.

Then Yaya also responded with high emotional intelligence: "You just called out my previous name."

The original embarrassing things did not cause any discomfort, but made people marvel at their resilience and high emotional intelligence.

Some people think that people with high emotional intelligence just hide their emotions too well for others to understand.

In fact, high emotional intelligence is not good at concealing one's emotions, but good at managing one's emotions.

People with high emotional intelligence usually face their emotions directly, experience and adjust them, so as to control disturbing emotions.

As ordinary people, we can't change the deficiency of IQ, so we should try our best to improve our EQ, at least don't let it hold us back.