This means that some suggestions in this article are not suitable for boys. If you are a boy reading this, you can turn off the webpage and shout, and then continue to go higher, but it's not bad to look down-girls work so hard and know yourself.
About learning: knowing what you want is more important than learning professional courses well.
This is not to say that specialized courses are unimportant, but there is something more important than it: you must know what you want. If both freshmen and sophomores develop vertically in the same mold, then juniors will face the problem of horizontal selection. Are you going abroad? Postgraduate entrance examination? Employment? Start a business? Or are you determined to graduate and marry a good husband to support you? There is always pressure to mention these words, so am I, but the reality has to be faced, just one step earlier and one step later. Instead of pulling a long face and forcing yourself to go to Liangshan, it is better to plan ahead and be happy.
Of course, professional courses must be studious, although they may not focus on it, especially in the next semester of junior year. I do well in specialized courses because I know what I want. This is not only my obligation as a student, but also a necessary and sufficient condition for me to realize my dream. To give a simple example, for example, if you want to graduate and study abroad, and you are sure to go to France, then you know that you will go shopping at GMAT, and you will go shopping to buy a "grade point" when applying for a school. So you are still studying hard and taking professional courses, but you have a clear goal, although you know very well that you will never use these things again in your life.
Either you want to take the postgraduate entrance examination, or you don't have to push graduate students, so nervous every day. Maybe your postgraduate major has nothing to do with your undergraduate major. Maybe you don't want to do anything in this major all your life, but you should remember that it is definitely not a bad thing to be a good student first. Secondly, under certain circumstances, there will always be more choices for good students than bad students. Remember to leave yourself a way out, don't put all your eggs in one basket.
That's all I have to say about learning, but there is still one sentence that must be said: If you haven't decided what to do in the future, learn your professional courses well first! Don't worry about others. Those who suddenly like to skip class or even come to school in their junior year often deal with things that are more important to them. These things may be very valuable short-term internships or interviews. They may apply for visas to take the TOEFL test, or even prepare graduate students' papers to see their tutors ... Don't learn to giggle with others and don't come to school together. While learning from others to make "cold persimmons", first consider whether you are qualified to make "cold persimmons".
About the exam: you have to remember that you are not alone. I don't mean in the examination room. I have always opposed cheating.
As can be seen from the separation of examination and study, I don't think that the university examination is about knowledge. If you take the freshman and sophomore exams, you can "close the door" for a month and wait for death, or you can choose to brush the papers at McDonald's all night. As long as you are willing to study hard and give up coffee, your grades and scholarships will certainly smile at you. However, the junior exam is by no means as simple as one's own, because it is inefficient and really, really tired.
There are two common types of primary exams: paper (report) submission or closed-book answer. Let's talk about the first one, which is not much contact between freshmen and sophomores: paper submission. Perhaps some people disdain and think that their papers have always been good, so there is no need to teach them. However, you have tried a paper week, and you have to hand in six major papers in six courses at the same time. Each paper has to do market research, data analysis, questionnaire survey and business principles. Everyone needs a small A4 paper with more than 20 pages (the most one has written 39 pages), and more importantly, these papers are written in English ... You will feel dizzy and want to kill yourself with jelly in an instant. What about swelling? ! What about swelling? ! Worrying is not the way, nor is it the way to reduce the quality of the paper. The key is to learn teamwork. Remember, never read this sentence, it will save your life at the critical moment.
As for the closed-book answer, I only share one thing here: I am proud that my classmates have great "sharing habits", such as the international trade exam, such as finance, which is one week ahead of schedule, and there are great children's shoes in the QQ group to "enjoy" the exam. Moreover, students will continue to improve, and eventually they will produce "Complete Edition of Examination Summary", "Proofreading Edition of Examination Summary" and "Supplementary Edition of Examination Summary" ... All in all, it is very harmonious! If your class doesn't have such a "sharing habit", don't complain that your class is not good. Everyone is selfish. Let's review how much we have done. You have to believe that people are emotional animals. Give people roses, leave lingering fragrance in their hands, and no one contributes. Why aren't you the first sponsor?
About exercises: It is better to do quality exercises than to abuse them.
This sentence has attracted the most criticism. Too many people have a negative attitude towards what they have learned in college. They think it's better to go out early to practice, even if they work in KFC or McDonald's, even if they distribute leaflets for sales. I don't deny that it may be an important part for some majors, but for most people (especially girls), don't waste your life on these low-level "internships" because the opportunity cost is too high and not worth it.
I have never worked in McDonald's or KFC or Pizza Hut, and I have never done any promotional activities or short-term waitresses. On the other hand, it's a pity, but I'd rather it continue to regret. In the era of knowledge economy, we should pay attention to "strategy", methods and opportunity cost. Remember to listen to a senior speaker of the media alliance in colleges and universities (4-year undergraduate GPA first, weighted first, total score first, ranked first, and student work achieved N student representatives in XX province, and at the same time went to the State Council Press Office for internship). Then someone asked him why he was so awesome. He said that he just reversed some schedules, studied and published his own works with peace of mind when others were doing student work, and began to customize clubs and student work leisurely when others were busy studying. So "highlight" (dislocation competition) a little bit of success. This sentence inspired me a lot.
My first internship was formal, translating and sorting out CCTV-news programs from CCTV Audio-Visual Archive. At that time, I was only a junior. I went there four times a week from September to June, two and a half days on Wednesday and Friday, and all day on Saturday and Sunday. Before that, I just did a few short-term part-time jobs as a translator, and sent a message of part-time translation on the Internet. Only interested parties called. And after each brief translation, I will write "summary notes", from the Summer Palace to the conference room to the international exhibition center, from three days to one week a day, from ordinary conversation to business exchange to exhibition translation, and the price ranges from 100 to 300 to 400 a day.
I would rather choose 800 interpreters for two days, check the information and prepare for half an evening; I don't want to sacrifice a month to serve at McDonald's on Saturday and Sunday, because I know what I want, so I don't have to spend time blindly practicing this habit. Don't think how profound the translation is, the key is whether you dare to do it. So, thank you for your translation, on the one hand, because I practiced interpretation at that time (I also worked as a translator, but I didn't think it was worth it), and on the other hand, because I basically didn't take living expenses from home since my junior year. Last year's scholarship+translation work+occasional manuscript fee is almost enough. Of course, enough is enough. Don't tire yourself out (especially girls) just to prove that you don't take money from home. No parent is short of such small money. In the long run, health is the capital of revolution. Don't use your little self-esteem in this respect.
However, there is one more thing. How was it made at that time? This is the theory mentioned earlier. When others go to McDonald's on Saturday and Sunday, I will learn Japanese, drink tea and watch literature, art, philosophy and aesthetics. In the morning, others get up in a warm quilt. I get up at four o'clock to do my homework and go out to practice my oral English against the wall at six o'clock. When others start studying at night, I make time to do news, magazines and articles in the club.
Far from the point, but still a word: it is best to have a quality internship, know what you want and need, and then try to do something.
About reading: if you read too many books, pies will really fall from the sky. If you don't hit someone, you will be hit.
I really have too much to say about the chapter on reading. Let me sum up that all the opportunities and seemingly lucky now are largely due to reading.
Here I would like to thank two teachers in particular: one is Lao Xing, who said that girls must read more books, historical masterpieces and biographies, especially biographies of famous women. I am a good boy. Although I dare not say how many historical classics I have read, I have really worked hard to read many biographies, especially those of famous women since my freshman year. From Lin, from Wang Zhaojun to Wu Zetian, from Jacqueline to Diana, even Marilyn Monroe and even Audrey Hepburn. Everything I like, or I have a long, long, long, long, long time. I have a large number of such biographies from the library, and I will read them through every night before going to bed. Even if I only learn a little from them, I will have amazing power. This is a shortcut to cultivate temperament, which is much more important than reading those best-selling books such as 20 things girls should do.
There is another person, I have to thank very much, my master Lao Yang. If Lao Xing's inspiration taught me how to cultivate elegance (not only externally), then Lao Yang's teaching taught me how to be a woman with a strong heart, heavy and weighty, and let the inner information radiate through every pore. I still remember Lao Yang's email to me: Read more! Read more books! Read more books! This is not a simple juxtaposition. I benefited a lot from it. Under the influence of Lao Yang, I began to regain the long-lost traditional culture of China. Starting with Mencius, which is popular among young people, I began to make a lot of reading notes. No matter how busy I am, I always take time to "photosynthesis" (a very emotional study) to accept "photosynthesis", ask for a pot of tea, and quietly read those traditional cultures that have been shelved, for nothing but to cultivate a strong and profound heart, which has nothing to do with any career in the future, but is related to it. When each of my book reviews is turned into a feather, carefully matched with music and put on, it is the wing of singing.
The purpose of reading can be simple, just out of love or not. But I can honestly say that there was a time when the purpose of my study was definitely not simple-just to find the same topic when making overseas calls. I'm not afraid of jokes. A year ago, in order to have dinner with a boy I like, I even reread Zhu Guangqian's Aesthetics all night. Of course, I won't do such a stupid thing now. Like, naturally have something to say. I don't like it. I'm born beautiful and talented. It's no use reciting Zhu Guangqian's aesthetics.
But for whatever reason, I read a lot of books in my junior year, which can't be summarized by benefiting a lot at once. It doesn't matter why you did it, the point is that you really did it for this reason.
I almost forgot the title of this chapter: if you read too many books, you will really lose pies in the sky. If you don't hit someone, you will be hit. How to smash it? Please see the next chapter about temperament.
About temperament: temperament is a woman's passport, which has nothing to do with beauty.
From beginning to end, I feel that my appearance is very ordinary, and ordinary can no longer be ordinary, if I only look at my face. There are many beautiful women who are tall, thin and long, but only one is graceful.
I am very, very grateful to my parents for sending me to learn ballet, practice soft pen and play accordion. But these are just external forms, and this so-called "elegance" can't be said-I have seen countless ballet beauties with excellent walking temperament outside, so don't say it, full of stubble (of course, there are many temperament beauties who are both internal and external, and my daughter is envious). No wonder Zhou Dunyi lamented that "it is not ridiculous to look at it from a distance."
Reading is inner cultivation, and inner cultivation is the main component of temperament cultivation. Countless destinies and opportunities have a lot to do with reading. It is said that opportunities favor people who are prepared, but I think opportunities always favor people who have something on their minds. The "interior material" comes from reading, from art and from temperament (especially for girls). At this point, in fact, I didn't deliberately, or once later, I went out to do business with a school girl, and then I met XX of XX unit at the venue, talked about XX and asked me if I was interested. I didn't care too much. My junior inadvertently sighed and said how can you always see pies falling from the sky and no one hits you? I was confused at that time, and I had never been so sober. Now think about it carefully, many opportunities come from less than a minute of greeting when you exchange business cards with others. In such a short time, you rarely even talk, and you are not even busy introducing yourself. However, all your gestures, smiles and words are just sales promotion. Only when your heart is really strong can you do this. "Silence is better than sound" cannot be forged. I still have a long way to go, just pay attention to those predecessors, sincerely impressed and ashamed.
Of course, you can also find opportunities to "practice your hands" occasionally, but don't be betrayed. I really appreciate the three-year experience as a school media reporter. No matter what background, major or age, I will find a topic to chat with him/her, and I will talk about a topic in depth, so that it is out of stock. Of course, no matter who the other person is, first of all, don't frown because someone doesn't understand your topic, because you should always believe that there is a specialization in the industry. Second, no matter who the other person is, don't underestimate yourself. Oriental women's attitude is modest, but they should have a supercilious attitude.
I have always appreciated Yi Shu's words: A lady with real temperament never shows off everything. She doesn't tell people how many books she has read, where she has been, how many clothes she has and how many jewels she has-because she has no sense of inferiority.
Cultivating temperament is like boiling soup medicine. It is useless to wait until the heat is over. If I can't learn, just keep it true. If I had to choose between the east and the plain, I would rather face the sky.
Bad temperament is not bad. Only suitable and unsuitable. Just like shoes, you don't have to pursue size, what suits you is. Sometimes, a temperament only loves one person.
About hobbies: not for temperament, but for not being lonely. Lonely people are easy to get cheap.
The last thing I remember about Mr. Xiao Ka's course on international commercial law is a passage unrelated to commercial law: Xiao Ka said that when she was a graduate student, she switched to business and gave up literature because her family and friends advised her that business was more "practical". However, when I grow up, I find that art is actually the most "practical" thing-at least for girls. When you are lonely, desperate, lost and sad, you will never think of looking for International Business Law, but the first thing that comes to mind is literature, music, dance, painting, sports … these artistic things. Only they will always be with you and never give up.
Find a real passion and stick to it all your life, not for temperament, but to make yourself not lonely. Lonely people are easy to get cheap, especially girls.
About friends: But do good, the future of Mo Wen, don't think this sentence is vulgar.
I once asked a person why you were so kind to me. He said, because you deserve me to be so kind to you. You care about your friends because they deserve it. Don't make friends with "utilitarian" people, it will make you feel uncomfortable all over, just like smelling car exhaust. I did meet some people and set myself the goal of how many new people to meet each year, how many business cards to exchange, who to contact regularly every month, and how to accumulate contacts in each activity ... Maybe he is really not tired and enjoys it. I really hope so. If a person drinks water, he knows a lot about water.
Don't think you have the right to pry into anyone's privacy, no matter how good your girlfriend/brother/lover is. Care about them, enough is enough. Once something unfamiliar happens, it is really difficult to heal, and it is superficial courtesy to get familiar with it later. Don't ask too many details when friends need you. He/she will come to you if he/she wants to tell you. Tell him/her that I'm on duty 24 hours a day. If you need me to call, I'm always here.
Forgive for hurting/betraying your friends over time, but don't forget.
About love: don't change yourself easily for anyone.
Last year, in "Several Things to Do as a Sophomore", I finally said that I was going to have a relationship, but I really did badly and didn't have much to say. This year, I think we should make up for this regret.
My master told me not to change myself for anyone. He/she loves you because you are you. Once you are not you, he/she will stop loving you. More importantly, even if he/she leaves, you won't be too sad because you are still you.
Master said that people who attach great importance to feelings are often emotional. Always have a moving heart, but don't get emotional easily. The last thing that hurts is the internal organs, and it hurts yourself.
Don't ask him deliberately, do you love me? If he loves you, he will love himself. If he doesn't love, what if he lied to him? Love is like sand. The tighter you hold it, the faster it slides. As Master said, if he has you in his heart, he will be by your side. If you are not in my heart, what's the use of keeping him?
There is no fairness on the emotional balance. There was once a woman in her writing kingdom who lamented in the tone of others that "it is difficult to win the battle if you care so much".
"Shi" is a verb, so both words have intention. But always believe in love and true love. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, remember to call him/her when singing "Warmth" in KTV, and sing to him/her "Love someone, wish him/her a good life, treat him sincerely, and ask for nothing in return" on the phone.
Originally, I finally finished writing, but I thought of reading someone's diary yesterday about his criteria for future girlfriends. I have just read a few articles, and I am already laughing: to be beautiful ... to have high artistic attainments ... to be able to sing, dance, learn and understand is necessary ... to have knowledge and independent knowledge ... to have club experience, the higher the level, the better, so as to understand his difficulties. ...
I especially wanted to tell him at that time, sir, you are a girlfriend. Looking at modern China, I am afraid that only two people can barely qualify: one is Lin; One is Song Meiling. Unfortunately, these two people have two things in common: first, they are married; Second, they are all dead.
Some people may think that this summary and recommendation of junior year is very verbose, because it is really something that comes to mind. Although I am 20 years old, I have to learn to mature slowly.
Someone asked, Jing Ya, are you afraid of getting old? I said, afraid, but not afraid. First, it's no use being afraid. Second, there is a saying in the Biography of Wu Zetian that those who show the monarch by color are short and those who show the monarch by talent are long. I believe that even if I am old, I will be an elegant old lady.