Chatting with several colleagues at the weekend, everyone complained incessantly. Some come from the contradiction with friends in life, some come from the discord and troubles between family and relatives, and some come from the pressure at work, always doing something unrelated to the nature of work. This has led to long-term depression, and I am not in the mood to work and live, let alone develop my career. I was deeply involved in this situation, and now it's ridiculous to look back on it. In fact, there is nothing in life that you get for nothing.

Life is a process of experience, in which we constantly accumulate and grow. No matter who and what we meet, he will become a valuable asset in our life. How can you see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain, and how can you cherish happiness without trudging?

1. Ms. Zheng Mingming, the chairman of Hong Kong Monita Group who won the title of "International Beauty Godmother", felt that she had experienced a major setback in her career when talking about her success. At that time, her "Lady" cosmetics opened the market in Indonesia, but a fire destroyed the warehouse where cosmetics were stored, which not only consumed old money, but also owed a lot of debts to the bank. At that time, Zheng Mingming felt that life was extremely unfair to her, and she was immersed in complaints all day, not eating or drinking. Just when she was extremely pessimistic, she remembered the "tumbler theory" taught by her father. A whole year later, she led the team to overcome difficulties again and again. In the end, she paid off all the debts of the bank and her savings gradually became rich.

Frustration seems to be a necessity in life, and people who experience setbacks will become talents. Everyone will experience many setbacks in his life, and his cognitive level and attitude towards setbacks determine his future development.

2. During the Spring Festival holiday, my cousin will come back to complain to me when she comes home. She wants to change her job and feels unhappy at work. I said, "Huh? I don't know how many people envy your work! White-collar workers are well paid, and how many recent college students can't even find a job, be realistic. "

"Elder sister, you don't know, the personnel of the unit is too complicated. I work with a laptop and have never had a conflict with a colleague, but I just don't understand why some people are hostile to me and always deliberately make trouble to slander me. . . . . . "Cousin a face of helplessness.

I said, "You are at work. How does the leader evaluate you? "

My cousin said, "Actually, the leader should give me a good evaluation. Compared with several colleagues who have joined the company at the same time, I have received two salary increases in three years and have been promoted to team leader. The management has more than a dozen employees. "

I finally understand my cousin's situation. Once upon a time, I experienced something similar.

The most painful thing for people in the workplace is that they are not welcomed by individual colleagues under heavy work pressure, even those who are willing to incite colleagues to crowd you out, especially newcomers. It is extremely dangerous to "show off" too early, at least it will put them in a passive position. Although full of enthusiasm, I feel that I can make a big difference, but I find that cold arrows are everywhere, and the reality is not optimistic.

I said to my cousin, "this is a common occurrence, and the workplace is a taboo place." First of all, look at yourself, straighten your social role and adjust your mentality. Being in a new environment requires us to keep a low profile and be a low profile person. Be diligent in everything, respect the leaders and colleagues who work together, communicate more, and face the work modestly and cautiously. If you don't understand anything in your work, you should consult others humbly. If you make a mistake, don't pass the buck. You should take the initiative to confess and bear it. Go to work with a smile every day, leave work with a smile, and adjust your state from time to time, giving people a positive impression of being full of energy and vitality.

Secondly, he is not tough and kind. No matter how experienced or talented you are, you must not go overboard in your work. Being kind to others is the first key.

Third, don't be weak and improve your working ability. Although you can't be tough, don't be weak enough to give up your rights and learn the art of using the word "no" As long as you use the right method, your colleagues will think that you are a principled person and will respect you more. Let colleagues know more about your good. Learn to be patient, give others more tolerance, and you will get more tolerance.

Although I haven't heard my cousin's complaints since the Spring Festival, my cousin is still working in the unit, and perhaps all this confusion has long been eliminated.

"The wood in the forest is beautiful, and the wind will be destroyed; When people are above the crowd, everyone will be embarrassed. " Only after experience will you understand this truth. Modesty, low-key, being kind to others, not weak, and improving your ability in silence is a kind of wisdom.

3. In the community where I live, there is an elder sister who is considerate of her lover everywhere in her life, caring and accommodating in every way, never quarreling, and others cast envious eyes. Because she and I are colleagues and have a common topic, we often chat together. In a chat, I found that my sister and the present are getting married for the second time.

/kloc-0 0 years ago, my sister had a failed marriage. Her ex-husband has a bad temper, does nothing, and likes drinking. Every time she gets drunk, she becomes drunk. Every time she was persuaded, it led to domestic violence again and again, and finally she chose to divorce. It was not until she met her present husband, a man with culture, self-cultivation, love and consideration that she rekindled her hope for marriage. It is because of her previous painful experience that she will cherish her present happiness.

Yes, life is bittersweet, changeable and bumpy. Although no one's life can use computers to build a good trajectory of life, when to do what, when not to do what, what is useful for career and what is not good for life, what is certain is that all life experiences are a kind of accumulation, and they are all expanding the width of life. Just like a galloping horse, it took thousands of miles of Qian Shan to have the romance of Wan Li galloping; After ten years of hard study, you have the fullness of knowledge; Adult silkworms climb out of their shells through experience. Only wings can sing, spread their wings and fly to the top of swaying branches instantly.

Nothing in life is done for nothing. How do you know the mellow and strong liquor without drinking it? How do you know that Pu 'er tea is mellow and soft without tasting it? How do you know the sweetness of bananas if you haven't eaten ripe bananas? How do you know that prices are rising without going to the market to buy vegetables? How can we know the value of happiness without sadness? How can you know the fragrance of laughter if you don't cry?

Life is full of ups and downs. In this process, it is painful and mature, happy and fulfilling. Isn't this great?

I just want to do what I like in my limited life, live a happy life and meet myself better!