This bosom friend "mother gives birth, grandma raises, dad goes online when he goes home, grandpa goes to the vegetable market every day, and grandparents enjoy it." It is often difficult for young parents to take care of their children and work, so intergenerational education has played a positive role and become a common phenomenon in today's society. However, the model of intergenerational education in which grandparents take care of their grandchildren also has disadvantages-too much care for children, too obedient, too conniving at making mistakes, so children are more fearless under protection. This is the legendary doting, and it is also a problem that intergenerational education has to correct.

Disadvantages of intergenerational education

1, spoil your baby too much and hinder your baby's self-growth.

Spoiling and paying too much attention to the baby, so that everything is done for him, and the baby is accommodated everywhere, leading to problems such as willfulness, strong dependence and low self-care ability.

2, causing family conflicts, leading to parent-child estrangement.

For a baby, parents are his most important relatives. If his parents can't stay with him, he will easily feel abandoned and leave a shadow in his heart. In addition, the baby lives with grandparents or grandparents since childhood and is used to accepting their protection and accommodation. It is also possible to develop some behavior habits that parents can't get used to, and it is very easy for parents and babies to have opposing emotions. This kind of opposition will make the baby more alienated from his parents and retreat to his grandparents. If grandparents come forward to stop dad from "teaching" his grandson, family conflicts between grandparents and dad will be further aroused because of the baby's education problems.

3. Stick to old ideas and hinder the baby's personality development.

Many grandparents are backward in their educational concepts and lack a correct understanding of the characteristics of their babies' psychological development. In addition, many old people have outdated knowledge, relatively rigid thinking, rigid view of things, easy to get stuck in dust, and adopt an overly traditional way to educate their babies. Then, their backward education mode will affect the baby's speed of accepting new knowledge, leading to the baby's lack of awareness of creative thinking and divergent thinking.

Benefits of intergenerational education

1, the old man's mentality is relatively peaceful.

Grandparents have left the competitive social environment and their mentality is relatively peaceful. In addition, the elderly have childlike psychology, which makes them particularly fond of babies. They are more likely to integrate into the games of young babies and establish a relatively harmonious relationship with them, which provides them with a very relaxed and harmonious psychological foundation for implementing correct education.

2. Have more life experience.

Grandparents have rich practical experience in raising and educating babies, and have a more accurate understanding of the development characteristics of babies at all stages, especially when babies are sick or encounter other problems, and they know what to do. This way of doing things by grandparents will give the baby more sense of security, and also give parents a kind of psychological support, which will play a very positive role in solving these problems.

3. Solved worries for young parents.

Grandparents' love for their grandchildren is irreplaceable by any child care institution or nanny. They can provide the best psychological support for the baby and give the baby enough sense of security. Their participation has also laid a solid support for young parents to join the work. It is particularly worth mentioning that the participation of grandparents makes up for the lack of father or mother in the single-parent family, provides the baby with the object of gender imitation, and also provides the baby with the opportunity to learn to get along with the opposite sex, which invisibly gives the baby a correct and complete gender awareness education, which has far-reaching significance for the healthy development of the baby's sexual psychology.

4. Inherit excellent cultural traditions.

The Chinese nation has many excellent cultural traditions and virtues, which are of great significance to the sustainable development of China. Under the influence of western culture, these excellent cultural traditions and virtues are gradually disappearing or losing their original flavor.

In addition, grandparents are generally more patient, able to calm down and listen to the baby's voice and communicate with the baby more, so as to better understand and meet the baby's needs. In addition, they have enough time and energy to contribute to the baby, which makes the baby have substantial protection in life care and personal safety. Not only that, the social experience and life perception accumulated by ancestors in long-term life practice also have a subtle positive impact on the growth of grandchildren.