(1) grandparents and parents coordinate communication and unify their thinking and understanding.

Every generation of education and parental education have their own advantages and disadvantages. To solve these problems, two generations of parents need to work together. Grandpa, grandma and dad should communicate more, learn from each other, and learn from each other to educate their children. We should try our best to reach an agreement on raising children.

For example, in eating, because grandparents have more time to cook for their children, one or two children's "patented dishes" often appear on the table; Children will take it for granted that this is "mine" and will not allow others to "get their hands on it". Once violated, they will cry and make a scene. At this time, if parents remind the elderly that no matter how young their children are, learning to be happy with others is more important than anything else. Never let children form the bad habit of eating alone.

For example, grandparents take care of their children's lives more, which is easy to cause children to get something for nothing. It is very important to cultivate children's self-care ability as soon as possible, let them undertake housework as much as they can, especially learn to serve others consciously, which is very important to cultivate children's practical ability. When parents educate their children, grandparents must not interfere, and strive to safeguard the authority of parents, so that children will not be xenophobic and know how to respect their parents. To make full use of the advantages of intergenerational parenting and parental parenting, two generations often discuss ways to raise children and create a harmonious and open family environment for children.

(2) Grandparents should pay attention to accept new ideas, learn new knowledge, and try to raise and educate their children with modern scientific knowledge. According to the newspaper, there is an "intergenerational parent school" in Liaoning Province, where more than 800 grandfathers, grandmothers, grandfathers and grandmothers have studied successively, with remarkable results. More and more elderly students are willing to come here to study.

For "every generation parents", whether they have the opportunity to study specially or not, they should really consciously learn new knowledge. Especially in cultivating children's ideas, the elderly must keep pace with the times, such as how to make children develop morally, intellectually, physically and aesthetically, instead of simply taking care of their lives and urging them to learn cultural classes. Special attention should be paid to instilling honesty and legal concepts in children, and earnestly cultivating their good qualities of respecting the old and caring for the young, loving labor, being diligent and thrifty, and being brave in innovation.

Accepting lifelong learning is a process for the elderly to maintain their vitality, keep their spiritual youth forever, study hard and improve themselves. If the elderly want to be "parents of the next generation", they must keep in touch with and learn new knowledge and new things. In order to play a positive role in the healthy growth of children.

(3) Grandparents should control their feelings with reason, distinguish between love and doting, and love moderately. Correct love is conducive to the healthy growth of children. We should also actively create opportunities for children to have more contact with their parents and dredge their feelings. Two generations should work together to create a harmonious and warm family atmosphere conducive to family education.

(4) Young parents should first have a correct attitude, no matter how busy they are, they should take time to spend with their children, and don't give their children's education and custody to grandparents-this is irresponsible to their children. Children should put the elderly first, and don't burden them. Raising children is your responsibility, not the responsibility of the elderly.

(5) Parents should inspire their children to take care of their ancestors and cultivate their sense of responsibility. There was a father whose wife was in poor health, and he himself had to go to other places to take office. Before leaving, he told his son, "I'm going to work in other places and I won't come back for a year." I will ask you to take care of my mother. " Please close the doors and windows and the gas tank before going to bed every night. "The son readily agreed. A year later, when my father came back, his wife told him that the children had changed a lot since they left. "My son cares about me. "

From this story, we can get enlightenment that having old people at home is the best opportunity to educate children. Give the children to the elderly and let them care about the children. It is better to give the old man to the child and let the child care about the old man. When caring and being cared for are reversed, the relationship will change. Once a child finds the object he cares about, his sense of responsibility will be enhanced.