First of all, the main question is:
1, pride is serious. I don't pay enough attention to the basic questions. I think I will understand what the teacher says repeatedly, and I despise it ideologically. I don't pay attention to the class and my homework is sloppy.
2. Lack of consciousness and a sense of urgency should be strengthened. The time utilization rate is not high, the learning consciousness is poor, and it is not active.
3, three minutes of heat, perseverance is not enough, laziness is still more serious in some people.
4. Do not pay attention to the systematic arrangement of knowledge of various courses; Or do not pay attention to understand the wrong questions in practice and training, and do the work of checking and filling the gaps; Or just concentrate on the homework assigned by the teacher, don't delve into it, don't ask the teacher in time if you don't understand the problem, or just be satisfied with your ignorance, and your ability level can't be improved.
5, the pressure is too heavy, blindly study hard, will not arrange time reasonably, will not rest, often listless in class, so get twice the result with half the effort, not worth the candle.
Third, what should parents do at this time?
What is the purpose of our sitting together today? Is to discuss how to help children get one more point on the original basis.
Although we say that a point doesn't mean anything at all, it doesn't mean that a person is smart or stupid and has no ability. But it means whether you can get into an ideal high school, whether a child or even a family can change your destiny, it indicates your future identity, whether you are unemployed, a farmer, a worker, an urban white-collar worker or an urban proletariat, and it indicates a completely different life. This determines whether it is 1 10,000 yuan or 20,000, 30,000 or even more; This score determines whether you can attend a prestigious class or a key class, which means that you can meet better teachers and receive better high school education.
But how to get this precious point? In all fairness, the role of parents is very limited and can't help much. However, parents' attitudes and emotions often have a great influence on candidates. If we are too anxious, we can only bring rebellious psychology and negative influence to our children. Therefore, although the children's senior high school entrance examination is an important event, parents should maintain a calm state of mind and an optimistic and stable mood, which is more important than anything else. The following suggestions, I hope to have some inspiration for the parents of candidates.
(1) First of all, we must understand the child's psychology. Students in Grade Three have a heavy learning burden and a heavy psychological burden. They are easy to shake their self-confidence and are generally negative emotionally with slight twists and turns.
We say that in modern society, a person's diligence, perseverance, self-confidence and good behavior habits are important factors for success. Without the full accumulation of normal study, students can't do well in the exam. Similarly, without positive, confident and stable psychology, students can't play normally in the examination room. Therefore, before the senior high school entrance examination, we'd better help children reduce stress and build up self-confidence.
We should help children overcome exam anxiety. If we act more nervous than the candidate, the situation will be very bad. Some parents ask candidates about their review or exams every day, especially the scores and rankings of mock exams. This is also very inappropriate for junior three students. Candidates often have conflicts with their parents: the exam is my own business, so don't ask, it's annoying!
Parents should make it clear that the family is not a school, let alone an examination room, and it is best not to talk too much about exams at home. When children are trying to prepare for the senior high school entrance examination, the family should be a safe haven for children to relax comfortably and a rest and relaxation station. If the child feels tired because of hard work, parents should also remind him to reduce some study time before the exam. Let the children eat well, sleep well and recharge their batteries. There is no need for more special care for children. Even if you supplement your child with nutrition, it is best to "not show the mountains and not show the dew", and pay attention to your child to "moisten things quietly". Before and during the middle school entrance examination, the family especially needs peace. As long as everything is normal, it is the best support for children. Perhaps, keeping a low profile can really help children get extra points. When children feel relaxed, the learning effect will be better, and when they feel the full warmth of their families, they will be more motivated.
(2) Parents can mainly do:
1, guide children to exercise properly and keep healthy. At present, many candidates suffer from "test anxiety" to varying degrees. The crux lies in "reading sage books wholeheartedly" and their life arrangements are too monotonous. There is a famous formula: "8- 1 > 8", which means 1 hour for exercise, entertainment or rest from 8 hours. Although you only study for 7 hours, the efficiency is better than studying for 8 hours. In addition, walking in the evening, listening to music and watching the news are all helpful to adjust emotions and relieve stress.
2. Remind candidates to arrange their work and rest time reasonably, don't burn the midnight oil and adjust their living habits. For candidates, it is very important to have a regular life and study, form a conditioned reflex, and let themselves enter the best state in a day. Especially before the exam, you can consciously go to bed a few minutes earlier than the night before and adjust gradually.
3. Create a warm and peaceful family environment, dilute the tense atmosphere, talk and laugh with children or exercise together. Communicate psychologically with candidates, pay attention to children's inner world, and be a "mental health worker" for children.
4. Give children confidence and courage, give them trust and encouragement, and be their spiritual pillar. After reviewing every day, candidates will affirm their little gains by recalling the gains of the day, such as "What did I do right today" and "What loopholes did I find today", so as to adjust their mood and welcome the senior high school entrance examination with a good attitude.
(3) Pay attention to several things to avoid:
Don't expect too much. Many parents have unrealistic expectations for their children, and like to talk about "how many points should they take" and "what school should they go to". But they don't know that this will not only not inspire children, but will make them more pessimistic and anxious, causing unnecessary psychological pressure on them. Therefore, for parents, the first task is to correctly understand their children's situation. You might as well tell your child, "Just try your best!"
(2) avoid creating tension. In order to help their children supervise the war, some parents deliberately create a pre-test state of "first-level combat readiness", such as taking time off to do "full-time logistics" at home and never turning on TV at night. In fact, doing so will make children feel depressed, bored and "suffocated". It is wise for parents to do their best, and at the same time try to avoid incidents that have a negative impact on children's psychology, such as husband and wife quarrels and neighborhood conflicts, and create a warm and relaxed family atmosphere.
(3) Avoid hitting children's self-confidence. Self-confidence can enable candidates to play their existing level to the best extent. In the pre-test stage, parents should encourage and affirm their children, and don't criticize and accuse them easily. When a child fails in a pre-test test, blindly scolding will only make the child more insecure and even give up on himself. At this time, it is best for parents to communicate with teachers and children to find out the reasons for the failure and help children get out of the shadow of failure as soon as possible.
(4) avoid nagging. Some parents always say, "You have to work harder!" In front of their children. "You must do well in the exam!" Wait, it is easy for children to have rebellious psychology and increase their ideological burden. You have this nagging ability, you might as well tell your child a joke to relax his nerves.
We don't have to turn down the sound just because our children are in the middle school entrance examination, unplug the telephone line, turn on the TV, and cook a lot of dishes every day. In fact, we can greet our children home with a smile every day and send them out with a smile to be your real parents.
Dear parents and friends, the time before the middle school entrance examination is limited. It's quite a myth to make a surprising leap in children's grades in such a short time. We should create a harmonious and pleasant atmosphere for our children. Because the mood will directly affect the study efficiency and test scores of candidates, "moderate tension" is the best state. In this state, candidates will be confident, calm, focused, sharp-minded and accurate in answering questions.