Parents often lose their temper with their children and even fight. Although this behavior may not cause much harm to the child's body, it will cause irreversible damage to the child's brain.

Because our brain is composed of the following parts:

(1) neocortex (neobrain). The neocortex, also known as the consciousness layer, is in charge of knowledge, emotion and domination, and it is a place to judge good and evil, control behavior, express knowledge and rationality, and convey emotions. Compared with humans, the neocortex of animal brain is underdeveloped.

(2) Old cortex (old brain). The old cortex is called the foundation of latent consciousness, the source of memory, understanding, creativity and motivation, and the foundation of innate instinct, which dominates appetite, sexual desire and group desire.

(3) brain stem. The brain stem is called the foundation of life, which dominates the internal organs and regulates the tissues of various parts of the body.

Nagging and criticism will stimulate the neocortex, and neocortex (consciousness layer) and old cortex (potential consciousness basis) cannot move at the same time. If we think about a friend's appearance with our heart, it may not last long, but if we don't think about it deliberately, our friend's face will emerge unconsciously and clearly. This is because my friend's face already exists in my subconscious, but I can't think about it with my heart. It is this activity that destroys the subconscious reflection.

If the child is restless, irritable, distrustful and alert, the neocortex will hinder the development of the old cortex because of excessive activity, and the child's memory, understanding and creativity will slow down, thus losing motivation. Take an extreme example: when a person is extremely scared, although he wants to escape, he will be too scared to move. This is because the surge of fear has inhibited the activity of the old cortex. The same is true of stage fright in public.

The so-called "a dutiful son is born with a stick" has never been heard of "a talent is born with a stick". With the development of artificial intelligence in the future, people who are not creative may become "useless classes" and fall into the bottom of society.

So, stop saying "I'm not doing it for your own good". Studying psychology and pedagogy seriously is a responsible behavior for children.