Family education is the most direct and effective education for children, so parents should be responsible for educating their children. Now many parents entrust their children to their grandparents to take care of their lives and work. Grandparents love each other and do all the housework for them, even the simplest washing dishes and sweeping the floor are not allowed to be done by children, so they have developed the habit of reaching for clothes to eat. In this way, you may form the habit of relaxing and hating work, and take what others do for him for granted, and you have no gratitude. The starting point of doting is love, but the final result is hate. When grandparents want to take care of their children, they can't take care of them.
Parents can't spoil their children. The company of parents is the biggest worry. Guide children to establish a correct outlook on life, world outlook and life values. "The influence of adult personality is the most useful sunshine for young people that nothing can replace." Therefore, parents should subtly influence their children with their good words and deeds, good living habits and study habits, excellent moral sentiments and sense of responsibility, feelings at home and abroad, and lofty ideals and ambitions ... Now some parents just give people the feeling that "Laozi is a hero". It is someone else's fault that the child has been wronged. When the child was criticized by the teacher, he went to school to "uphold justice" until the teacher obeyed and apologized in front of his father and son. There is a great momentum that the tiger's ass can't touch. As everyone knows, it is leading children to a wrong path.
School education is a supplement to family education. The baton of the senior high school entrance examination also makes the school ignore the education of ideological and moral character. Although the school also carries out some necessary moral education, compared with vigorous knowledge learning, it is a bit dwarfed. Teenagers pursue "the sound of reading in the wind and rain, and the sound is in their ears", that is, "night light chicken dance", and reading should cultivate a complete personality. Goethe said: "Only a great personality can have a great style." In school education, only by cultivating people with all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique and beauty can qualified and excellent builders and successors be delivered to the society. Schools should guide young people to learn to read, learn to be human and learn to do things, train students to be people with souls and beliefs, and let children become real pillars of the country.
The society should reach a consensus and jointly create a good living environment for teenagers. At present, the bad atmosphere of mercenary and cheating in society seriously affects the value orientation of teenagers. The problem of helping the elderly has brought great negative energy to teenagers. Unhealthy social culture and mixed social information make teenagers depressed and hedonistic. Pornography, gambling, games, extreme ideas, etc. Are devouring the immature minds of teenagers. Therefore, we must have a strong ideological orientation and create a good social environment for young people.
The national legislation on teenagers should be demonstrated and carefully considered from many aspects, rather than simply considering how to protect teenagers and ignoring the possible adverse consequences. It is worth promoting for experts to learn from western ideological strategies, but it is not appropriate to dabble in them. They only study the superficial essence, and only consider copying without considering the national conditions. They only wanted immediate results, but they didn't expect the consequences.
Twenty years later, the case of beating a teacher, the case of junior high school students hitting a teacher with bricks, and the case of killing a teacher with a mobile phone confiscated by the class teacher … all reflect the psychological distortion and personality loss of teenagers. All these things, if China people can't wake up quickly, the future of teenagers will be worrying.
Only when families, schools and society make joint efforts to cultivate teenagers' sound personality can we create a pillar of society!
I am a retired teacher, and I am over eighty years old. Education is not an independent life and circulation system in society, so how does the state require it to be taught? It can't be said that education itself is no problem or small problem! For example, now teachers earn students' money. In the early 1960s, I started teaching in a high school. As long as you participate in students' extracurricular activities, you can take the money with you without spending the teacher's money. Students don't make money! If you can't borrow money, you have to spend it. One evening in the early 1980s, a military jeep came to my house and stopped at a senior colonel's house. I didn't have time to recognize it. I was pushed into the house and put on a chair. I respectfully gave a military salute and called myself a teacher. I am XXX, and I have no food to eat when I study. You paid me for three months ... I forgot.
It used to be called socks gnawing at boots, but now it's called boots gnawing at socks. It's strange! What rules! Stop writing, my blood pressure is high!
Teenagers think it is most important to teach him how to live.
As the saying goes, a strong teenager makes a strong country. Therefore, youth education is an educational issue that every family and even the whole country attaches great importance to. Personally, I think it should be analyzed from three aspects: family education, school education and social education.
As the saying goes, the son is not the godfather's fault. This is to emphasize the importance of family education. Family is the cradle of everyone's existence. The quality of family education directly affects the personality characteristics, philosophy and emotional growth of teenagers. The characteristics of family background will accompany him all his life, so it is very important. Harmonious and healthy family relationship is the foundation, and families where couples divorce or often quarrel are often very unfavorable to children's growth. Scientific research shows that most juvenile delinquency comes from the lack and deficiency of family education. Teenagers' physical and mental health is the premise.
Secondly, talk about school education. The current educational situation in China is that primary and secondary school students mainly study cultural knowledge, and most children can receive nine-year compulsory education. However, adolescence is a critical period for the formation of outlook on life and values. Some children who didn't go to high school or even college lost the opportunity of school education and embarked on the society. At this time, the focus of education should be skill education and learning a skill. Therefore, parents should encourage their children to go to school and try to extend their study time at school.
Social education has many aspects. With the development of social times and the popularization of information network, parents should pay attention, especially to negative information sources, online games, unhealthy websites, violent works and so on.
Youth education is a systematic project, which requires the joint efforts of all parties to support a brilliant tomorrow for children.
Nowadays, teenagers are very arrogant, and it is difficult to educate them with the same old tune, and it will be counterproductive. I think we should conquer them from the heart, persuade them to study with an open mind and accept your education. You can't force it blindly, otherwise it will be self-defeating and not worth the loss.
The focus of youth education is quality education. Only by optimizing your habits can you face the future.
Adolescent psychological counseling: a complete parent
Children don't need perfect parents
Chongqing Cuncaoxin Psychologist suggested relaxing and being a parent! Don't forget how tired a child with perfect parents should be: this is tantamount to forcing the child to be happy, forcing him to be happy-because this is the goal set by parents! "You know, of course you have your own choices, even choose misfortune." A mother with a sense of humor often says this to her children.
Since 1960s, psychologists have become educational stars in various psychological counseling and women's magazines. There is a popular saying: there are no born bad children, only children who are not fully loved. People began to advocate dialogue and listening ... The mistake of this generation is to refuse conflict. Do they believe that children can grow up without conflict? Can't you refuse them? It should be noted that the desire not bound by the ban is a kind of violence, and the controlled conflict is helpful for the growth of children.
Children are at the age of fighting for independence, and parents surround their children with love, just like locking them in a cage of love. Therefore, if children want to break through the cage, the first thing to violently resist is their parents. I often hear parents talk about their children like this: "The angel is outside, and the devil is at home." Angels are outside because they are afraid of the outside world at home; Demons, because they know they are uncompromising.
Some parents hide their pain and don't want their children to suffer any pain. They don't understand that it is beneficial for children to admit their imperfections-weakness, cowardice and frustration. Chongqing Cuncaoxin psychologist stressed that children need complete parents, not perfect parents. Only by getting along with parents with shortcomings can children grow up.
If there is love in the sky, the sky will be old, and the heart will have nothing to worry about!