3-6 years old is the golden age of children's sex education.
According to the research of child psychologists, the golden age of children's sex education is in early childhood, that is, the age of 3~6 years old.
Children of this age will gradually discover the differences between male and female body parts. Children will be very surprised at these differences. Babies around the age of 4 will also touch their private parts because they can't help but be curious. And this touching experience is novel and strange to them.
Moreover, children aged 3-6, except for the germination of sexual consciousness, mostly need to go through a sensitive period psychologically, which is what we often call the "sensitive period of marriage". Children in this sensitive period will show obvious interest in topics such as kissing, hugging and getting married.
The Center for Sexual Behavior Research in Atlanta, USA, believes that the key period of sex education is in early childhood. In this ignorant period, proper study of gender self-awareness, gender role behavior and emotional response will lay the foundation for children's future happiness.
Therefore, if parents can calmly answer their children's questions, they can help children understand themselves more comprehensively and establish a correct gender awareness. When you get along with other peers, especially friends of the opposite sex, you can keep a proper distance to avoid bringing unnecessary trouble to others because of your improper behavior.
In the golden age of wrong sex education, these "sequelae" will wait until adolescence.
1. Sexual psychological development is frustrated. If parents do not grasp the golden age of sex education in time, it is likely to lead to frustration in children's sexual psychological development. As we said before, children will be curious about their bodies when they are 3 years old. If parents don't guide them correctly in time, this problem will always stay in the children's minds. At the same time, children will have negative emotions of anxiety because they don't have basic knowledge reserves.
Some parents will play "drag games" for fun when their children are young. It is more common to dress boys as girls. In the long run, this practice will cause obstacles to children's gender cognition, and the development of sexual psychology will encounter no small obstacles.
2. Due to the lack of correct guidance from parents, it is easy to form a bad sexual concept, but at the same time, children also need to solve their inner confusion, so many children will choose other ways to make up for the lack of this content. However, in this era of information explosion, the information is mixed, and children lack the necessary self-control and discrimination ability, which is likely to be influenced by negative information and eventually form a bad sexual concept.
How to educate children about sex?
Sex education for boys and girls is different. In instilling correct concepts, fathers need to shoulder the responsibility of conveying education and let boys understand the importance of protecting privacy.
At the same time, we should also clearly tell boys to respect the opposite sex, not to bully other girls at will because of their great strength, especially not to make intimate moves such as kissing without the consent of others.
For girls, mothers should teach girls how to protect themselves. Once others are found to have too obvious touching behavior, they need to be severely stopped, not left unchecked. As mothers, we also need to pay attention to whether the girl has any abnormal performance. For example, sudden changes in temperament, etc., all of which need attention.
Once found, it needs to be promptly channeled. Every girl should have a certain sense of sexual self-protection, and parents can also pass it on to their daughters through sex education picture books to avoid irreparable serious consequences.
Answer your child's questions seriously and don't shy away. As parents, we should take children's problems seriously, and don't shy away from them, exaggerate them or twist them. For children, his mind is very simple, that is, I hope parents can answer their doubts. As long as you get a reasonable answer, children will naturally not be entangled in such problems all the time.
However, if parents' eyes are flashing, it will be counterproductive and make children's curiosity about the content of sex education more and more serious.
With the help of sex education picture books, picture books are really excellent auxiliary props for young children. Parents can buy some picture books with the theme of sex education for their children. Let the children find the answers to the questions in the process of reading. Parents can also use a picture in a picture book as a starting point to emphasize the importance of establishing a correct gender awareness.