From the distribution of social emotions, neutral emotions accounted for 49. 1%, positive emotions and negative emotions accounted for 34.7% and 16.2% respectively. It can be seen that most people either hold a wait-and-see attitude or believe in the positive significance of the double-drop policy, but do parents really stop worrying about it?
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Parents' anxiety has actually increased rather than decreased.
After the double reduction policy, education and training has become a hot topic for parents, especially middle-class families.
In the eyes of parents, their generation has reached the level of the middle class through half a lifetime's efforts, and they hope that their children can achieve class leap by studying to a higher level.
The most essential reason of involution in education is the anxiety of these parents, who are afraid that their children will fail in the competition.
Therefore, after the implementation of the double reduction policy, although this involution has been broken through external intervention, this involution emotion still remains in the hearts of parents.
What should parents do if they are afraid that other people's children will secretly make up lessons?
From the original anxiety about whether children are competitive, coupled with anxiety about not being able to refer to other people's situation, to some extent, this is more cruel than making up lessons for the whole people.
For parents who want their children to be ahead of other children, their problem is not only whether to make up lessons, where to make up lessons, but also how much children have to make up lessons to catch up with others' progress, what form or channel to make up lessons, and if other children do not make up lessons, in case their children do not make up lessons, if they also make up lessons, whether their financial ability can be supported.
From this point of view, parents' anxiety has not been really alleviated, but in fact, the state has introduced a policy of double reduction, which has alleviated the economic pressure that parents need to bear in educating their children. But why are parents still so anxious?
Because the root of the problem is that parents' hearts have not been liberated, this liberation can not be achieved only through external policies, but only through parents to find their own problems, and to see that the essence of their anxiety is actually inner fear, which requires parents to face up to their fears, rather than projecting them on their children, so that children can become another themselves in the future.
Therefore, whether the double reduction policy can really achieve the ideal effect of reducing the burden depends not only on these institutions, but also on whether parents can let go of their obsession, because for these institutions, there will be a market if there is demand, and excessive demand from parents will make training institutions mushrooming.
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The essence of education is not only for exams.
Examination-oriented education has a history of thousands of years in China. The more modern the western education model is, the more China people know about it, and the more comments are mixed.
Reading is the only fair and happy way of life in this era of fighting for parents, but now more and more families become "unfortunate" because of their children's education problems, which leads to a tense family atmosphere and children's desperate situation. Too many parents keep putting pressure on their children, saying that their children are under great pressure now.
However, after training institutions blossomed everywhere, parents had to grit their teeth and send their children to cram schools. The disparity between the rich and the poor makes educational resources not reasonably distributed, and the road to reading begins to be unfair, so parents and children cannot breathe together.
Then the reason for this situation is parents' one-sided understanding of education and their wrong and excessive pursuit. Most parents equate study and study with a successful and happy life.
The reality is not like this. Perhaps for former parents, reading more books can help them get an iron rice bowl in state-owned enterprises and have nothing to worry about from then on, but times have changed now.
Today's society no longer only looks at academic qualifications, but also pays more attention to people's comprehensive quality. The future competition is no longer just the competition of scores, and successful college students abound. Therefore, studying for exams is a wrong idea in itself, and under the guidance of this wrong idea, parents sharpen their heads and go to cram schools to make their children get better grades.
Parents' anxiety is wrong even in the general direction. How can they give their children a bright future?
What's more, under great pressure, children's psychological suffering far exceeds their ability to bear. If they don't have a strong heart now, how can they face the ups and downs of life alone in the future?
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How do parents adapt to the double reduction policy?
After the double reduction policy, parents should first decompress themselves.
Accept, rather than face the reality, let nature take its course and ignore other people's children, and pay more attention to the positive significance brought by the double reduction policy.
The economic pressure and time of loosening the double reduction policy are more used to accompany children, and healthy psychological growth is more important than class first.
Re-changing ideas and adjusting ideas, education also needs to keep pace with the times, exploring more possibilities in children and shaping a sound personality for children are the best gifts for children.
Pick up the trust in the school again, trust in the school teachers, strengthen the communication between home and school, stop being the "scissors treasurer" who hands over the children's education to schools and training institutions, participate in the children's study life and interact with them more, so that the children can truly feel the love from their parents, instead of rigidly thinking that the parents' love comes from material contributions, and the parents' love is based on good grades.
With the further improvement of the double reduction policy, I believe that more children will get a fair education, more families will reduce a lot of smog, and I believe that the fear of raising children of the younger generation will also be reduced. But the positive significance of all this depends on whether parents can understand the good intentions of the country, whether they can correctly treat their fears, and whether they can separate their wishes from their children's education. Therefore, I hope parents can realize that their understanding and attitude towards learning will affect their children's understanding and attitude towards learning.