As a mother of two children and an experienced person, I want to share my experience. Effective soothing methods can be roughly divided into four categories: skin contact, shaking movement, sound and language, soothing things.
Category I: Skin contact category
Breastfeeding: This is the closest contact with children. Close contact during breastfeeding several times a day can basically meet the emotional needs of children.
Hug: Hug more when the child is awake, which can maintain good interaction with the child. If the child is sleepy, don't get into the habit of sleeping with your arms around, so adults and children will feel uncomfortable. If the child is crying, pick up the child in time to give comfort.
Touch massage: Now many novice mothers will learn some touch massage skills to help their children massage. If the above methods can't comfort the child, it may be that the child's stomach is uncomfortable. It is suggested that you can touch your child in circles along his stomach to help him relax.
The second category: rocking motion.
Baby stroller rocking: Some babies like the feeling of baby stroller rocking gently when crying. My children like to shake gently when they are young, and then they fall asleep by themselves after a while.
Cart: Some babies go out by cart every day. Every time they go out, they will look around curiously and be attracted by people and things outside, thus effectively appeasing.
Aircraft hug: This method is suitable for fathers with strong arms, and can be used when children cry because of gastrointestinal discomfort, which helps to relieve flatulence and colic.
The third category: phonetics and speech.
Music: Try different styles of music for your baby and carefully observe your baby's state. If you can quickly calm the crying baby, it means that your baby likes this kind of music. You can play similar music when the baby is crying.
Singing: Novice parents who like singing can sing to their children when they are crying, and the baby is likely to calm down and watch your performance immediately.
Oral comfort: When the baby is crying, you can talk to the baby patiently and gently, and the baby will get effective comfort at this time.
The fourth category: soothing items.
Pacifier: When it comes to this, many parents will have a kind of resistance and worry that their baby will become dependent. Our family hasn't used it since childhood. Therefore, if you try a pacifier for your baby, you need to use several other soothing methods at the same time. Don't give a pacifier to a child when he cries.
Plush toys or other items that the baby likes: Pay more attention to the toys that the baby usually likes, and bring them to the child when the child is crying, which can also divert the baby's attention.
When we choose the method of appeasement, we should try our best to choose the method that can guide children to develop self-appeasement, consciously give children the method of emotional management, and try our best to avoid children's excessive dependence, try more and choose more.