1, I bless you, I love you! I hope you are stronger, stronger, and always be a strong person with a compassionate heart. At the end of the letter to Fu Cong, Fu Lei often said, "I hug you in my heart." "Embrace you mentally." "Son, I will always be with you in spirit!

Revelation: We always habitually think that the love between parents and children is natural, but I think any kind of love in the world needs careful cultivation and careful watering. If we don't consciously teach children to love their parents, they often don't do well enough in this respect. This is especially important for us in China, because we are a nation with deep and subtle feelings. For example, Mr. and Mrs. Fu Lei will ask (or ask) Fu Cong to write more letters and write more long letters to guide children to make emotional investment and dedication to their parents. The affection between parents and children will gradually deepen.

Parents' deepest love for their children is to help them become better themselves. In this process, parents are guides, prophets and decision makers.

Second, grow together-raising children is also raising yourself.

Revelation: Fu Lei has studied in various fields of art all his life, and his correspondence with Fu Cong has been devoted to piano art, because his son is engaged in this work, and Fu Lei has also studied and felt hard. It can be seen from the text that although he is not specialized in this field, he has a noble and talented mind to appreciate art and beauty, and he also showed profound knowledge in his discussion with Fu Cong. Parents should always reach out, contact and learn what their children are interested in, not only as companions in life, but also as spiritual friends of their children, in order to truly win their heartfelt respect and love.

Third, winning emotions and winning life-caring for children's mental health.

Excerpted from the original text: 1. Only when one dares to face up to reality, mistakes, rational analysis and thorough understanding can one not be eroded by memories.

2. The most tormenting thing is not mental labor or manual labor, but worry.

3. Guide them to adjust their mentality during the game: think more about the problems of life and the universe, and look down on the individuals, which will naturally reduce the worry of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss.

The size and level of achievements are beyond our control. Generally speaking, we rely on manpower and talent, but as long as we are strong, we are not afraid of failure, setbacks and blows.

5, (always don't dig the root of troubles) slowly make you mentally unsound, not calm and not cheerful.

6. How miserable the lives of many of our comrades are! What a narrow interest! What a lack of humor! (Establish correct and positive hobbies and interests in life)

7. Frequent contact with mountains and rivers, sunrise and sunset, moonlight and starlight will make your feelings look brand-new and your fatigue will be alleviated.

8, more contact with nature and plastic arts, virtually make people quiet and open-minded.

9, all day (engaged in indoor single work) over time will reduce the fresh breath of art, tend to be abstract, closed, lack of vitality and fighting momentum.

10, too much indoor life and study life are the main reasons why modern intellectuals are neurotic and morbid: the realm of desolation, profundity, broadmindedness, tranquility, not sticking to things, and not shrinking into the heart can only be obtained from nature.

Revelation: Mr. and Mrs. Fu Lei attached great importance to Fu Cong's mental health and kept the balance between body and mind. They will first carefully and keenly observe the fluctuation and abnormality of children's emotions, then patiently and gently guide him to sort out the root causes of negative emotions, and guide him to talk and vent, and will also give him practical methods to dispel negative emotions. For example, Fu Lei has repeatedly suggested that Fu Cong, who is busy with performances, spend more time close to nature, get out of the room, get in touch with other kinds of art and get in touch with local customs. They believe that "plastic arts and nature are most conducive to maintaining people's physical and mental balance." Paying attention to children's mind and spiritual world is neglected by many parents. We always think that raising children is to provide children with basic material conditions.

And a person's way of thinking will directly affect people's emotions (according to the viewpoint in McKinsey elite thinking habits), and they will also guide their sons to adjust and modify their way of thinking about people and things, thus adjusting a person's emotional problems from the root.

Fourth, encourage children to express their feelings and opinions, instead of instilling what we think is right into their minds.

Abstract: 1. A person's ideas are written and said, which can stimulate the agility of thinking and train the ability and speed of writing.

2, a person's thoughts, not written, will not be systematic. If you don't care about choosing words well, in the long run, your thoughts will become chaotic, monotonous, dull, colorless and lifeless. Nothing can affect the way of thinking more than our language.

Enlightenment: We might as well use "I want to hear your opinion" and "I wonder if you agree with me" to create a democratic atmosphere, encourage children to express their ideas and create opportunities to communicate with them.

Fifth, treat children with a normal heart and teach them a normal heart.

Abstract: 1. Try to put aside gains and losses, do your best and have a clear conscience.

2, everything has a clear conscience, regardless of success or failure, in order to command freely on the spot. Don't deliberately look for a job, lest you gild the lily and lose your real interest.

3. Wise people are indifferent to themselves, and people are not satisfied. We should not be bound by greed and desire.

4, "slow is fast", if you are eager to achieve success from the beginning, not only will there be no result, but it will also cause an unreliable bad atmosphere.

Enlightenment: "Don't let children lose at the starting line" ... Today, with the increasingly serious educational utility, the "slow-nurturing" education of Fu Lei and his wife deserves our deep consideration. They have repeatedly warned their son to keep a balance between body and mind, so they might as well reduce the number of performances and pay more attention to his achievements in being a man, expanding the spiritual field and deepening cultural education. This is what truly farsighted parents do. Only when their children have a solid foundation can they take the road of life well.

Six: review summary-help children cultivate the spirit of introspection.

Abstract: 1. When you meet something extremely prosperous, you will feel particularly solemn, particularly afraid and particularly alert.

2. Criticism and self-criticism can become powerful weapons because they can cultivate a calm scientific mind, treat themselves equally, treat people and things, and make a fair review. Criticism and self-criticism need courage most. As long as there is a trace of cowardice, criticism and self-criticism will never be done thoroughly.

3, a person is too smooth, it is easy to get carried away unconsciously, which shows that a person can not relax his struggle for a moment. 4, people don't need to jump out of the cage of self, in order to have new feelings, new views, and more correct self-criticism.

Enlightenment: guide children to correctly understand and grasp themselves and let them acquire the spirit of self-criticism, then their lives will be better and better in constant self-correction.

7. Financial accomplishment-the basis of controlling money and happiness in life.

Abstract: 1. Dealing with money should be reasonable, planned and budgeted. 2. Live a decent and thrifty life, be cautious but not stingy, and be generous and not easily fooled.

Living in the art of life is nothing more than the ability to allocate money. If a teenager succeeds, his financial ability will be worse, which will do great harm to his life.

Only when the economy is effectively guaranteed can the independence of personality be maintained. 6. The more you despise material, the more you need to control it.

7. To avoid material burden, only by overcoming material and controlling material, people who haven't been managing money for a long time rarely worry about money.

Revelation: This is also neglected by many of our family education. Jewish family education attaches great importance to the cultivation of children's financial quotient (see another good parenting book, Special Care and Special Love). Establishing a correct view of money and mastering the correct financial management methods will benefit people all their lives.

Eight, you are the starting line for children: what kind of person a child will eventually become depends largely on the level of parents.

Original abstract:

1, you know dad's temper. He can't really rest until he is ill in bed.

The most powerful argument in the world is practical action, and the most effective education is to set an example. Never ask others what you can't do. Criticize yourself first and correct your mistakes.

Enlightenment: I think the first priority of family education is for parents to improve their moral cultivation. Although they can't do it in one step, they should continue to study hard and grow up with them after having children. Leading by example is always the most convincing.

Nine, critical spirit-the spiritual background that can really shine.

1, (participated in the piano score changed by the teacher after class), did you accept it partially, completely or completely? Under the illumination of the teacher's word-for-word revision, it may be incoherent, lose context and be fragmented. It is neither a donkey nor a horse. It is neither like itself nor like a teacher, making a mess of a piece of music. 2. To truly understand a writer, we still have to "reform" on our own profound spirit.

Revelation: The critical spirit has always been neglected by China people, but since I became a teacher, I have paid great attention to cultivating children's critical spirit, because it is a valuable part of the human brain.

Ten, don't give up the foundation, cultivate the real foundation of children's life-being a man.

Original abstract: 1. Only with sincerity can we have an open mind. Only with an open mind can we abandon ourselves to understand others and let go of our hypocritical self-esteem to understand ourselves.

The more reason you have to stick to the truth, the softer your attitude and the softer your voice.

The more famous a person is, the more proud others will be. This is also natural, so we should be more modest and polite.

4. Don't be too subjective and have a convincing attitude. This is the most taboo, because you are right, but it gives the impression that you are arrogant.

5, always modest, the results are contributed by everyone, not their own strength.

6. Entry is forbidden and entry is forbidden.

7. Don't act impulsively; You must think it over.

Revelation: In his letter, Fu Lei repeatedly taught Fu Cong to be sincere to his friends, to be grateful to his teachers, and to pay attention to different problems when dealing with people with different identities. They also gave him detailed guidance methods, such as how to speak, how to speak in tone and so on.

Eleven, neglected compulsory courses of love and marriage

1, emotional problems, we should be firm, we should focus on the overall situation and the distance, we should take care of the overall situation, short-sighted soft hearts often cause unnecessary pain to ourselves.

If you want to find a permanent partner, you should be more rational and consider not being blinded by feelings. Repeated, endless, fruitless and impossible love will only turn people into Don Juan, make people frivolous, make people feel at least paralyzed by love and become cynical invisibly.

3, the criteria for choosing a girlfriend: I think the most important thing is kindness of nature, gentleness of nature and openness of mind. With these three things, others can be cultivated slowly.

4. Women need to be independent and broaden their world outlook. They know nothing but love. Both men and women can only be happy if they concentrate their interests on career, study and art and try to put aside their ego. Only calm, subtle and gentle feelings can last. 6. Cultivate loyalty, solemnity and piety after marriage. 7. A successful marriage is not only the great happiness of the parties, but also the warm light and endless poetry have been shining and infiltrating the families of both parties.

8. (Chatting regularly with your wife every day) Unconsciously, you can improve yourself or each other. Common ideals and enthusiasm need long-term continuous irrigation and cultivation. It can't be supported by a few empty words when you are excited.

9. Milla (Fu Cong's wife) is young and has a weak foundation. You should take care of her patiently, meticulously and tirelessly, observe, analyze and think everywhere in trivial matters of life, reading cultivation and feelings, and teach and induce with sincere and deep love as the driving force and calm reason as the action guide.

Revelation: We can often see many excellent young people on the news, all because they did not do a good job in marriage and love, which led to their own life failure and even tragedy. Therefore, I advocate consciously cultivating children from adolescence, such as the correct concept of marriage and love, how to identify and choose the right partner and so on.