Spoiling is an irrational "love" that directly destroys children's physical and mental health. Nowadays, most parents and grandparents know that doting on their children is harmful, but some parents can't tell what doting is and don't know whether there is doting at home. Different families have different ways to spoil, but they can be summarized as follows: First, enjoy the highest treatment of the family from an early age, so that children can form a sense of self-esteem; Second, paying too much attention and forming a core, the whole family is turning, applause and praise are constant, and it is difficult for children to adapt to the external environment; The third is over-satisfaction, giving you what you want, causing children to only know how to ask for it, but not how to cherish it; Fourth, arranging and replacing, too much help, leading to poor independence of children; The fifth is to protect the face, protect the short, and indulge, causing the child's personality to be distorted; The sixth is to weaken children's ability and deprive them of their right to independence. For absolute safety, parents should not let their children go out of the house or play with other children. What's more, some children have become "small tails" and can't live without their parents or the elderly at any time. They snuggle up to sleep, snuggle up to sit, walk on their backs, put them in their mouths, and spit them out for fear of flying away. Such children will become timid and lose confidence. These phenomena are all born of "love", and the deeper this "love", the greater its harm. Experts sometimes refer to parents' doting on their children as "sweet poison" Although it is sweet and delicious on the surface, it is actually harmful to children's growth like drugs.

The main reason for these excessive wishful "love" is that our parents don't really consider the long-term healthy development of their children, don't pay attention to their choices, don't respect the objective reality, are too subjective, and impose their wishes on their children too much, always thinking that this is love for their children. Some parents don't have a correct understanding of their thoughts. They always think that "sex is straight" and don't worry too much. They have an attitude of "doing nothing". As we all know, it is very dangerous to indulge and spoil children. Not all the trees we see are straight, and not all the saplings can grow into big trees. There are countless such negative examples in society. What our parents should do more is how to let their children know true love and then love others. Parents need to pay serious attention to their children's thoughts, behaviors, physical health, study and social interaction, and correct some bad phenomena and behaviors of their children in time with true love. Mr. Chen Heqin, a famous educator, once put forward that "children should be allowed to do what they can; If a child can think for himself, he should be allowed to think for himself. "This is in line with the law of education.

It is terrible to indulge "love", which is a kind of dereliction of duty of parents, hurting children, destroying families and affecting society.