0 1 Accepting change to escape during the trial, Yao Jiaxin revealed that he began to learn piano at the age of three and was often beaten by his father because of some "mistakes" in details. He was once locked in the basement for a month because of his poor academic performance. The starting point of this educational method is undeniable, including Yao Jiaxin's mother's opinion, "Isn't it that strict discipline can make a useful person?" Is there anything wrong with strict discipline? "
However, this kind of education has also made others docile as sheep, biased in character and rough and crazy in heart. My father said in an interview: "I will hit him for anything he is very keen on, and I just won't let you overheat!" " I just want to throw cold water on it. Don't be so radical. "The good side is undeniable, but will it make children like it? Your purpose is to make him obey you for his own good. When you put all your efforts into it, it also brings unprecedented pressure to your children. He changed from initial acceptance to escape.
Let's look at the Yao Jiaxin incident again. If we don't do what our parents want, we will be beaten and locked in the basement. The child has become what you want in your heart. However, such stimulation also made Yao Jiaxin disgusted and disappointed with his parents, and even said that he once saw no hope and wanted to commit suicide. A military father has also become a kind of fear in Yao Jiaxin's family life, and the two most mentioned words about his father may be fear.
Fear of insecurity is a normal case of traffic accidents. I saw the victim open his eyes and remember his license plate, so I took out a knife and killed him, just because I had the idea that "rural people are difficult to engage in" and I was afraid of being scolded by my father. We say that a person is afraid of tigers because they hurt people. This is an instinctive reaction. Yao Jiaxin is like the man in it, and his father is like a tiger. Because he made a mistake, "attacking" his father is likely to appear, which has become a conditioned reflex of Yao Jia Xin itself.
Such logical thinking seems to have become a stereotype in Yao Jiaxin's mind: as long as his father doesn't blame himself, everything is easy to say. Because "disruptive" will be blamed by the father, because "disruptive" father will appear, "disruptive" seems not terrible, what is terrible is this father. Only by cutting off the relationship between "trouble" and our father and son will I eliminate such fear, which is his first thought, not the consequence of crime.
Let's think about another question: Why does a 2 1 year-old college student always carry knives and tools? Just for self-defense? Wrong, I feel insecure. Yao Jiaxin was bullied in middle school. A boy asked Yao Jiaxin to carry him, and if he didn't, he would be given one yuan. When my father knew it, he made a puzzling decision: then let him recite it. What about the father's dependence on his children? You are the mountain behind the child, why does he feel isolated?
Power education is the biggest mistake. My teacher once told me that parents who can make a child feel scared and like are excellent parents. China people always pay attention to the golden mean, but they have made the biggest mistake in educating their children. Many children have the idea that they should behave with their tails between their legs, and their parents will take care of themselves when they are in trouble. It may not have any effect at first, but it has become a kind of "family fear" over time.
My parents will only think about how good my children are. This will also create a child's extreme personality. It's enough that parents don't blame themselves. Nothing else matters. In the case, Yao Jiaxin was scolded by his father for his strict parents' education. People who are afraid of being knocked down after driving will remember his license plate number to make trouble with him, thus making such crazy moves. This inhuman crazy case is only because of the education of parents.
When Yao Jiaxin was executed, his father said, "My husband and wife dedicated their lives to him, but he completely destroyed three families with his own actions. We hate him more than anyone. How the law will judge him in the future, he deserves it. " Power personality is vividly reflected in his father. I'm not saying that my father's statement is wrong. This is the extreme embodiment of power personality.
"Dad, I love you", "Okay, stop talking, I love you too" ... The case of Yao Jiaxin ended like this, which deserves our deep thought.