What are the problems in family education? 1 lack of ideological understanding, family education is too dependent on schools.
According to the survey, only 15% students' parents really realize that they are responsible for their children's education and can take this responsibility well. 85% families think that it is enough for children to eat and wear warm clothes, and the responsibility of education lies with teachers and schools. Some parents and acting guardians even said:? Children go to school and parents pay for school management. What do you care? This kind of educational concept and ideological understanding has greatly increased the difficulty of educational management for these students. Some parents or surrogate guardians have poor educational concepts. What do you think? Just eat and drink, okay? ,? Children and grandchildren have children and grandchildren? I think it's useless to study as long as you can make money, but you can still make money without studying. Aren't college students still unable to find jobs? These ideas are bound to affect children and produce the feeling that learning is useless; In correcting students' bad behavior habits, due to the unilateral teaching of the school, it often has little effect. Although some minors live with their parents, parents believe that educating their children is a matter for schools and teachers, and has nothing to do with themselves. There is a lack of effective communication between parents and teachers, and they can't cooperate with teachers to educate their children. After a child has problems, parents often just sigh that the child has not met a good teacher, and even accuse the school of misleading the child.
1.2 Family environment is not conducive to children's growth.
Since most students' parents go out to work, the custody of these students is generally given to grandparents or relatives and friends. Parents are not around, and elderly grandparents or other guardians have no good education, neither energy nor art of education. However, some relatives and friends have a worse sense of responsibility, and many of them just make verbal promises, which has formed a blind spot in the education and management of these students, resulting in many problems for these students. For example, I am tired of studying, skipping classes, going out to play video games, surfing the Internet, and some of them are even related to socializing? Gangsters? Get together and gradually get infected with gambling, watching pornographic videos, petty theft, fighting and other social vices. For example, on March 5, 2006, two junior two students from Yuxin Middle School in Zijin County entered the room to play video games, which was caused by the lack of family education. Old people in many families have superstitions, playing cards, drinking and other behaviors, which also have a lot of adverse effects on children. If only one parent is at home, he has to undertake all the housework and field work, and he can't take care of the healthy growth of his children. Some parents even go out to work and engage in illegal activities, which affects the healthy growth of their children. Although these parents are well aware of this, they not only don't make any pretensions to their children, but think it is a shortcut to make money. What's more, whenever winter and summer holidays come, sending children to the city where they work will expose them to some illegal acts, and even make them directly become their own helpers and do some illegal and disciplinary things, which also has a negative impact on their healthy growth.
3 the lack of affection affects the formation of children's healthy psychology
According to the survey, at present, 85% of primary school students in rural areas have parents who are away from home all the year round, and their children lack family care and their psychological needs for growth are not met, which leads to many students' loneliness, inferiority, isolation, vanity, over-sensitivity, excessive self-esteem and blind friendship. Even made some students hostile. Some parents who work and do business outside the home all the year round are very generous, unplanned and unrestrained in giving money to their children because of their rich economic conditions and a kind of psychological compensation. Because students lack certain financial management ability and self-control ability, they rely on their parents' money to imitate adults' birthdays and pay people to do their homework. Over time, they pursue enjoyment in life and are afraid of hardship, progress, freedom and laziness in study. Most of these students lack consciousness, initiative and fighting spirit in their studies, and they often lack enthusiasm and love in their lives and studies. They are rebellious, enterprising and enterprising. At the same time, some special families with single parents, poverty, disability and poor grades have a great negative impact on their children due to the lack of family affection, which greatly affects their personality shaping, good moral character and behavior habits.
4. The content of education is single, and there is a general phenomenon of attaching importance to wisdom and neglecting morality.
Due to the restriction of exam-oriented education, most parents only pay attention to their children's food, clothing, housing, transportation and academic performance, but in their eyes, scores often represent everything and only pay attention to their children? Become a talent? Instead of. Adults? Pay too much attention to the quality of academic performance and the position of ranking. Some parents expect too much from their children and expect their children to succeed, ignoring the education of their moral cultivation and psychological quality and the cultivation of sound personality, excellent moral character and good behavior habits. The deviation of family education goals has caused many parents to fall into? Pay more attention to body than psychology, intellectual education than moral education, material satisfaction than spiritual needs, and intellectual factors than non-intellectual factors? Misunderstanding. Some parents even use violence? Forced? News? When children study, some parents not only forbid their children to do housework at home, but also often suggest that children should take less part in group activities and undertake less class collective work, which makes them selfish, indifferent and indifferent to the group. This kind? Value wisdom over morality? The consequences are serious, some children? Don't listen to things outside the window, just read textbooks? No ambition, lack of ideals and pursuit of life, is there? Learn to be a man? As the primary task, we can't strictly demand ourselves to strengthen ideological and moral cultivation, and our ideological and moral quality is poor. Under the influence of various negative factors, a few children are spiritually empty and misbehave, and some even go astray in breaking the law and committing crimes. Theft, intentional injury, trouble-making, fraud, robbery and extortion occur from time to time among rural primary school students.
5. The traditional simple education method can't adapt to the development of today's society.
(1) Expectations are too high and family education is too strict. Faced with the increasingly fierce pressure of social competition, many parents have very high expectations for their children. Looking forward to your son's success and your daughter's success? They are eager to strictly discipline their children, and even deprive them of the minimum time for rest, games and entertainment, which stifles the all-round development of their free personality.
(2) Blindly doting or neglecting management. According to the survey, most parents are busy with housework or working to earn money to take care of their children, not to mention playing and communicating, ignoring the education and management of their children. Some parents have a biased understanding of the new situation of market economy and future social competition, do not distinguish right from wrong, and are partial to their children's bad behavior. They encourage children to be competitive, greedy and cheap, and play tricks, which contributes to the formation of improper ideology and the arrogance of these students.
What is the most serious problem in family education? Father is missing.
Father's education is the peak of children's growth. In family education, fathers are less involved, and children often lack the motivation to move forward.
The second outstanding problem is that some post-80s parents work hard, focusing only on seats, tickets and houses, but paying little attention to their children.
When are they? Success? Sometimes I find that many good habits have not been developed, and my behavior deviates from the direction, so I give the money I earned to my children? Pay the bill? At this time, the child probably hasn't? Appreciate? Yes In fact, what a child cares most is not how much money his parents spend on him, but how much time he spends growing up.
The third outstanding problem is the change of family education concept.
At present, quite a few parents still think that I gave my children to the school and gave the money to the school. Children's education is a school matter, and changing this concept is a long-term process. Luo Chongmin, the former director of Yunnan Education Department, recently pointed out that 95% of parents in China don't educate their children and have no systematic educational ability, so they directly shift the responsibility of education to schools. The reason is that parents' educational concept has not changed. If you want to change your mind, change first? Key people? The concept is very important.
What is the fourth outstanding question? Impetuous? And then what? Quick success? .
No parents want their children to be born prematurely, but at present a considerable number of parents want their children to study. Early success? Is this what parents do in family education at present? Impetuous? And then what? Quick success? . Mothers who have given birth to children know that. Melon? Cooked? Katie. Talent declines, the process is very important, and nutrition should keep up. The same goes for children's education. Without adequate process, there can be no normal result.