Parents' anxiety and pain mainly come from not treating their children as an independent subject. I didn't realize the advantages and disadvantages of my children, but I was disturbed by external factors. Taking other children as the reference standard, I unconsciously caused psychological panic. First of all, we should accept the present situation of children, make clear their shortcomings and advantages, and plan their education realistically with a long-term vision. You can't introduce your grades. It takes courage to know, recognize and accept, which is also the most important.
2. Clarify the direction and goal of children's training.
After understanding the current situation, discuss and work out the training direction and objectives around the children's current situation. It is suggested that parents can take time to talk with teachers and class teachers in all classes, and you will get a lot of good suggestions, which will help you to determine a very good goal of middle and long distance running with your children and determine the direction of your efforts according to the goal. This is actually a simple career plan. This process must focus on children, not too ambitious or too low. It is necessary to give children enough growth motivation and work hard to harvest results. The goal and direction must be comprehensive, be a man, stress moral cultivation, and be self-reliant. Do things, stress the improvement of personal thinking ability and learning ability. Pay attention to the happiness of children all their lives and grow up with them.
3. Study the specific implementation methods and measures.
The best wealth parents can give their children is to help them develop a good attitude and excellent habits. The best way is to be accompanied by science. Cultivate children's self-planning ability and execution ability, and cultivate children's self-discipline, self-reliance, self-confidence and self-improvement! Parents' help to their children must not be superficial "study hard, do homework well, attend classes well …" but more concrete measures, scientific feedback and timely adjustment, so that family education becomes the most important position for children's growth. Parents and children should make periodic summaries.
4. Parents should master the degree of release and receipt.
Many parents dare not slack off every minute because of high expectations, for fear that their children will fall behind, so they supervise their children in all directions, leaving no dead ends, and every index requires the best and highest. Children slowly lose interest under long-term high pressure, resulting in boredom, which has an irreversible impact on their growth. On the contrary, some parents are so busy with their work that they don't even know what grade their children are in and what classes they are in, and they have never communicated with their teachers, which is also very undesirable. It is suggested that parents should be moderate in management and care, not only do a good job in logistics, but also walk into the children's hearts, which can not only guide their growth, but also read more educational books, be a wise parent, and realize scientific companionship and healthy growth.