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It is the most basic to tell children about sexual physiology and sexual health, and it is equally important to tell children about the moral standards and legal boundaries of sex. It is extremely necessary for children to learn to rationally control their sexual impulses, understand the boundaries between normal heterosexual communication and sexual crimes, and enhance their moral concepts and law-abiding concepts on sexual issues.

It is normal for adolescent children to be interested in the opposite sex and eager to communicate with the opposite sex. Parents don't have to be afraid of their children's puppy love and limit their children's contacts with friends of the opposite sex. The less children are allowed to get in touch with and understand the opposite sex, the more curious or yearning they are, but their minds are focused on this issue. Overrepression of children's psychological needs can easily lead to sexual psychological disorders in adulthood. Of course, you can't ignore the heterosexual communication of teenagers. Parents need to set limits for their children and tell them the consequences of letting their impulses go. It is particularly important to create a family atmosphere in which these issues can be discussed openly. Children can tell their parents about their friends and inner feelings without worries, and parents can help their children grasp the direction in time.

Parents are prepared to communicate openly, and children may be reluctant to talk more because they feel shy or embarrassed. Sex education for children should grasp the opportunity and let the topic unfold naturally. For example, when watching TV programs or talking about other people's experiences, ask your child's opinion. Don't miss the opportunity for the child to talk about related matters on his own initiative, because it shows that this matter has attracted his attention.

The question raised by Xiao Jing is a very important topic. It was originally a good opportunity to carry out sexual moral education, but Xiao Jing's mother flatly closed the discussion on such issues, which made the child lose the opportunity to get correct guidance, and may also close the door for the child to confide his thoughts to his parents.

When children are in adolescence or younger, they will do some things that are considered "shameful", such as looking at other people's buttocks, touching other people's genitals, watching others take a bath and so on. Parents should not panic or get angry. Children's sexual moral consciousness is still vague or unknown. The child's behavior is purely curious, showing this curiosity unabashedly and seeking answers directly. This actually reflects the simplicity and purity of children. What parents need to do is to provide their children with aboveboard answers and tell them that some things are private and some behaviors are inappropriate.

Eight-year-old A Tong drew two people, a man and a woman, naked, and made women's breasts and men's genitals particularly eye-catching. The mother was a little surprised when she saw it, but instead of reprimanding her son, she asked him, "Why didn't the person you painted wear clothes?" "This can distinguish between men and women." "Oh, besides these differences, are there any other differences between men and women?" "The man stands and urinates, and the woman squats and urinates; Men have short hair and women have long hair; Men wear pants and women wear skirts. " A Tong listed a lot. Mother said, "Yes, there are many aspects that can distinguish men from women, and you can see them when you wear clothes. Did you see anyone naked in the street? " No, it's uncivilized not to wear clothes. So this painting is not good-looking. " "Then I'll draw another one." A Tong made a ball of pictures and threw them into the wastebasket.

The 9-year-old Xiaojun peeked at his menstrual bath and was found by his mother. He was beaten by his mother and called him shameless. A few days later, my mother found that Xiaojun's old trick was repeated. She gave him a good beating, tied his hand with a rope and hung it on the window frame. By the time she came back from work, the child was dead.

When parents tell their children that the privacy of others is inviolable, they should also teach their children to protect their own bodies from infringement. For young children, you can tell them that others can't touch the parts of their bodies that are blocked by swimsuits. Unless the doctor has a physical examination or an adult takes a bath. For teenagers, we should seriously teach the methods of self-protection and tell children some possible dangers and measures to avoid them.

Be generous and make it clear.

When a child is about three or four years old, he may ask his parents, "Where am I from?" "Why do boys pee standing up and girls pee squatting?" Almost all children are curious to study their genitals. In this case, parents don't have to panic or get angry. Children's inquiries or behaviors are not unhealthy, and adults should not reprimand or cover up their children. What children need is a scientific and understandable explanation.

When children ask questions about reproductive organs, parents can tell their children their names frankly and generously, just like introducing an arm and an eye. At the same time, remind children to pay attention to the cleanliness of reproductive organs like other organs such as eyes. "This is a penis, boys pee. This is an important organ in the human body and can't be moved casually. If you are infected with bacteria, people will get sick. "

When Jamie went to pick up the children in the afternoon, he didn't forget to ask this question: "Mom, where am I from?" Mother took a deep breath and was about to speak. Jamie went on to say, "There is a new classmate in our class. The teacher said that she was from India. Where am I from? "

If a child asks his parents how they gave birth to a child, parents can take plants as an example, saying that a seed from his father fell into his mother's stomach, turned into a small bud, and gradually grew into a fat doll. If a child asks his mother how to give birth to a child, you can say that her mother has a special passage, and if the child can't stay in her stomach, she will come out from this passage. If your child asks too many questions and you can't find the right answer at the moment, you can say to your child, "This is a scientific question. You are too young to understand at once. I'll tell you when you are older. "

Five-year-old Qian Qian met a pregnant woman with a big belly on the train. She is very curious. After getting off the bus, she asked her father how the child was born. Dad didn't answer right away. He asked Qian Qian to try to carry the suitcase. Qian Qian made great efforts, but didn't mention it. Then the father said, "The question you just asked is a bit complicated. I'll tell you now, but you still don't understand. " Just like you are too young to carry this burden. I'll tell you when you grow up. "

It should be noted that when parents say these words, their expressions and tone should be natural and generous. Don't let children feel secret and ashamed, or they will be overly curious.

For teenagers, parents can give a simple explanation just like teaching popular science knowledge. If you find it difficult, you can refer to your child's textbook and tell him. It is best to let children ask questions in a relaxed atmosphere and you answer them. So you can understand how much you need to tell your children. Because the child does not consider the problem, you give too much information, and the child has little knowledge and is easily confused.

If parents find it difficult to discuss these issues with their children, they might as well say directly to their children, "Mom and Dad received a very conservative sex education, and we are not used to talking about these issues directly with others." This does not mean that parents can shirk the responsibility of sex education, but let children know why you avoid direct explanation. Then parents choose to answer their children's questions in an implicit way, such as choosing a suitable book for their children, or looking for a doctor friend to talk to their children.