Every time the child comes back, he will not ask some nuanced questions, but go directly to his daughter and squat down and say kindly.
Son, dad has four questions for you now. You have to think for 30 seconds before you answer, okay? ?
Dad's four questions are:
1. Did anything good happen at school today?
2. Did you have a satisfactory performance today?
3. What is your biggest gain today?
4. What can I do for my father?
A few seemingly simple words actually contain deep fatherly love and profound significance.
The first question seems to be that the father is full of curiosity about his children's interesting things on campus. In fact, it is his judgment on children's values. He wants to know what the children really think and their basic judgments about good and evil. Only by understanding this can we have better guidance for children.
The second question is to understand the child's self-confidence and interest. What will make the child feel his sense of accomplishment? The child is at the best age. What can make him feel a sense of accomplishment is often the direction he needs to work hard and the direction he is most likely to succeed.
The third problem is to let the children know the harvest of the day. The premise of the harvest is that you really work hard on this day.
The fourth question is more of a guiding role. What the father wants to tell his children is that no matter what happens, you can find someone you trust to help you. This is an angle to help you solve your difficulties, but this matter will always be your own business, so you must go all out!
Parents only need to talk to their children about the above four topics every day, and family education can be considered successful, and children are more likely to have a promising future.
Seeing this, does your opinion still lie in these four questions? Remember when dad told his children to think for 30 seconds before answering?
In fact, what to ask and how to ask reflect the attitude of adults towards life, but it is the life of children that determines it. The reason why dad asks children to think for 30 seconds before answering is more to let them understand that no matter what they say or do, they must go through rigorous thinking before they can put it into practice.
Mom and dad are always the children's first teachers.
Never ask:
Are you full today?
Did the teacher criticize you today?
Did someone bully you?
In fact, the last thing children want to hear is these words, because these words convey full negative energy, and children will not be willing to mention their unpleasant things. Moreover, these things may make him resistant to the school and teachers, and slowly, the relationship between parents and children will become stiff.
In fact, in addition to the above, we can completely change the direction, such as:
How many new friends did you make today?
What is your happiest thing today?
Parents' inquiries will evoke children's good memories of the campus. This state is a particularly happy state for the child, which will not only increase his goodwill towards the school and teachers and classmates, but also make him feel that his parents really care about him and let him be surrounded by love all the time. This is the best start of family education.
What parents need to give their children is always a relaxed atmosphere and the shaping of good values, not a negative attitude towards others. Children can feel your emotions from your questions.
Family education comes before family education.
In fact, parents don't need to read many parenting books at all, because it is a parenting book. Children spend the longest time with them from childhood to adulthood. Parents' words and deeds express their outlook on life, and outlook on life determines children's attitude towards their own life.
In behavioral psychology, action education is always 100 times more efficient than book education, so parents try their best to improve their self-cultivation is actually the best education for their children!
In view of the poor performance of children, we can educate and guide them from the following aspects:
1. Know your child's interests and specialties: