Educational experience: how should new parents face their children who have just entered the park? Kindergarten is the first step for children to start a collective life. From familiar parents to unfamiliar teachers, from "independent kingdom" to many children, from relying on parents to thinking and handling things independently, there must be an adaptation process during this period. How should parents face the children who have just entered the park? How to help children adapt to kindergarten life faster? Professor Zhang Aihua, director of the Institute of Youth Education Research and Development, School of Education Science, Hebei Normal University, Liu Ruijuan, senior teacher of the first kindergarten of the provincial government, and Lv Wenxia and Zhou Lina, first-class teachers of Shijiazhuang Dida Kindergarten. "Hard-hearted" In the face of children's crying, children will definitely cry when they first arrive in kindergarten. Parents see it in their eyes, but it hurts in their hearts. They want to see their children's situation in kindergarten step by step and worry about whether they can stand it. The teacher in this kindergarten thinks that children should not be afraid to cry. To a certain extent, children crying is a superficial phenomenon, which is for parents to see. After seeing the children off, you should leave quickly. In fact, after the parents leave, most children will be fine, because teachers will have many ways to appease their emotions. If the child is not sick, parents should insist on seeing him off and never interrupt him because he is crying. Parents should tell their children more about the benefits of going to kindergarten. For example, there are many toys, and many children play together to learn knowledge. Tell him that "when children grow up, they should go to kindergarten, just like mothers have to go to work." This is a task. " Never say "gray" language such as "If you don't listen, I will send you to kindergarten and give you comprehensive care", which will make children feel that kindergarten is a terrible place, and then children are even more reluctant to go. Children who have just entered kindergarten may not be able to bear it psychologically for a while. Pick up the children as soon as possible. After picking up the child, give him a hug and kiss. Being close to the skin will give the child a comfort and make him feel that his mother doesn't want him, and his mother still likes him very much. Professor Zhang Aihua believes that parents should not be too soft-hearted in their children's initial adaptation period, and should not go to kindergarten to see their children in the middle. They can tell their teachers about their living habits and prepare necessary clothes for their children, but they should not interfere too much in their life in kindergarten. When some children come home from kindergarten, they become easily angry and emotional. Parents think that their children have been greatly wronged in kindergarten and are at a loss. Kindergarten teachers think that there are many routines in kindergarten, and children will feel flustered. If they want to play with toys, the teacher won't let them sleep when they don't want to. When they get home, they will completely relax and lose their temper. However, when the child is angry, leave him alone, let him vent his temper first, then appease him and reason with him. Parents should not indulge in their children's unprincipled crying, follow their children blindly, be principled and not do what they can't do. But after the child cries, pay attention to let the child drink some water to avoid getting angry. Professor Zhang Aihua believes that in kindergarten, children face strange teachers and accept some rules of kindergarten. They are certainly not as free as they are at home, and they feel restricted and restrained. Home is the warmest and most comfortable harbor for children. It's a good thing to let them go home, much better than keeping them in your heart. Parents should not be nervous about this, but if they have abnormal irritability and crying, parents should take the initiative to communicate with the teacher, ask the teacher about their children and have a look. Holiday life should be regular. As soon as a Sunday holiday is over, parents think that their children have been in kindergarten for a week. They must have suffered a lot of grievances, so they try their best to take their children out to play and buy them delicious food and fun. The kindergarten teacher said that children were ill on Monday, mostly because parents took their children out to play and visit relatives and friends on Sunday. When children come home, they can eat whatever they want, play whatever they want and sleep whenever they want. The regular life of the kindergarten that just started was completely disrupted. Children's life at home on Sunday is best synchronized with kindergarten. Don't let the children overeat and continue to take a nap. It may not be good at first, take your time and don't give up. Some children feel hungry after taking them home at night. Parents can let them drink some thin things, such as porridge and milk, but don't let them eat things that can't be digested, such as meat. Professor Zhang Aihua believes that children's life at home should be as regular as possible, such as meal time, activity time, lunch break and sleeping time at night. It should be similar to that in kindergarten. Parents should not think that their children have been greatly wronged in kindergarten, let alone indulge their children. They should educate their children according to some formal education methods, so that they can gradually develop a good habit. Otherwise, if children go to kindergarten again, they will have to re-adapt to kindergarten life, which will lengthen the adaptation process. Communicate with teachers more. After taking their children home, some parents often ask their children what the teacher taught and learned today. Because the child is too young, he may not say it for a while, but it has been imperceptibly imprinted in his memory, and he may say it or show it inadvertently when playing with toys or other occasions. If parents keep asking questions, it will give children a psychological pressure. For example, every time a parent picks up a child, let the child pee first. If the urine is white, it means that the child drinks too much water today. If the urine is yellow, it means that the child drinks less water today, which invisibly causes unnecessary pressure to the child. Over time, it will make children have a mental burden. Professor Zhang Aihua believes that when children are at home, parents will take good care of their children in all aspects, such as dressing and eating. There are so many children in kindergarten who eat, dress and urinate. It is best to help them do things by themselves, cultivate their self-care and self-reliance ability, and let them adapt to the life in kindergarten as soon as possible. When children enter the park, they must tell them what problems they have to tell the teacher. They should take the initiative to approach the teacher. Teachers are like mothers. If they want to drink water, they should say, "Teacher, I want to drink water". And also tell children, with kindergarten children, don't be willful. Children should be modest and cooperative, have toys to play with, and find teachers if they have conflicts with children, and don't fight. As a parent, never tell your child that "someone in kindergarten beat you, but you can't beat him." "If you let me know who hit you and bullied you again, I'll hit you first when I come back." This can only make children learn to be more overbearing, which is not conducive to their growth. In addition, it is necessary to tell children to treat the teacher's criticism correctly. If they have different opinions, they can ask the teacher to explain them, or come back and tell parents that parents should communicate with the teacher and cooperate with each other to educate their children well. Be a careful parent. Parents should not let their children bring snacks to kindergarten. It is best not to eat snacks at home. Eating snacks will affect their appetite.

How do parents face children who have just entered the park and face a group of children who have just entered the park? The scene of their crying often rings in my ears, but it is natural to calm down and think about it. They are from familiar parents to unfamiliar teachers, from "independent kingdom" to many children, from relying on parents to thinking and dealing with things independently. There must be an adaptation process during this period, but how should parents face the children who have just entered the park? For children who have never left home, living in unfamiliar environments and crowds will definitely lead to a sense of insecurity and anxiety about entering the park. Children's anxiety always affects parents' hearts. How to make children adapt to kindergarten life as soon as possible has become a headache for parents. When children are separated from their parents, they also have to experience the pain of separation. Those sobs, screams, cries, and desperate eyes left by children begging their parents are enough to tear their parents' hearts to pieces. However, we must be clear that it is very natural and normal for children to want their parents to stay with them. Letting them learn to be independent is an important part of their emotional growth in life. Parents can't stop their children from growing up, let alone let them face life independently. As a parent, if the position is not firm enough and the attitude is not clear enough, it is easy to prolong the anxiety period of children entering the park, which is very unfavorable to children. Therefore, in the face of children entering the park, parents should first be psychologically prepared, and then trust the teacher with confidence. First, psychological preparation. (A) in the face of children crying "cruel". When a child arrives at kindergarten, he will definitely cry. It hurts when parents look at it. They want to see their children's situation in kindergarten step by step, worry that they can't stand it, or cry with them. Parents should not be afraid of their children crying. To a certain extent, children crying is a superficial phenomenon, in order to keep their parents. If parents cry with their children in their arms at this time, it will affect the children's mood more. So parents leave as soon as they send their children off. In fact, most children stop crying after their parents leave, because teachers will have many ways to calm their children's emotions. If I was worried about my child, I went around the playground after giving birth and secretly hid by the window to see if the child was crying. I didn't find it, but the child found himself and began to cry again. At this time, the quiet classroom was boiling again. There are also some parents who send their children to kindergarten intermittently because their children are crying, thinking that this will be beneficial to their children. On the contrary, it will further extend their adaptation period to kindergarten. Therefore, parents must cooperate with the teacher's request two or three weeks before the opening of the park and face the child's crying "cruelly". If the child is not sick, we must try our best to insist that the child go to kindergarten on time every day, and never stop because the child is crying. (2) Parents should prepare their children psychologically at home. At home, parents should tell their children more about the benefits of going to kindergarten. For example, there are many toys that can be played with many children and they can learn knowledge. Tell him, "You have grown up, it's time to go to kindergarten, just like mom has to go to work. This is a task. " Never say "gray" language such as "If you don't listen, I will send you to kindergarten and give you comprehensive care", which will make children feel that kindergarten is a terrible place, so children are reluctant to go to kindergarten. (3) Communicate with the class teacher. Nowadays, parents are busy with work, often leave after picking up their children, rarely communicate with teachers, and don't know much about their children's performance in kindergartens, which is not conducive to their education. If parents communicate more with teachers at ordinary times, praise and encourage their children when they behave well, and cooperate with teachers to educate their children when their children behave badly, it will help children adapt to kindergarten life more quickly. After taking their children home, some parents often ask their children what the teacher taught and learned today. Because the child is too young, he may not be able to say it for a while, but the child has been imperceptibly imprinted in his memory, and may be inadvertently said or shown when playing with toys or other occasions. If parents keep asking questions, it will bring a kind of psychological pressure to children, which will inevitably cause unnecessary burden to children, and over time, it will make children have a kind of mental pressure. In the initial adaptation period of children, parents must not be soft-hearted They shouldn't go to kindergarten to visit their children. They can tell their teachers about their living habits and prepare necessary clothes for their children, but don't interfere too much with their children's life in kindergarten. Children who have just entered kindergarten may not be able to bear it psychologically for a while. Pick up the children as soon as possible. After picking up the child, give him a hug and kiss. Being close to the skin will give the child a comfort and make him feel that his mother doesn't want him, and his mother still likes him very much. Second, parents should trust their teachers and don't treat them as "villains". When children enter the park for the first time, many parents are very worried about their children. They are afraid that their kindergarten teachers will not like them. They always think that teachers will be bad to their children, so sometimes they often hide outside the door to eavesdrop on the movements inside. At home or at work, I don't know if the teacher will ignore the child because the child cries; Or simply ask the teacher "Is the teacher not good to you today" in front of the children when picking them up. I don't think these are desirable. On the one hand, it will affect children and make them feel that kindergarten is not a good place. The teacher is not trustworthy and will not treat me as a mother. Kindergarten is not my other home. On the other hand, it will also hinder the normal work of teachers. Kindergarten teachers are specially trained. They know how to appease crying children and how to train them correctly. When children come to a new environment and everything is strange, teachers will approach them actively, talk to them, hold their hands and touch their heads. Especially those children who don't like talking, they take the initiative to say hello to them; When the child cries, wipe the tears and give the child a hug, so that the child can feel that the teacher will not give less love than his parents; When the children are cold, give them a rub and cover them to let the warmth flow out of their friends' hearts. Every day, teachers will fully prepare the materials needed for each activity and lead the children to live, play and study with full enthusiasm. Teachers are happiest when they see the smiling faces of children getting brighter every day. Therefore, parents must trust teachers, trust children in teachers, and let children feel more love. It can be seen that as teachers, when parents don't know how to help their children correctly, we should take the initiative to contact parents and introduce the correct guidance methods to their children. The education of children is not the responsibility and obligation of one party, but the responsibility of all of us. Therefore, our teachers and parents should take the initiative to make corresponding preparations for newborn children entering the park, which is also an indispensable part of kindergarten work. Going to kindergarten is the first important turning point in a child's life. Since it is insurmountable, only parents and teachers can cooperate with each other and work together to eliminate children's fears, so that children can quickly adapt to kindergarten life and successfully spend the anxiety period of entering the park.

How do new parents face their children's tears? Most children really experienced the first personal experience of being separated from their parents and family when they were in kindergarten. From which point of view, children really need some time to adapt, and it is normal to cry in the first few days. There are often such scenes: parents turn around and leave, and children cry behind them; Other children began to cry before entering kindergarten, crying at home, crying on the road, and crying even more when they were sent to class; There are also children who can't let go of their lives when they are sent to class. The children's little hands grabbed their parents' clothes or hair and cried and begged together. Facing the crying of children, as parents, the taste in my heart can't be described. At this moment, I don't know how many parents will be reluctant. Reluctant, or reluctant. However, as parents of children, we should realize that it is normal to cry when we are apart. Going to kindergarten is a major change in life for both children and parents, and both children and parents should adapt slowly. Kindergarten is the first step for children to enter the society, which is a great psychological challenge for children. Parents should first show their decisiveness and principles. In fact, many children are doing very well. Once their parents leave, they will soon be integrated into the class, into their friends' games, and rely on their teachers. Their tears have long since disappeared. In the first few days, it is best for parents to send them in person and communicate with teachers in time. Old people can help, but as parents of children, we must not ignore children's expectations and hopes for parents at this stage, as well as parents' affirmation of children. Dear parents and friends, please believe in your children, teachers and yourself.

How to face the anxiety of children and parents about entering the park?

Every parent attaches great importance to what children can learn.

Therefore, it is difficult to go to school. As long as you can enter school smoothly, parents will be very grateful.

How to face the new children in the park? First, keep crying.

For such a child, we should first try to divert his attention, for example, we can give him some toys, and then we should hug him more, so that he can feel the teacher's concern and enhance his sense of security. Reasoning with him, mom and dad are going to work, and telling him the specific time when mom and dad will pick him up. If reasoning and distraction don't work, we might as well take a cold approach and give him some toys to play with. When organizing other children to participate in activities, he will be attracted, but the teacher should pay attention.

Second, the weak type.

These children are easily influenced by others. In this case, we can take them out for a walk, stroll on the playground, introduce them to interesting places in the kindergarten to calm them down, or let them play on the slide and turn their attention to it. Then tell them slowly: there are many new and interesting things in kindergarten, and those crying children are only temporarily uncomfortable.

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Three, cry after a few days.

Children like Liu Shijin in our class belong to this type. Curious, I saw a lot of things that I didn't have at home in kindergarten and immediately became interested. I was very happy the other day. I didn't cry or make trouble. But after a few days, when he became familiar with the living environment in kindergarten and knew that he had to repeat it every day, he became bored and began to cry to express his dissatisfaction. So we should make use of their curiosity and introduce more things that she didn't know in kindergarten. For example, we will take him to other classes and tell him what his brothers and sisters are doing.

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Four, the type of silent tears in my heart

These children are not crying on the surface, but they are crying silently in their hearts. We mainly chat with them, play with them, build feelings, let them eliminate their fears, get familiar with kindergarten life gradually, and trust and get close to teachers as soon as possible from the bottom of our hearts. In fact, these children need love more than other children. For example, when we see a child in a bad mood, we can hold a toy and say to him, "Shall I play with you?" Let him feel that the teacher is a friend who can help him at any time.

The new semester is about to begin again, and school-age children are about to start their kindergarten life. But many children were crying and making noise when they first entered the park. There are many reasons why children go to kindergarten to play "crying" every morning. We should take different measures according to different reasons. 1 Before children go to kindergarten, parents can consciously do some preparatory work, such as blowing to their children often, how good the kindergarten is, what toys are there, kindergarten teachers are particularly good at singing and dancing, and kindergartens have televisions, computers, cartoons and so on. Let the children have a little yearning in their hearts first. You can also invite your neighbor's children to kindergarten and talk about interesting things in kindergarten. Before the children enter the kindergarten, they should take them to the kindergarten in advance and do some on-the-spot "investigation" to make them interested in the kindergarten, familiar with the kindergarten and like it. On the day of entering kindergarten, the family can make it like a holiday, let the children eat holiday food and wear holiday clothes, and let the children feel that it is a particularly good thing to go to kindergarten. The long-awaited thing made him happily enter the kindergarten. When you arrive at the kindergarten, teach the children to the welcoming teacher. Parents should leave immediately, and don't talk endlessly to children and teachers. When children see their parents so upset, they will feel uneasy about their parents leaving soon. Therefore, parents should learn to control themselves. Once a child is sent to kindergarten, parents must insist. If the child is not used to it at first, and some cry, parents should not have scruples, and it will get better after a long time. If parents are not firm, children will have the opportunity to find reasons not to go to kindergarten. If this is repeated, children will not be able to adapt. Parents should not scare their children with kindergartens at ordinary times, and never threaten "I'll send you to kindergarten if you don't obey" or "see how the kindergarten teacher will punish you" in a threatening tone, so that children will feel that kindergartens are a place to punish people, not a paradise, which will produce fear. Before children enter the park, parents consciously cultivate their own hands-on ability, and teach them to dress, wash their faces, tie their shoes, go to the toilet, lift their pants, arrange toys, and send dishes and chopsticks to the kitchen after meals. Let them have strong hands-on ability and are not timid. Help him build up his self-confidence and pride. When a child comes home with a small gift, parents can praise the child and ask him how he got the small gift and whether he did well. Fix the small gift won by the child somewhere and praise his progress and achievements. Don't ask too much of your child, just let him achieve what he can. Encourage children to communicate more and let them participate in group activities. Communication is multi-directional, such as communication with relatives, communication with friends and communication with teachers. Participate in some group interactions, such as large-scale activities held by kindergartens, visiting relatives and friends, playing with children in the same community, and joining clubs that interest you. There is a reason why children are always afraid to go to kindergarten. As long as parents find out the reason and prescribe the right medicine, children will be as happy as going to parks and playgrounds. I hope all the children can enter the park happily!

It is normal for new children to cry. Then, as kindergarten teachers, our only wish is to let them shorten their crying time as much as possible so as to carry out normal activities as soon as possible. At present, the problem is very clear, that is, how to make the new children not cry or cry less. Then, I think as long as we do the following four things well, the problem will be much simpler:

First, the overall environment. When children enter an activity room, they need a very comfortable visual impact, including the indoor environment, the performance of three teachers and the children's emotions. Children will relax when they enter the activity room and see a more comfortable environment. In addition, teachers' warm reception (smiles), friendly tone and children's happy and relaxed expressions will undoubtedly bring some relaxed atmosphere to children and create favorable conditions for freshmen to enter the park.

Secondly, there will be admirers and believers in everyone's heart in every period. As children, it is no exception, even they will have multiple admirers. Therefore, if we want to have good weather, we must convince our children, including:

First, care for them in every possible way;

Second, tell some stories they are interested in or do some actions that can attract them;

Third, lead the old children to perform some rhythms and English treasures.

Third, from the perspective of cultivating young children. Mainly to cultivate children's self-confidence. When he saw other children actively answering the teacher's questions in class; When everything in life is at a loss, there will undoubtedly be some inferiority complex. At this time, we need to find them with keen eyes and pay attention to them at the same time.

The last point is the comfort of food. "Food is the most important thing for the people", most children prefer to eat, so our teachers can use this weakness of children to change some of their behaviors.

How should parents face the crying mood of children who have just entered kindergarten and communicate with them before sending them to kindergarten? When sending them to school, parents should not stay more determined. When they go home, they should ask the teacher if the child is crying and give them praise and encouragement. In fact, parents don't have to worry that children in kindergarten are very different from children at home, and their independence is stronger than parents think. I am a kindergarten teacher. It is common for children to cry when their parents are around. As soon as my parents left, I played with other friends. On the contrary, some grandparents bring them because they can't bear to see their children crying outside the classroom window and keep crying, so they can't integrate into the kindergarten environment.