This is also the source of what people often say, "it takes ten years to plant trees, but it takes a hundred years to cultivate people."
It means that there is nothing more suitable than planting grain for one year; Planning for ten years, nothing is more suitable than cultivating fruit trees; Nothing is more appropriate than training talents to make lifelong planning.
Education is the foundation of a century-long plan, and training talents is a long-term plan, which is not easy.
For a family, to prosper, then "education" is the foundation.
Family education is the starting line for children. In the early life, the influence of family education on children is very far-reaching.
Family education can be seen from some "habits" of children.
Once, some netizens compared two subways. In just one carriage, the two children give people a completely different impression.
The first photo shows the child sitting next to his mother, two small hands resting on his lap, looking at the front, very clever.
Mother is playing with her mobile phone, and the child is quiet and noisy, and there is a lot of space beside him, but he still sits next to her politely, fearing that he will not leave a place for those in need, and even more afraid of disturbing others.
In another photo, you can feel the noise of "Xiong Haizi" through the screen.
I ignored the mud on the muddy road under my sandals and stepped directly on the subway seat where clean passengers could sit directly. The little figure leaned against the window, looked out angrily, and paced up and down on the chair with her feet, completely ignoring the feelings of other passengers around her.
The child's father dozed off beside him and ignored the child.
Imagine if you are a passenger who needs a seat. How will you feel when the little boy gets off the bus? Do you still want to sit in the trampled seat?
Many people say that through these two photos, what I see is not two children, but two parents' different education methods.
If parents usually tell their children not to move around in public, the chair is for sitting, not stepping, and even if they want to step on it, they have to take off their shoes before stepping on it, then will the children in the second picture behave themselves?
As the saying goes, behind every Xiong Haizi, there is a bear parent.
Many children are "bad" not because of their bad nature, but because their parents' education is not in place.
Many parents always think that their children are young and naughty, and they will naturally understand when they grow up, but they forget that the public arena is not their home and they are used to it. Children will gradually become selfish, regardless of others and don't know how to follow the rules.
In the end, it is your own children who suffer.
Obeying the rules, trying not to cause trouble to others and trying not to influence others in public should be the first lesson parents teach their children. This lesson is not difficult, and children aged three or four can basically understand it.
Your own children, don't wait for others to educate you, it's too late to regret it.
The second lesson that parents should teach their children is to respect others, including acquaintances and strangers.
A child, because of "fun", kept touching a man beside him with his foot on the bus and kicked him from time to time. Maybe he used to tease his parents at home.
However, an unexpected scene happened. When the little boy kicked for the third time, the man suddenly got up, grabbed the child and fell heavily to the ground. After falling, he stepped on the boy's head three times with his foot.
Just because of the "fun" for a few seconds, the boy was "seriously injured" until the next day. His left cheek was swollen and full of bruises and blood stains, and his left posterior molar showed signs of loosening.
He paid a heavy price for his behavior.
Maybe many people will say it's a big deal. This man is too cruel. It's really wrong to hit the child so hard.
However, don't forget that others are others, not your family, and they have no obligation to tolerate and accept your mistakes.
If you don't make trouble, you can avoid trouble. In such a big society, you never know who you will meet. The best way to protect a child is to teach him respect first.
Parents should never set rules for their children and choose to spoil them.
Every parent should understand that if you don't educate your children, someone will educate you. By that time, it will be too late to regret crying.
Since ancient times, loving mothers have lost many children. It is a responsibility to be strict with teachers and produce excellent students. In fact, some "strict father" in life always talk about how strict they are with their children, but they are like a mirror. If it weren't for their willingness to be strict, how could children be educated so well?
The best time for education is when children are 6 ~ 12 years old. We must seize this opportunity.
Writer Rousseau once said in the book "Emile":
"The most dangerous period in life is from birth to 12 years old. If you don't take measures to eliminate all kinds of mistakes and bad habits during this period, they will sprout and grow, so that when you want to take measures to change them in the future, they have taken deep roots and can't be pulled out anymore. "
Education should be done as early as possible. This sentence is not a slogan, but if it is really late, it will be troublesome, and it will be difficult for children to change after three observations.
Chernyshevski once said, "What kind of person should a student be?"
The child's imitation ability is amazing. For example, if you scare her with a hanger today, she may scare her brother with a hanger tomorrow. This year, if you are cynical, children will learn to be cynical.
On the contrary, if you are gentle, the child will be calm; If you are generous, children will not haggle over every ounce; If you are diligent, children will not be afraid of suffering; You should be yourself first, and children will be obedient and sensible, and do their own thing well.
Parents set an example, which is the most direct education for their children and the most profound influence on their lives.
Education is not a one-off event, but a homework that runs through parents' lives, especially in the early life of children. The earlier they receive education, the better their future will be.
Parents, no matter how we get along in this life, if we fail to educate our children well, no matter how great our career achievements are, we can't make up for the pain in our later years; If we successfully educate our children, even if we have nothing to do in this life, the rest of our lives will be gratifying, happy and carefree, and this life will be successful.
Don't wait until you are old to feel that you didn't educate your children well when you were young, and don't wait until your children made a big mistake to reflect on what they did badly.
As the book "Positive Discipline" says: The purpose of children's waist is to pursue a sense of belonging and value.
Smart parents know not to punish or be arrogant, and let their children cultivate self-discipline, sense of responsibility, spirit of cooperation and their ability to solve problems in a cordial and firm atmosphere.
Discipline begins when children are young, so that they can learn to benefit from lifelong social skills and life skills and achieve good academic results.
For more than 30 years, positive discipline has become the "golden rule" to discipline children. This book has also been translated into 65,438+06 languages, and sold more than 4 million copies in the United States and more than 2 million copies outside the United States.
After more than 30 years' practice, development and perfection, the book Positive Discipline has taught tens of millions of parents the parallel parenting methods of "neither arrogance nor rashness nor punishment" and "kindness and firmness"!
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I hope every parent can be handy in family education, and then educate excellent and socially recognized children.