First, let children make limited choices.

The method of limited choice is very effective for the rules of cultivating children. If you want children not to run around the room, you should let them choose whether to read or draw now, instead of asking "what should we do now?" Infinite choices will push young children out of uncontrollable rules. Set the things that children must do as rules, give children several directions to choose from within this range, and let children behave within the rules no matter what they choose, so as to naturally accept the rules.

Second, shape the image of parents themselves.

This is a key to children's family education. We often hear a saying that children are the shadow of their parents, which is the truth. Everything parents say and do and every move is what children imitate. Of course, in addition to parents, there are other people who live with their children: the elderly, nannies, etc.

Some living habits in the family: such as work and rest rules, hygiene habits, etiquette habits, etc. What parents ask their children to do, they must do it first and do it well. Requirements in social life, such as traffic rules, parents should consciously abide by when taking their children out, stress public morality and order, and influence their children with their own behaviors.

Mr. Tao Xingzhi said something, which I can't remember clearly. Probably what kind of person you want your child to be. First of all, you have to be that kind of person. This sentence is most suitable for cultivating a virtuous and upright person. If you want your children to be kind, so should your parents. In line with the principle of nourishing the heart and reading classics, never leave home. You shoot eight, I shoot eight, and mom and dad have to participate. This is taking shape.

Parents' own image. Give children a learning atmosphere.

Third, parents should not condescend in front of their children.

Don't think that what parents say is authority and can't be changed. Parents also have shortcomings, and sometimes they say the wrong thing. Parents' respect for their children should be implemented, and the role of parents should be intimate friends who can talk to them. Parents are not perfect. They should be brave enough to admit their mistakes. If children's views are correct, they should be respected. This is easier said than done. Parents respect their children's language: "I'm sorry, it's mom's fault." "Dad wants to learn from you." "You're doing better than mom!" Wait a minute.

Interpretation: Will Mom and Dad make mistakes? Of course it will! Has anyone been scolded by the leader at work? Have any colleagues said that you can't do this little thing well? Does a father have to listen to the old man's class carefully in front of his grandfather? Yes, people are constantly growing. We are not gods. We all make mistakes.

If we face this squarely and remember that Emperor Huang was born as a god and Lao Zi was born as a baby, then we should respect our children.

Article 4: Parents should encourage and praise in time.

The forms of praise and encouragement should be varied, not only material satisfaction, but also the recognition of a certain behavior such as smiling, nodding and expression on your face. This is all an affirmation and a compliment.

Parents should have consistent education, consistent requirements, consistent ideas, consistent goals and diverse methods, because each child's characteristics are different.

Small interpretation: I have shared with you five decisions about reading classics before. I wonder if anyone cares! One of them is a reward. Reward this thing. It's amazing. A good word from the leader suddenly made me feel that the leader was so cute. I appreciated you and you went to work overtime. What made you change so much? Reward. Material and spiritual.

But the most important thing is spiritual. When children are young, they like to hug, kiss, hold hands and smile. Don't let the child go hungry, and don't let the child's face become dull. You have to laugh loudly, smile, don't laugh!

Article 5: Proper use of natural punishment law

The formation of rule consciousness sometimes requires a certain price to make children change from heteronomy to self-discipline It is very necessary for children to accept some natural consequences punishment properly. This method should be limited, combined with reasoning and guidance, so that children can feel the love of their parents. Understanding it with reason, moving it with emotion and expressing it with different consequences can make children feel it slowly and become sensible.

Interpretation: natural punishment law, I don't know how to define it. But looking at the content is to make the child realize the punishment he has done after making a mistake.

For example, if a child pours a meal on the ground, whether intentionally or unintentionally, the result is the same. So I defined this as a mistake, so what should I do? Let the children clean themselves up.

Whoever made a mistake will clean it up. This is reasonable. For example, if you break someone else's window, you can find a way yourself. Foreign countries may work.

I remember a story about a child who broke the glass of someone else's house, and then his father asked the child to negotiate with the family. Finally, the family agreed to let the child build flowers and plants in the garden to reduce his mistakes.

Building flowers-pruning. It seems that the domestic atmosphere is not good. Either dad quickly gives money to let others forget it, or the smashed person is embarrassed to collect money: nothing, little boy. It's not worth much. Seriously affect children's sense of responsibility.

Article 6: Develop skills in implementing rules

Sometimes children have a certain sense of rules, but they still violate the rules from time to time. For example, sometimes "getting up early, but catching up with the evening gathering" is not that the children deliberately delay, but that the actions such as dressing and washing are too slow and don't get to the point. Then, parents should teach their children how to do things and cultivate their self-care ability; Find fast and good methods and rules to improve children's life skills.

Small interpretation: Montessori education has this method, first demonstrate, and then let the children have fun. Demonstration is not only to establish rules, but also to teach methods. The same is true of nourishing the heart classics. Jiajia's follow-up reading is a demonstration, and mom and dad take the lead in reading classics, all of which are demonstrations. Pointing reading is both a demonstration and a method.

Article 7: Parents should strengthen guidance to their children.

Parents should talk more about the usefulness of rules and let their children know that rules are everywhere, and certain rules can guarantee people to live a better life. Parents can often ask their children what will happen if they don't follow the rules? Let the child imagine the consequences of violating the rules and urge him to face up to the implementation of the rules. Rule awareness is not achieved overnight, and there is no unified boundary between right and wrong. How to help children gradually form a clear, unified, flexible and sustainable sense of rules in life situations, so that children's personality and sociality complement each other, so as to get a happy life and feelings in society.