The other is the 2009 movie "Travels around the Flying House". When Russell finally said that the purpose of helping the elderly was to give my father an award, I was as silent as the old man in frederickson for a long time. These two things are all about the importance of companionship from the perspective of children.
Nowadays, most families are children, and it is easy to get bored by themselves. I am full of joy every time and let my parents play with me. As a result, parents who play mobile phones often refuse, and children call again and even cause parents' impatience. Slowly, their parents' personalities become anxious, and their children will also become anxious. They even think that in the eyes of their parents, they are not as important as mobile phones. In fact, it is also a kind of' cold violence' for parents to play mobile phones with their children. Not only are children left out in the cold, but parents are also deeply involved in mobile phone dependence on viruses. Gradually, children will think, how can the mobile ipad have such great magic to attract parents? As a result, children gradually became interested in the mobile ipad. When parents play mobile phones, children start to play, and slowly children will become addicted, dependent and eventually lose themselves. Parents didn't know how to play mobile phones until they found it serious, reprimanded their children, and even beat and scold their children to stop playing. Don't such parents reflect on themselves? Adults can't control themselves, let alone children!
American psychologists have found that 20% of a person's achievement depends on his acquired efforts and 80% depends on his parents' teaching.
Who is more important in family education, father or mother? The answer is that everything matters. Whether the relationship between a person and his mother is harmonious will affect the happiness of his children's future marriage; Whether the relationship with the father is harmonious or not will affect the success of the child's future career. The influence of mother on children is whether children can become independent people; Dad, on the other hand, shaped the child's outlook on life; It has something to do with the formation of personality.
In fact, establishing close parent-child relationship with children needs to be accumulated bit by bit every day, not overnight. The establishment of high-quality relationship needs to spend 15 minutes with children every day. The so-called high-quality companionship means that when accompanying the children, the father or mother is interacting with the children wholeheartedly, without distraction, without thinking about work or pressure; Of course, these all exist.
1, company: looking for things to do together.
It can be reading and telling stories with children;
It can be playing games or playing ball with children;
It can be listening to a piece of music and singing together;
It can be sitting on the beach, listening to the sound of the waves with the children and explaining the knowledge of nature.
It can be climbing mountains with children, sitting on the ground together to study nature, observing small animals, flowers, grass and trees.
2, companionship: listening+physical contact
Contact can be without judgment, blame, contempt, blow or interruption. Just very simple, very appreciative, very focused and very happy, quietly listening to the children.
In the process of listening, parents can have: hmm, oh, wow, yes, then what? What else is there? What's next? Waiting for a response. In the process of companionship, make physical contact as much as possible: pat the child on the shoulder, touch the child's head, put the child's little hand in his own, hug the child and so on.
Also, admiring eyes are very important.
There are many ways, and the most important thing is: are you parents at that moment?
For parents.
Mobile phones can accompany you for 50 years, but the intimate time with children is gone forever. Please put the mobile phone aside, if we are 30 years old now, if we live to be 80 years old, we still have 50 years to be with the mobile phone; As long as we pick it up, it will always be with us; Listen to our call .....
If our babies grow up to 10, 12, 16, you will find that they will need their own space more and more; They don't talk nonsense anymore? Entangled you? ; Is it gone? Unreasonable? Let you really accompany him; No longer throw yourself into your arms like a baby; I won't drag you to the bed, and I won't beg you to tell stories to sleep with her like I did when I was a child. You will find that in children, many times closest to you, once missed, will never come back. ......
Therefore, parents who spend more time with their mobile phones than with their babies: Please put your mobile phones aside and spend more time holding your baby in your arms; Slowly appreciate those years when you really have a baby.