People's instinct is to find someone else's reason in advance. In the process of education, we often see teachers criticizing students, and students always say that it is the other side's problem, and rarely see their own problems. Similarly, when a person grows up, he also likes to find other people's problems, hoping to shift the responsibility to others and reduce his negative emotions. Some parents are still unwilling to admit that their children have many problems, and they always feel that other children have bullied their children. Once a child has a problem, parents always want to find the responsibility of the school. One is to alleviate the guilt of failure in education, and the other is to strive for some compensation. In fact, these are all caused by human instinct, which is normal.

Cognitive bias Many parents and experts don't quite understand their children's behavior. Everyone thinks that it is the school's business to hand over the children to the school. Some parents compare the importance of choosing a good school with "three moves to Meng Mu", and think that schools have the responsibility to educate their children when they send them to school. Many parents also evade their educational responsibilities by saying that "the profession has specialization" and "professional things are given to professional people to do". Some experts even exaggerate the function of school education, saying that "there are no students who can't teach well, only teachers who can't teach well".

I think children should first find their own reasons for problems. Why do dozens of students in the class misunderstand your child? To be sure, parents who shirk their responsibilities will never raise excellent children, because you are led in the wrong direction and the teacher can't help you, so the result is that you can do whatever you want.

It is also one of the contradictions between parents and schools.

There is a saying: children are good at home.

Many parents think my baby is the best, and all the problems are others' problems.

My children are smart and I am well educated. The bad thing is the influence of the surrounding classmates and the school environment.

Nowadays, the function of schools is more to teach knowledge than to educate people. Many teachers talk about knowledge in class and tell students after class. These language education is not as good as parents' words and deeds.