"Sisei Zhou Jiang, Shi Jing's wife." Her mother is very important and can handle the relationship with her mother-in-law, so she can be a housewife in Beijing.
"If a big man inherits the emblem, he will be a hundred men." Wang Wen's wife Judas can handle family relations well. Wang Wen has many concubines, and Judas can handle the relationship with many wives with an inclusive attitude. A man gave birth to ten sons, including Zhou Gongdan, Zhou Wuwang, Guan Shu, Cai Shu, Huo Shu, Kang Shu and so on. In ancient times, it was a symbol of virtue. With a good family, good parents can educate good children. It is a man's duty to honor his parents and respect his brothers at home. "The Analects of Confucius" records: "Confucius said: I am also filial to my younger brother, and those who are good at committing crimes are fresh; Those who are not good at making mistakes but are good at making trouble are not good at making mistakes. Gentleman's business is based on inheritance and Taoism. Filial piety is also the foundation of benevolence! " Our family education is how to be an obedient boy and a filial son of parents.
Plato once said that educating Greek citizens cannot be carried out at home, because women are slaves in the family, and women have only half personality, while slaves have no personality and legal rights. How can a half-personality family educate a child with complete personality? Therefore, the education of Greek citizens was completed in the square. When men talk about politics, military affairs and culture in the square, they always learn how to be a citizen with some underage "little people". Today, the moral education of children in western countries depends not on families, but on churches.
Modern education pays more and more attention to family education, and thinks that parents are children's first teachers. However, family education in China tends to go to two extremes. The absence of father and the doting of mother, especially for the only child, may lead to selfishness, willfulness, cowardice, lack of independence and sense of responsibility. When he grows up and gets married, he will always ask his parents for help. My colleague's son, a junior, needs his mother to accompany him to the barber shop every time he gets a haircut. After my cousin's son lost his job, he asked his father to go out and help him find a job. He plays games at home.
Although family education in the west is not taken seriously, it is a tradition to go to church every weekend, and religious education has a profound influence on the cultivation of children's character. They have a sense of independence and will not fully accept their parents' views. When they are adults, they will consciously live independently and regard their parents as incompetent. The tuition fee for going to college depends on your own part-time job or student loan, so you can study and start your own business. What they lack is to keep close relationship with their parents, brothers and sisters. They don't think it is their responsibility to support their parents. Therefore, their parents are old and disabled, and they can't expect their children to provide for the elderly. They can only go to an old-age care institution or live in an elderly community.
Knowledge education depends on schools, while personality education depends on families. Our family education should absorb the advantages of the west, treat children as adults, allow children to speak in family affairs, encourage children to participate in social activities, persist in doing their own things, and cultivate their sense of responsibility and independent personality.