This is a conversation between Zan, the protagonist at the beginning of the movie Why Go Home, and others. At that time, Zan was being tried by the court. He was arrested and jailed for five years for wounding with a knife. During the trial, when the judge asked Zan's parents Zan's age, as parents, they didn't know Zan's exact date of birth could only be determined by medical certificate.

This magical and realistic film has aroused the curiosity of the audience at the beginning, and it is easy to lead the audience into a puzzle: what is the reason why a child who is only 12 years old hurts people with a knife? What makes a child sue his parents? As parents of children, how can they not know their age?

How to Go Home is a realistic film based on a true story. Female directors Labaki continued her constant concern and exploration of social issues, and created bitter tear gas for the audience with her unique perspective and presentation techniques. The story takes place among a group of Syrian refugees living in Lebanon. From the perspective of a child of 12 years old, it tells us a glimpse of the survival of the bottom people in Lebanon. The story begins with the protagonist's trial, and slowly unfolds the whole story in flashback, showing the audience the bitter past behind praising others and suing parents.

It is a universal understanding that all men are born equal, and it is also the goal that people strive to pursue in the cruel reality. Just as people should not be divided into high and low, so human nature should not be divided into good and evil. Born without support, born with support, born without support, by showing different attitudes towards children, we can see different people's different reactions to the same cruel reality and the test of human nature.

First of all, born without dependence: surrender to selfish humanity in reality.

"I hope adults will listen to me. I hope that people who can't afford children don't regenerate. " This is Zan's accusation against his parents and a cry for fate and reality.

Perhaps for Zan's parents, children are just the continuation and reproduction of life under the instinct of desire, and they themselves have no value to life.

In the first half of the film, Zan, who didn't leave, lived at the bottom of society like his parents. At a young age, in order to survive, he must personally erase the innocence that belongs to his children. Zan bought medicine at the drugstore. His expression and lying behavior prove that Zan has understood the so-called law of social survival, and he wants to make profits with his parents, brothers and sisters through some illegal means.

There is no doubt that the praise of struggling to survive can only sell coolies to people to survive. Although he envies those children who can go to school, social injustice has already been vividly displayed in him.

When Zan got up the courage to tell his parents that he wanted to go to school, his father was worried that no one would work, which would affect his livelihood, while his mother was worried that going to school would bring many benefits. No matter the parents' attitude or words, it proves that none of them will consider his problem from the perspective of Zan, which determines that Zan's road to study is difficult, so this matter finally falls through. This is a wonderful family and social environment.

Sister Saha was caught off guard at menarche. Zan knew that if his parents knew about it, they would definitely marry (sell) his sister, so he tried his best to help his sister hide it. But when he got home and saw some chickens in the stairwell, he realized that his parents had married his sister to the landlord Assad for a few chickens. Zan strongly opposed it and planned to leave home with his sister, but when he came back to pick her up, his parents had already sent her away by force. Zan's stopping power is to shake the tree in front of his parents. He can only express his anger and resistance by running away from home.

Throughout the film, Zan's parents appear in 1 1 scenes, including four confrontation scenes in court. From the beginning, the whole family committed crimes for their livelihood to the final court trial, all of them accused them of dereliction of duty as parents, and none of them showed the warmth and harmony that a family should have.

In the whole film, Zan's parents are both failed and incompetent. Their behavior reflects their evil nature. They didn't stand the test of reality. They exercise their rights as parents and regard their children as a tool to make money, but they completely selectively abandon their responsibilities and obligations as parents. There is no denying that the child's life is given by his parents, and we should be grateful, but the premise is that parents should have a kind heart, otherwise it will be the loss of human feelings.

Second, life and nurture: the basic bottom line of human nature that we should stick to.

In sharp contrast to Zan's parents who also live at the bottom of society and face the same social environment and reality test, Tagster, as a mother, sticks to the bottom line of human nature.

1. The tiger is guarding his son.

After Zan left home, he met his mother and son, who are also refugees. Seeing that he was homeless, the tiger took him in. Tiger's identity is fake, and his son Jonas is darker. When Zan is away, the tiger takes his son to work together. He hides his son in the toilet for fear of being seen by others. Since she met Zan, she left her son at home and let Zan take care of her.

Zan's parents don't hesitate to let their children break the law to make profits, while Taggart breaks the law to protect and take care of his son. On the birthday of his son Jonas, Taggart secretly took a cake from the restaurant to celebrate his birthday. The fake ID card is about to expire, and the cost of re-applying is very high. Tigers have no money to raise everywhere, so they have to cut their hair and sell it.

2. The tiger's guilt for his mother

Tygster, who was hard up, could no longer support his mother for practical reasons, so he had to call her in tears and tell her that he could not send her money. This time, Tiger was arrested because his identity was exposed, leaving Zan and Jonas, who was only one year old.

The tiger's tears for her mother are not only her helplessness to reality, but also the proof of her kind nature and her insistence on basic human nature.

3. The tiger's helplessness and struggle against reality

In this film, there are few scenes where Taggart and his son get along. Working in the bathroom, she took her son with her, took care of him at any time, bathed him and Zan, and secretly made him a birthday cake in the shop. When her son was caught, she was worried and miserable, and finally got together. All behaviors show a mother's due responsibility and attitude, and this attitude is her struggle against the helpless reality.

When handling the false certificate, Aspro told her bitterly: "Your son was born as if he didn't exist. He is a black household. Even a bottle of ordinary ketchup has a name, date of production and shelf life, but your son doesn't. " Hearing this, Tiger's heart was heavy, but when Aspro asked her to exchange her son's credentials, Tiger's answer was decisive and firm: "You can't even think about my son!"

This is what a normal parent should do, although her identity is the same as Zan's parents, and she is a bottom refugee. But she doesn't care about her children as much as her parents do, even in exchange for benefits. She has love and kindness in her heart.

Being a parent and raising girls is the most basic moral standard and the bottom line of human nature. Born to nurture, and then give love and warmth, this is what a qualified parent should do.

Third, nurturing without being born: the best expression of human nature.

1. Taggart praised "nothing to mention"

From this movie, we know that the tiger not only raised his son from birth, but also raised the homeless Zan. Whether out of sympathy or motherhood, she took Zan in, which is the best side of human nature.

After being taken in by the tiger, Zan lived with the tiger's mother and son. He took the responsibility of taking care of Jonas' daily life and regarded himself as Jonas' brother. Before Tiger was arrested, he fed Jonas, took him to watch cartoons and put him to bed. He is very patient. This is a rare warm picture of the whole film, and it is also a family warmth that Zan has never experienced, and all this was created by Taggart.

2. Praise to Jonas, the son of the tiger, "Nothing to raise".

After Tiger was arrested, Jonas cried in the days without his mother, and Zan robbed other children of their milk and fed it to Jonas. Not only that, he also robbed other people's children's flatbeds to drag Jonas to beg. There was really nothing to eat, so he went to the rescue station to get milk powder and diapers to tide over the temporary difficulties.

Zan and Tiger are not related, but they are better than relatives. Life is hard and warm. His relationship with Jonas is like brothers and relatives. In this story, the heartfelt sense of responsibility is his willful performance of not being "polluted" when he was a child.

Zan and Jonas are not related to each other, but when the tiger is away, he is Jonas' parents. Like a tiger, Zan is the opposite of his parents. He is responsible, kind, strong and brave.

In addition to praising one's sense of responsibility, this is more like praising gratitude and return to the tiger, and it can also be said to be a return to this family. Therefore, whether it is Tiger's adoption of Zan or Zan's careful care for his son Jonas after Tiger's arrest, it is the great love in the world and the most beautiful transmission and reincarnation of human nature.

Fourthly, Zan's complaint to parents is the director's complaint to human nature and social reality.

Back in the original movie, Zan was arrested for intentionally hurting others. He sued his parents in the court trial. When he said "I want to sue my parents", he didn't hesitate, his heart didn't fluctuate, his expression was calm and indifferent, like an outsider.

He is so calm because he wants to sue not only parents who are not like their parents, but also human nature and helpless social reality. As a child, he can't choose and change his own destiny, and he can't find a channel to speak. This is the only chance for him to launch an accusation against humanity and a struggle against fate.

The trial of praise given by the director is both idealistic and critical, an indictment of social reality, and a thought-provoking question left by the director to readers. Empathy has always been idealized, and only when you are there can you really feel the difficulties of others. If we also live in the environment where our parents are praised, how will we choose? This is worth thinking about, but in any case, we should strive to adhere to the basic principle of being born as a human being.

Mr. Lu Xun said: "The most painful thing in life is that there is no way to go when you wake up. Happy is the dreamer. If you can't see the way to go, the most important thing is not to wake him. " At the end of the movie, Zan laughed, but the audience cried. Sober praise makes us feel even more distressed. Children should be simple children, not "adults" who are victims of "dehumanized" adults.

Poverty is not terrible. The terrible thing is that human nature is defiled by poverty and the spirit is enslaved by poverty. "Many occupations need research, only parents don't need it. They can be parents if they want. "

Whether a person is willing to be a parent depends on his own wishes, without considering the quality of his personality, and children have no right to choose the quality of their parents. The relationship between parents and children is predestined, which is fate and a kind of practice. Keeping the bottom line of human nature, being good to children and raising them when they are born can better improve themselves. Being a parent is an original sin and a child's sorrow. Living and raising are human virtues and children's dependence; It is a great virtue to raise without being born, and it is a blessing for children. May every parent be kind to their children and practice life together.