A way for parents to educate their children.
Make friends with children.
Many parents put themselves in a very high position, and their views and behaviors, even if they are wrong, must be right for their children. Just like the former emperor, whatever the emperor did was right in the eyes of the courtiers.
Can't do this, parents should be friends with their children, they made mistakes, and parents have the courage to point out their mistakes; Parents should boldly point out their mistakes and parents must correct them.
2. Pay attention to children's hobbies.
Children's hobbies, if well developed, will generally become specialties, so parents must not deprive their children of the right to acquire specialties. Keep an eye on children and see what their hobbies are. Except for illegal and criminal acts, parents must try their best to support them.
For example, when I was a child, I especially liked "practicing martial arts". At that time, my brothers would go to the yard to make gestures whenever they were free, but every time my father would severely reprimand me: "Are you two brothers sick?"
Parents, please don't do this. You must support your children's hobbies. In today's society, anyone without special skills is doomed to be eliminated by society.
3. Change the tone and way of speaking
This is very, very important. The tone of speaking to children should be changed. Don't order a slave. Always say "I hope you will/won't …" and "I hope you can/can't …", with more requests and discussions in your tone, rather than condescending.
4. Give children a space to try independently.
I believe many parents will encounter such a situation. Suddenly, one day, the children tried to achieve something again and again. At this time, parents should pay attention. You'd better give him an encouraging word: "honey, I believe you can!" " Then turn around and leave. Never stare at him or walk around him.
The second way for parents to educate their children
There is no distinction between "good" and "bad" children.
Parents should never judge their children by "good children" and "bad children". Around us, we can often see or hear such a dialogue: "If you do something, you are a bad boy ..."
Parents must not say that. Parents can say, "son, I don't like what you do wrong." I like what you have done ... "
Children are very important to "good" and "bad". Don't judge a child with these two words.
6. The process is not the result.
It must be remembered that parents are not bosses and children are not employees. For children, what we want is the process, not the result. If parents appreciate their children's hard work, they will definitely work hard in the future. However, if parents only value the results, taking shortcuts and using their brains will become commonplace.
7. Don't care too much about the grades themselves.
This is a serious problem for most families. They attach too much importance to their grades. "Must score 100". Parents, don't do this. When they come home with their report cards, don't directly ask them how many points they got in the exam, but say to them, "If I didn't guess wrong, you did well in the exam, and I bought you something delicious ..."
Don't look at the report card in a hurry. It's best for your child to tell you the result on his own initiative. Don't care too much about the grades themselves, and don't scold the children if they don't get 100. After all, not everyone gets 100.
8. Participate in various activities invited by children.
When a child says that there will be a sports meeting or a parent-teacher conference, no matter how busy you are at this time, you must take time to watch the children perform. This is the best way to encourage children.
Whether the children win the game or not, don't show disappointment in front of them. We must affirm their efforts and cheer for them.
Three ways for parents to educate their children
1, stimulate thinking
What do you think should be done? What's your coup?
What should you do? What do you do first? Do what again?
If you think about it carefully, you can certainly think of a good way.
What might happen?
If you want ... how many ways do you think there are?
Think about it, is there any other way?
Let's do something together, ok? Or do you want to?
I'm sure you can come up with a good idea.
Dude, that's great. That's a good idea.
2. Strengthening the rules
I believe you can abide by …
I want you to do it.
I think what I said makes sense.
What you did violated the family rules.
It is unacceptable for you to do so.
I don't accept your behavior.
Never mind, you'll know what to do next time.
Please remember our rules.
Please apologize to me. Please prove it by action.
3. Suggestions and reminders
If I were you, I would do so. ...
Try another way?
Is this better?
Look, wouldn't it be better to say so?
Do you want to try another new method?
How about trying this?
Is it necessary to do it again?
It is time to do something.
Think about it, what else have you not done?
Think about it, how can we make fewer mistakes and not make mistakes?