There are three rebellious periods in the process of children's growth: the first is the "baby rebellious period", which appears at the age of 2 3; The second is "children's rebellious period", which appeared at the age of 7 9; The third rebellious period usually appears at the age of 65,438+02,65,438+08, which is often called "rebellious period of youth". This book is mainly about the third rebellious period, because this period has a more direct and closer impact on children's future.

During this period, children's psychological development mainly shows the following characteristics: First, their self-awareness is stronger. Children in the rebellious period of youth have acquired the ability to think and judge things independently, and have formed a preliminary outlook on life and values.

Their understanding of the world is different from that of adults, and excessive interference from parents can easily lead to conflicts between parents and children.

Second, I like to go against my parents. Children in this period will have a great deviation from their parents' expectations. You said I'd come from the east and go west. No matter how good parents are to their children, they may be ungrateful. In the face of such children, parents are easily upset.

Third, I like to be unconventional. Rebellious children like to follow the trend, like computers, mobile phones, like playing games, like chatting, like unconventional clothes, full of "alien languages." Parents are worried about their children, but the more they stop them, the easier it is for them to rebel.

Fourth, pursue yourself, no one is watching. Rebellious children have a strong sense of self, often immersed in their own world, and don't want others to disturb them, especially their parents. Parents get involved in their world, they will be very dissatisfied; Parents' concern can easily arouse their disgust.

Fifth, it is easy to form bad habits. Children like to be against their parents, and they also like to be against their parents. Even though they know what their parents said is right, they still follow their own thinking in words and deeds. After a long time, bad habits will form.

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Rebellious children usually feel that they have "grown up". They have a strong desire for self-expression, and their thinking likes to be different and unconventional everywhere. Parents adopt unconventional treatment methods, which will easily cause many adverse effects and enhance children's rebellious psychology. In the face of rebellious children, if parents blindly suppress them and use their "authority" to force them to obey, it will only aggravate their rebellious psychology. Blindly reprimanding, beating and cursing will also make children passive, timid, timid, or stubborn and daring.

In the face of rebellious children, most parents will feel that their children are unreasonable and don't know how to deal with them. In fact, the rebellious period of youth is a sensitive period. As long as the children are guided correctly, they can spend this life smoothly.

In order to help parents solve all kinds of puzzles in their rebellious youth, we specially wrote this book. The book not only expounds the psychological root of children's rebellion, but also analyzes the reasons and guiding methods of children's rebellion from the aspects of life, study, socialization, mentality, personality, emotion, comprehensive ability, values and financial management, because children's rebellious performance in these aspects is most likely to conflict with their parents.

This book skillfully combines cases, analysis and methods to help parents find their children's problems and find practical methods. Because these methods have been proved to be feasible by practice, as long as parents use them flexibly, children's rebellious behavior will gradually decrease, and finally they will successfully pass the rebellious period of youth. As long as children get through this rebellious period, they will lay a solid physical and psychological foundation for their future development, and the road of life will certainly go smoother. Therefore, from this perspective, children's rebellion is actually a good start!