Beating children can't teach them to respect their parents, but only make them fear their parents. Only under the premise of building a sense of trust and security, children will have good performance. The act of beating children obviously runs counter to this goal. Children can respect their parents only if they are not afraid.
Beating children will make them feel that hitting people is right, and hitting people is an acceptable way to solve contradictions. If a child hits his sister, we first tell him that it is wrong to hit him, and then hit him just because he hit his sister. This is completely a hypocritical practice that cannot be justified. In this way, children will think that there is reason to solve conflicts by force, which will only lead to more fights.
Painful experiences can't improve children's moral values. Although the pain or shock of being beaten may make the child stop bad behavior at that time, in the long run, this practice will not play any positive role. Beating can only make children afraid of being beaten, but it can't help them realize their mistakes in their hearts, establish their own views on right and wrong, and prevent them from repeating the same mistakes in the future. After a child was beaten for stealing cookies from a cookie bucket, what he learned may not be that he can't steal, but that he should try to avoid being found.
Beating a child will make the child feel that it is right to beat the person he loves. This kind of cognition will have a potential impact on the intimate relationship of children in the future, and will increase the possibility that children will become victims or abusers of domestic violence. The study found that children who have been beaten and abused since childhood are more likely to attack their parents, and boys who have experienced this experience are more likely to beat their girlfriends when they grow up.