As parents, our initial intention is to make our children happy, but it is a big mistake to equate happy education with giving up! Education is not black and white, the key is to find a balance.
1, many parents think that children can play casually and give whatever they want.
Children can be happy, which is actually the most misunderstood point.
If you just play, it is difficult for children to feel real happiness. What really makes children feel deeply happy is not dopamine, but serotonin. Serotonin comes from the sense of identity, control, belonging and accomplishment.
These feelings must be the deep happiness that children can get when they gain cognitive growth, overcome difficulties, make efforts and succeed.
Many parents think that children can be happy without studying.
Our parents think that learning is painful,
I passed on my emotions to my children. Children have always been eager to learn. Learning is not limited to books, learning new games, learning to ride a bike, learning to sing, playing chess and so on, all of which are learning processes.
In essence, people are studious, rote-memorizing and boring, and excessive study makes people suffer. However, we can't deny the value of learning itself. Only learning and growing can bring the meaning of life to children.
3. The real happiness education lies in providing emotional value+growth value.
Many parents think that happiness education often pays too much attention to happy emotions, tends to provide emotional value to children, and ignores good growth value.
Many parents who tout "happy education" think that happy education means following children's hearts, respecting children's ideas and acting according to their wishes.
But in fact, this kind of education is not the best way, and it may often hurt children, because children's concepts of three views and right and wrong are gradually formed.
If parents don't guide their children to develop in the right direction, children are likely to make big mistakes when they grow up.
4. I mistakenly think that happy education is to let children play.
Others think that happy education is to let children have fun. After all, children's nature is to play, and it is good for children to conform to nature.
However, this kind of education will only make children "useless", because learning is very important for children and cannot be ignored. If you don't pay attention, children will easily suffer in the future.
I mistakenly think that happy education means that I don't have to set rules for my children and don't care about them.
Some parents mistakenly think that happy education means that children don't have to set rules and do whatever they want, so these parents simply ignore their children.
You know, parents are the most important guides for children's growth. If parents don't set rules for their children, they will easily go astray.
5, mistakenly believe that happy education is not necessary to cultivate children's abilities in all aspects.
Parents should not only guide their children's growth, but also cultivate their abilities in all aspects. For example, children's learning ability, independent ability, social ability and so on. Are all abilities that we need to cultivate.
If parents blindly advocate happy education and do not cultivate their children's ability at all, children are likely to suffer when they grow up.
6. "Happy education" is a scam, not the truth.
If we insist that happy education is a scam, it is actually not established. After all, it is not good for children's growth if they only pay attention to education and ignore their emotions.
If you want to educate children well, you can't be too extreme. Whether it is "happy education" or "exam-oriented education", we must have a good proper limit.
For example, when educating children, parents should respect their emotions. This means that parents should pay attention to their children's emotional changes when putting pressure on them or criticizing them.
If parents don't consider the actual situation at all, only know to let their children listen to themselves and only know to beat and scold their children, then children are prone to psychological problems.
I met a naughty boy before, and his mother was so strict with him that the child became extreme and suffered from serious mental illness.
Of course, this does not mean that parents should let it go. After all, parents' guidance and training will have an impact on their children's later life, and parents should be educated.
Only by grasping the sense of proportion can we educate our children well.