Therefore, the "hardship education" advocated has been recognized by more and more people. Jiang Wen once lived in the desert with his two sons for a year, just to let the children grow up under difficult living conditions. Many parents also send their children to Shaolin Temple to attend an "ascetic monk class" to let them learn to cut wood, cook and be vegetarian. I also hope that children can remember that painful experience and cherish the beautiful life now. There are three kinds of sufferings that children must eat. "Three Kinds of Bitterness" that Children Must Eat
The first category: the pain of learning.
Learning must be a hard process, and it is also a process that you must work hard to gain. In order to learn, the ancients could "hang their heads and stab their stocks" and dig up the foundation to borrow light. It is precisely because the ancients suffered a lot in their studies that the treasures of China's 5,000-year-old culture can be spread around the world. And the pain of learning is irreplaceable by parents. Children should pay by themselves, experience by themselves and feel by themselves.
Children need to go through the pain of persistent study and hard work. Many children facing the college entrance examination compress their rest and entertainment time and study late into the night. This process is something that children must go through. Only when they have experienced the pain of hard work can they enjoy the happiness of success. Children need to go through difficulties in solving learning problems, accumulate exploration, do not flinch when they encounter knowledge that they can't learn for the time being, and study hard to overcome difficulties. Only in this way can children acquire new knowledge, accumulate knowledge, broaden their horizons, improve themselves and have a variety of talents and abilities.
The second category: frustration.
. No one's life will be smooth sailing. Although parents cut off difficulties for their children, children will still encounter setbacks and failures that they should face. Many children will be devastated in the face of failure and will shrink back. This is that they have suffered too little from setbacks and have not yet established a correct understanding of setbacks and failures. Therefore, parents should give their children the opportunity to grow up independently, don't try to help them solve all the problems, let them try to fail, and let them stand up and start again in the face of the failed mess.
Children have to go through the process of loss, guilt and worry about failing the exam before they can truly understand that studying hard is to make themselves more confident; Children have to experience the failure of not ranking in the competition before they can truly understand what competition is, what opponents are, and what the strong have the hands of the strong, and then they will know that only by making more efforts can they get the results they want. Only by overcoming setbacks can children develop a tenacious, optimistic and cheerful character and face all kinds of bumps on the road of life.
The third kind of suffering: the suffering of poverty
No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education or suffer from children. This is an educational principle that many families believe in, so no matter how much financial pressure parents face, they will try their best to make their children live a rich life, and there will be news that their father sells blood to buy Apple mobile phones for their children. But there are poor people and rich people in this world, and no one can guarantee that their children will be rich all their lives. If children can't have a correct understanding of poverty, they will be extravagant and have no way to deal with their own lives.
Children have to feel poverty before they know that their present life is worth cherishing and that their parents' efforts are worthy of gratitude. Children have to experience poverty before they know that hard work is important. They must redouble their efforts if they want to live the life they want. When children suffer from poverty, they will learn to plan ahead, learn to plan ahead, and learn to prepare for tomorrow today. This reserve includes money, as well as knowledge, mental preparation and physical reserve.
Therefore, although today's children don't necessarily need to "eat bitter" to achieve something, parents still can't deprive their children of the opportunity to suffer. Parents have to let their children go through some hardships before they can establish a three-dimensional world view. Children who grow up in the circle of parental protection have a one-sided understanding of the world and society. Suffering hardship is a compulsory course in children's life. What parents have to do is to stay out of it and accompany them quietly.