I never rule out parents' unforgettable love for their children, nor do I deny that parents have a high sense of responsibility for their children, not to mention that parents do not know how to educate their children. However, I want to say that it is inappropriate or unreasonable to beat and scold children from any angle.
Let's not say that beating and scolding children meets the requirements of pedagogy, behavior and related laws. We only say that beating and scolding children has caused great trauma to children's minds, and we can find that parents who beat and scold children have indeed made a big mistake.
One day, I passed by a primary school and saw a mother leading a seven-year-old girl to school. When she walked to the school gate, the little girl didn't say anything and didn't enter the school gate. No matter what her mother said, it didn't help. Maybe my mother is in a hurry to go to work or do business. She looked at her watch and suddenly raised her voice: "I'll hit you whether you go or not!" " The little girl still won't go. Mother was in a hurry, bent down and picked up a disposable chopstick from the ground, and threatened severely: "You say, go or not!" Say, hold the chopsticks high. At this moment, I saw the pain in my child's heart flow out like a spring. She hugged her arms tightly, huddled up, shivering, bent down and let out a piercing scream. Mother continued to growl. It lasted about three minutes, and the little girl ran into the school like crazy.
Seeing this shocking scene, I was very unhappy. Although the chopsticks raised by the mother did not fall on the child, they did not cause any physical harm to the child, and they were only disposable chopsticks. Even if it falls on children, it won't hurt them. So, why do children tremble and scream? Through the performance of the child at that moment, I am sure that the little girl's psychological injury is very deep. I guess the little girl may often be threatened and intimidated by her parents, and even often beaten and scolded by her parents, so that when this threat comes, she can't help shivering and her voice is harsh. We can imagine how fragile the little girl is psychologically and what kind of pressure she can bear in her later life.
Tell us a truth, never take punishment when educating children, because this will not only solve the problem, but also bring great mental harm to children. If this kind of injury is too deep, it will be difficult to heal for a long time, and some will even be incurable for life.
Parents may not think so, because he found that children are buying. Yes, in real life, this phenomenon is quite common. The child made a mistake, so give him a beating. Parents are happy when children admit their mistakes, which not only educates children, but also proves that their methods are effective. However, the psychological trauma left by children is absolutely invisible to parents. Children who are often scolded by their parents sometimes cry alone in the corner, sometimes in the quilt, and sometimes in the toilet.
In order to keep roads unblocked and protect pedestrians' safety, many places have traffic lights, overpasses, underpasses and other places that need to cross the road, but some people cross the guardrail in order to save a few steps and save time. Even some parents even took their children over the guardrail of the road. This uncivilized behavior will not only affect the normal traffic order, bring great security risks, but also cause extremely bad effects on children.
Parents take their children over the guardrail, and when the children grow up a little, they will climb over the guardrail themselves. On the other side of the guardrail is the highway where vehicles gallop. If you are not careful, you may be hit by the opposite vehicle. Therefore, taking children over the guardrail is tantamount to letting children ignore their own personal safety. This bad traffic habit may lead to traffic accidents.
Opposite the vegetable market is a residential area, but there is a road in the middle, which needs to bypass the guardrail to get to the vegetable market. In order to save trouble, a father in the community often takes his 6-year-old child over the guardrail.
Once caught by the traffic police, my father plausibly said, "I'll walk 50 meters to the traffic lights and then turn back." Every time you buy food, you should walk more 100 meters. " Besides, I'm not the only one who climbed the guardrail here! "The traffic police looked at the children around them and said," You climb over the guardrail every day, and the children will follow. When you can't see him, he may jump over the guardrail and cross the road by himself. Can you ensure that children can safely avoid cars and cross the road every time? 100m which is more important, the road or the safety of children? " Father was suddenly startled. Obviously, he didn't consider the bad influence brought by his behavior, so he stopped defending and said to the traffic police, "Comrade, thank you! I promise I will never climb over the guardrail again from now on! "
What the traffic police said was really thought-provoking. As parents, everything they say and do will be seen by children, and children will learn to do it. Parents take their children over the guardrail and the children learn to do it. The consequences may be unimaginable. Therefore, as parents, we must first obey the traffic rules and give our children a good demonstration. Not only do we not climb over the guardrail ourselves, but we also teach our children never to take risks with their own bodies.
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1. Parents should set an example. When crossing the road, you should go from the place with traffic lights, or take the overpass or underground passage. They would rather wait and walk for a while, and never cross the guardrail.
2. Parents should tell their children to take a special passage when crossing the road, never cross the guardrail, and tell them about the traffic accidents caused by others crossing the guardrail to improve their vigilance.
3. Let the children know that even if they walk with others, when others want to climb over the guardrail, they should be reminded to obey the traffic rules. If others don't listen to advice, you should cross the road according to the rules and don't climb the guardrail with him.
4. If there is a big gap in the guardrail, the child can drill through the guardrail and warn him not to drill the guardrail, so it is easy to be hit by the opposite vehicle.
3. Parents must watch: What if the child's composition is not good? If you want to improve your child's writing ability, you must let him read more books. It's usually like this. The more books children read, the stronger their expressive and writing skills, and the higher their Chinese scores will be.
The child used to write badly, and I didn't have much time to teach him, so I had to think of other ways. Reading can improve children's writing ability, so I bought all kinds of extracurricular books for children. There is a set of children's literature, and children learn it well. Now that I have read it, it is not as difficult for children to write a composition as before, nor will they struggle for a long time with a composition book. There are more and more words in writing, and occasionally a few good sentences will pop up. The teacher was also surprised that the child's composition made such rapid progress, which really made me very happy. The most important thing is that children become more and more sensible, know to care about us and learn actively. By the way, that set of books is called "Hu Xiao Diary".
Proper reading can not only improve children's writing level, but also guide children's growth. It's killing two birds with one stone!
On April 1 day, a pair of young parents dragged their son across the road at a red light in Hankou, Wuhan. The child said noisily, "The teacher said you can't cross the road when the red light is on."
Mom said "it doesn't matter, hurry up", and dad repeatedly said "go, go". Two adults dragged their children across the street, and the children cried and made noise, which attracted passers-by to wait and see.
"Stop at the red light and go at the green light" is a well-known traffic rule for women and children. The children in the report can still obey. Why do parents care so little? Recently, the reporter visited several main roads in the city and found many similar phenomena.
Actions speak louder than words. Parents should set a good example for their children with practical actions, instead of taking tutoring as a joke. A naive child is like a blank sheet of paper. Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds in family education, and never leave a bad mark on their children's hearts, so that children will lose at the starting line if they lose to their parents.
If you have any ideas or different opinions on this topic, you can search for "Baotou Evening News Education Weekly" on Sina or Tencent Weibo, join the official Weibo of Baotou Evening News Education Weekly, and interact with the editor of this edition in Weibo. Are you qualified to be a child's first teacher? When a child is born, it is a blank sheet of paper.
Parents are the key factors that can't be ignored if you want to draw beautiful patterns on this piece of white paper. As a child's first teacher.
Parents' words and deeds will affect the shaping of children's character and have a decisive impact on their growth. However, few parents reflect on whether their behavior is improper when complaining about their children's behavior.
At present, many parents have some misunderstandings about their children's love and education. For example, family education puts children's achievements first, expects too much of children, attaches importance to intellectual education and ignores moral education, but ignores the cultivation of children's ability to seek knowledge, cooperate and survive; There are also some parents who love their children too much, let themselves go or make a fuss about the problems encountered in their children's growth, which leads to their spoiled and selfish personality, disrespect for the elderly, love to contradict their elders, and do not know how to share ... The quality of parents is the key reason for these misunderstandings in family education. Lenin's wife, Krupskaya, said: "Family education is first and foremost the self-education of parents."
It can be seen that the core of family education is the improvement of parents' own quality. The continuity of family education cannot be ignored. In addition, while constantly improving their own quality, parents need to realize that the most important feature of family education is continuity.
After the child is born, he lives at home for almost 2/3 of the time and is educated by his parents all day. This kind of education is carried out intentionally or unintentionally, planned and unplanned, consciously or unconsciously. No matter how and when education is carried out, it is parents who influence their children with their words and deeds anytime and anywhere.
This kind of education is constantly influencing and demonstrating children's living habits, moral conduct and manners. Its subtle function is quite great. As a person lives, it can be said that it is never too old to learn, so some educators call parents lifelong teachers. Use "example" to light the green light of family education. In reality, parents always teach their children to do this, not that.
But in practice, the actual behavior of adults is often contrary to the lip service of educating children. For example, "parents force their children to run red lights" is a typical example. I firmly believe that this parent will teach his children not to run red lights at home.
Adults have different words and deeds, not only running red lights, but also many aspects, such as not letting children play games and being more obsessed with themselves than children; For example, let children read more, but children don't like reading; For example, make children kind, but they are evil, and so on. This phenomenon can be called the red light phenomenon of family education and should be stopped quickly.
As the saying goes, children have the shadow of their parents, from which it is not difficult to see the importance of parents' education for their children. This kind of education is not oral education, but practical education. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by example and plays a decisive role in family education. To put it bluntly, parents' unconscious behavior is the most direct imitation benchmark for children.
Therefore, as parents, as the first responsible person of family education, we must be cautious and strict with ourselves. Only in this way can we set a good example for children and guide them to grow up in a civilized, healthy and happy way. On the contrary, it can only make children ugly, deformed and painful.
The red light phenomenon in family education is a phenomenon that we often ignore and must arouse our vigilance. As parents, we should always remind ourselves to give the green light in family education so that children can grow up green, smoothly and healthily. Never create a red light for family education, and cultivate the deformed quality of children running red lights from an early age.
Don't let the quality of parents affect the growth of children. My friend's daughter is over 6 years old this year. During the conversation, he said that although he didn't like reading, he forced himself to keep reading every day. In order to let his young daughter see his father reading, her daughter would also like reading and studying.
While lamenting that it is not easy to be a parent, the author agrees with my friends' understanding in this respect. This move can really set a good example for young children. However, many parents do not understand this.
Mom Doudou has been very upset recently. Doudou is only 5 years old, but he is often constipated. Ask Doudou's diet, only to know that Doudou only likes to eat meat, not how to eat vegetables and fruits.
Further understanding found that peas are picky eaters for a reason, and peas' parents also have the same eating habits. Such scenes abound in life.
Can eating habits, words and deeds be inherited? Of course not, but these can be imitated and learned. Father gives his son fist education, and his son often fights with children in kindergarten; The daughter was asked to behave in a dignified and polite manner, but the mother spoke ill of her neighbors.
On June 1 day, a pair of young parents dragged their son across the road at a red light in Hankou, Wuhan. The child said noisily, "The teacher said you can't cross the road when the red light is on."
Mom said "it doesn't matter, hurry up", and dad repeatedly said "go, go". Two adults dragged their children across the street, and the children cried and made noise, which attracted passers-by to wait and see.
"Stop at the red light and go at the green light" is a well-known traffic rule for women and children. The children in the report can still obey. Why do parents care so little? Recently, the reporter visited several main roads in the city and found many similar phenomena.
Actions speak louder than words. Parents should set a good example for their children with practical actions, instead of taking tutoring as a joke. A naive child is like a blank sheet of paper. Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds in family education, and never leave a bad mark on their children's hearts, so that children will lose at the starting line if they lose to their parents.
If you have any ideas or different opinions on this topic, you can search for "Baotou Evening News Education Weekly" on Sina or Tencent Weibo, join the official Weibo of Baotou Evening News Education Weekly, and interact with the editor of this edition in Weibo.
6. Composition about Parents and Children Parents' love is the greatest and most selfless love in the world. They gave us life and love, which no one can replace. My mother's love is the driving force that inspires me to move forward, and my father's love brings me magical and great power. My parents take good care of me. And what have I done for my parents? I often think so, so I fall into memories, deep in thought, and think back to the past.
It was a dark night and there was a strong wind outside the window. I finished cleaning the classroom and began to pack my schoolbag, ready to go home. "Click-",there was a sudden thunder in the sky, followed by a downpour. My heart was black, I threw my clothes over my head and rushed out. Just as I was approaching the school gate, two familiar figures flashed into my eyes-my father and my mother, but both of them had only an umbrella in their hands. My mother smiled and said to me, "Your father and I came directly from the office without an umbrella." No, it's raining too hard. Both of them will get wet when they fight. I want to give this umbrella to Shi Hao. "Dad said quickly and held out his umbrella." I want to have a fight with my father. "Then I jumped under my father's umbrella. My father held an umbrella in one hand and tried to hug my shoulder in the other. Three people and two umbrellas were hidden in the water mist. At that moment, I felt so happy.
In the dim light, my mind suddenly flashed one picture after another: I remember, because I was in a hurry to go to school, I forgot to bring my exercise book. After my father found out, he ran to send it to the classroom for me; I remembered that when I forgot to go home because I was playing basketball, my mother was busy looking for me everywhere. I remembered his urgent voice in the microphone when I called my father who was away on business: "The fuse is in the toolbox on the balcony, so don't forget to pull out the knife first when you fuse"; I remembered my mother's words before I left home every time I met an exam: "Don't panic, believe in yourself." Too many past events suddenly gushed out, making me burst into tears.
Parents' love is like the fragrant touch of lily, which slowly gathers and no longer drifts away. I think maybe no one in this world will say that he doesn't love his parents, but can he say that he can fully repay his parents' love? Maybe it is far from it. In the eyes of my parents, love means walking with you, and I won't be tired no matter how far I walk, so I will never forget my father's eager words when he holds my draft composition: "Change it, change it again, and you can copy it." I won't forget my mother getting up early in the morning to make breakfast for me-life is too long, and this moment is happiness.
Thinking of this, I can't help thinking of the prophet Elijah in the Bible. He covered his face with his hand and didn't dare to look at the face of God. I think parents can enjoy this right. They have sacred things handed down from "God" to the world.
7. Asking for a composition is to write a composition that I will be an adult for one day and an adult will be a child for one day. I'm in charge today.
One sunny morning, my father went to work, but my mother was mysteriously "missing". I thought to myself, mom is not at home today, so I will "be a home"!
Do it! I will sweep the floor first. I picked up the broom and swept every corner of my house. Wow! A lot of rubbish was swept out. I want to throw away the garbage, but some small garbage is really naughty and hides under the dustpan, so I have to move back and get it. With great effort, I finally got what I wanted.
Then, I mop the floor. Mopping the floor is much easier than sweeping the floor. The floor laid in my house is ceramic tile, which is very convenient to drag. If chewing gum sticks to the ground, it will disappear without a trace as long as it is wiped with a rag. In less than ten minutes, the ground became clean.
Then, I wash clothes. I took a small stool, took a basin of water, put the clothes to be washed in the basin, wiped some soap with my hands, and the dirty things went into the water at once.
After a day's work, I'm exhausted and my back aches. I thought to myself: Mom is not easy!
8. Primary school composition The troubles of adults are simple:
First of all, it is absolutely original!
Adults say that children of our generation are the happiest. But who knows, the childhood intertwined with happiness and trouble is like the palmprint line of our palm. How can adults understand our troubles? !
Why do I say that?
"It's really my trouble", and list it for everyone to see:
Looking forward to it, the exam is over and we have a desirable winter vacation. I thought it was a holiday, so I can finally relax for a day. But mom and dad just want to give us a "small stove" and arrange for us to go to various cram schools and remedial classes early, alas! The wonderful plan fell through! What kind of day was it? A total of one month's holiday, of which 15 is spent on Olympiad, the other seven days are spent preparing for CET-2, and the remaining seven days are on Spring Festival holiday. I have to finish public English, Olympic Mathematics, winter vacation homework left by the school, and recite English words. Oh, my God! Is this called happiness?
Talk to you about learning public English again! Do you know that the second level of public English I am currently studying is actually equivalent to the course of senior high school students? I am a fifth-grade pupil. According to common sense, it took me four years to learn that thing. Do you find it difficult? I have to recite more than 1000 English words this winter vacation. I recite quickly and forget quickly. On average, I recite 40 words every day. How can I resist? Not only that, but also complete 10 reading, write 2 English compositions, recite n texts ... and describe it in one word: bitter! Describe it in two words: too bitter! Especially English writing, I don't know how many times more difficult it is than Chinese writing. I must consider grammar, tense and sentence patterns. I really don't understand why God made English so complicated!
You are so annoying!
Parents are looking forward to their children's success and their daughters' success, which everyone knows, but … alas! Although I am bitter, but look around, students who are not bitter? Whenever I recite English words with the light on at night, I look out of the window. Little by little, other children may do Olympic math exercises and write compositions all night ... Since there are so many people like me, what do I have to complain about?
Parents always say that "if you don't work hard when you are young, you will be sad when you are old", which can encourage you to be young and bring us not only a heavy academic burden, but also a lack of innovative spirit and practical ability. To get rid of troubles, we can only admit reality, face challenges and have fun in suffering.
Although I have studied public English, I won't worry about learning school English, and learning it is a piece of cake; Although I won't find it difficult to learn school mathematics after class, I feel relaxed, but this is the price I gave up a lot of childhood happiness! I can only comfort myself every day: I have overcome several difficult problems today, and my ranking has advanced several times, which makes my irritable mood gradually better! But I still hope, when can we really implement quality education? When can I really enjoy every day of my childhood happily?
I like Angela Zhang's song "Invisible Wings", which is like this: Every time, I am strong in the loneliness of wandering, and every time, even if I am injured, I don't cry. I know I always have a pair of invisible wings that take me flying and give me hope. ...
There must be a lot of troubles in the process of growing up. Let's enjoy ourselves and let go of our growing troubles. Let's do better and fly higher!
9. The composition about friendship needs to describe the environment, and adults should participate in it. Children have troubles, and many friendships are worth cherishing. It was a knife that broke the stone in my heart; Friendship is a lamp that illuminates the darkness in my heart; Friendship is a huge box, harvest happiness and share happiness.
Find a friend in the vast sea of people? Difficult! Find a bosom friend? It is even harder! But all these encounters seem to be arranged by heaven, so that you can get a precious friendship by chance, depending on whether you are willing to cherish it ... Perhaps, friendship is like this and comes unexpectedly. Of course, I am no exception. Time seems to go back, back to the day when I first got real friendship.
"Rinrin Bell ..." As soon as the bell rang, the students, like birds released from cages, "flew" to the activity venue outside the classroom. Soon after, a burst of laughter came to my ears.
Curious, I walked out of the classroom, sat under the tree next to me and watched the game composed of only two or three people. I wanted to dance with them, but I didn't dance after a week. When I got up the courage to join their game, they accepted me without hesitation.
In the game, Zhao Zhang and He Lang became my best friends and my first friendship, and this friendship gradually became clear in the interesting game ... Of course, there are more than one kind of friendship. In the fourth grade, a boy named Kun Wang sat next to me and was the main seat in the class.
At that time, I didn't expect his name to enter my "good friends" list. Because of the seat, our feelings are growing day by day, rising to the position of my bosom friend.
In this way, day after day, year after year, the four of us became inseparable bosom friends, which also made me feel happy from my friends-especially that rainy day. Which rainy day is a rainy day that makes people unprepared.
Rain keeps falling and changes at any time, sometimes heavy and sometimes small. In the face of this sudden rain, Su Xin and I were at a loss.
It's getting dark and the rain hasn't stopped. Just as Kun Wang and I decided to rush home, an umbrella covered my head. I looked back in surprise. It turned out to be He Mingbin. He seems to know what I am thinking. Before I could speak, he asked, "Are you going to the East, too? Then let's go together! " I smiled happily, warm as fire, and instantly occupied my cold heart.
I don't know when, He Mingbin appeared between Kun Wang and me, opened his umbrella and said, "Let's go together. I'll just take He Mingbin to the food market. " In this way, the four of us talked and laughed, breaking the silence on campus.
At that moment, there was a distance in my heart, because at that moment, I understood what true friendship is-lend a helping hand when you are a friend, and a friend will cheer you up when you need help, but in any case, don't abandon your friend or friendship at the last minute. As time goes by, primary school life is about to say goodbye.
There are only a few months left to spend with friends. After graduation, maybe God will let our fate continue, but maybe not. I think, cherish the present time, cherish the present friendship and leave deep memories among friends. Such friendship is the real friendship! Friendship is an angel that makes me happy; Friendship is sweeter than cherry happiness; Friendship is an important part of making the boat of life extremely wonderful! Isn't friendship worth cherishing Friendship begins and ends. Only friendship remains the same.
This sentence reminds me of my best friend. It is friendship that keeps us inseparable. Experienced many ups and downs, crossed many gullies, and went to primary school with him for six years, which is not long, but there are always endless memories.
However, one year later, I still keep in touch with him. Looking back, I think he has courage, too brave.
He is a man who loves Kung Fu. He practices kung fu after class. I was influenced by him and began to learn this.
I also know that he practices Kung Fu not only to keep fit, but also to defend his motherland. In the scorching sun, his face shone brilliantly. He is like a sunflower, so he can face the sun from morning till night because of his persistence and unremitting efforts! However, he has succeeded now, and his grades are among the best. He is an excellent student in sports.
On second thought, when I spoke to him, I didn't know it was language communication, but also spiritual enjoyment. This is also his courage and righteousness.
In other words, a friend who can stand up in a crisis is a true friend. He is like this. When I was bullied, he stood up for me against the bad guys. I helped him. With our cooperation, those bad guys dare not come again. How proud and happy they were at that time.
There is a student in the class who always has a problem with him and often quarrels with him. I helped him out of danger and got rid of his dissatisfaction. I comforted and encouraged him many times. Seeing his victory, I feel my hands smell good. That student, however, sneered at us. We had some misunderstandings, but one thing let us know that friends need tolerance, understanding and acceptance.
We are always in the glory of friendship. I heard that his father bought a new house and he moved away. I think it's a pity. Maybe we can never change. I used to live near him and often came to see him, but now that we have moved, how can we meet?
Now, the house has been decorated and can be moved in. He called me-he stopped moving, and his father agreed to let him live here.
He didn't move for me. It was really great and really moved me. I believe that friendship can keep us together forever.
Once, on my way home, I rode by his house. I saw him on the balcony. I stopped and shouted. When he heard me, he called my name excitedly. I am very excited: "Great, finally meet you." He said, "I dreamed yesterday that I would see you today, and I did. God really helped us.
Yes! On the way home, I thought, how brave you are, how brave you are, and the friendship between you and me is infinitely beautiful. There are endless words between you and me, and I am worried all the time. Friendship keeps us inseparable.