The story of The Farmer and the Snake is still on today. We place too high expectations on human nature, and reality often makes us despair of human nature.
I have to say that our domestic parents are too lacking in safety education for their children. We have taught children kindness, courage and courage, but we have always lacked the ability to educate children to protect themselves at the scene of crisis.
Therefore, we should constantly warn our children when they are young:
Be responsible for your own safety when you are alone.
Never try anything dangerous, let alone hand over the responsibility of maintaining your own safety to anyone except your parents.
Jiangge died tragically only because she met Liu Xin, an inhuman "good friend". In order to protect Liu Xin from harm, Jiangge took her to her home and came forward to negotiate with the murderer, but Liu Xin, a so-called "good friend", locked the door behind her and refused to open the door despite Jiangge's desperate cry for help. What Liu Xin has done is obviously determined to let Jiangge, who really cares about her, die instead of herself.
Does this case also make your back feel cold?
Don't expect your friends to stand in front of your life and death, as long as they don't block your escape door behind you.
More importantly, a true good friend will not lead you to stand under a dangerous wall, let alone watch you fall into danger step by step and ask you to "don't call the police and tell others".
Rule 2 of Crisis Management: Teach children to identify "dangerous people" and try to stay away from them.
There is a popular "Ten Rules for Children's Safety" abroad, and parents will ask children to remember this 10 rule firmly to protect themselves from danger:
1. I am the master of my own body, and no one can force me to do anything.
I want to clearly remember my name, home address, parents' names and telephone numbers, and contact them for help if necessary.
3. Good and safe adults will not ask their children for help. If they really need help, they will ask other adults for help. Only cunning criminals will try to get children to "help"
In the face of any demand from cunning criminals, the answer should be a firm "no"!
I'm not going anywhere and I don't take things from strangers.
Before I go with others or get on the bus, I must confirm with adults (teachers, parents) who I think are safe before I leave. If it can't be confirmed at that time, my answer is no.
6. The body parts covered by my bathing suit are private and cannot be touched and touched by others.
7. I don't have to be polite to everyone all the time. When others make me feel scared, disgusted or uncomfortable, I will say "no" loudly. If I feel my safety is threatened, I will try my best to resist.
8. I have no obligation to keep a secret, especially when this secret makes me feel scared or uneasy. A kind and safe adult will not threaten children and ask them to keep secrets.
9. If you get lost with your family in public, you should first calm down and ask for help from safe adults (police, uniformed staff, mothers with children, etc.). ).
10. I will follow my inner voice, especially when I feel dangerous intuition. I want to stay away from people who give me dangerous instincts.
We should tell our children:
"When you think things are bad enough to call the police for help, you should not hesitate to call the police. No matter what others say, your feelings are the most important. "
If you want to keep children away from danger, you must guard against even the slightest delay in your daily life. Criminals usually choose the weakest role in the gang. If children usually adhere to the idea of "more than one thing is better than less", dare not protect their own interests, dare not call the police, constantly give in and lower the bottom line, criminals will become more and more rampant.
On the other hand, if children are usually taught not to be "soft persimmons" but to be "hard bones" and take tough measures to protect themselves when necessary, it will be difficult for criminals to find an opportunity and have to converge.
Rule 3 of crisis management: Teach children to use "safe passwords" and establish a "safe circle of friends" with the outside world.
For example, women who live alone abroad are more likely to be targets of criminals. In view of this situation, they usually establish a "safe circle of friends" and contact several friends in the circle regularly to share the latest situation. If someone is in trouble, you can help each other, don't fight alone.
Some people will set a "safe fast broadcast key" on their mobile phones at home and record the distress call in advance. In the event of an accident, they can quickly spread the call for help to people they trust and strive for escape time.
Facing the increasingly serious problem of children's safety in China, I suggest that both children and parents use "security passwords". This is what I learned from a university professor in Canada. She shared with us the story of setting a "security password" with her daughter.
When their daughter was still in kindergarten, they agreed to choose a specific word as a "safe password" every day. The security code must not be told to anyone except the mother and daughter's pick-up and drop-off on that day. When the children's kindergarten is over, no matter who picks up their daughter, they must say the word accurately, otherwise the daughter will never go with that person.
For example, on Monday morning, the mother told her daughter:
"Remember baby, today's security password is' Apple'."
In the afternoon, grandma went to pick up her daughter. In the first second, my daughter threw herself into her grandmother's arms with a big smile. The next second, my daughter left her grandmother, looked up and asked seriously:
"Grandma, what is my security password today?"
When grandma said "apple" accurately, she went home with grandma at ease.
Once grandma went out in such a hurry that she forgot to ask her mother's "security password" that day, and the child refused to go home with her. Later, grandma borrowed the phone from kindergarten to call her mother. After learning the "security password", she successfully took the child home.
We can't be too careful in today's high IQ crimes and scams.
No personal safety, nothing.
I only hope that parents can do their best to educate their children about safety and don't let criminals take advantage of it. We should weave a big net with IQ, kindness and justice to separate children from darkness and let ugly criminals have nothing to hide.