First, we must understand children, understand and support them.

Don't think that children only have executive power, and children also have independent subjective rights. In the family, everyone is the subject and object of the family environment, and their roles are mutually transformed. Only in this way can children respect and trust their parents and study and live in harmony with them.

Second, take family education as the starting point.

Many parents think that everything can be done by giving their children to school. This educational concept is harmful to children and families. Parents should realize that family is the first step in educating their children. If we go beyond the first level and then go to the next level of education, it will violate the most basic educational concept. Therefore, parents should improve themselves and take family education as the starting point to effectively educate their children!

Third, studying with children is the standard point.

Many parents think that going to school is a child's business, and parents only need to provide money to their children to fulfill their responsibilities and obligations. This view is wrong and naive. Running a family requires everyone's selfless dedication. Similarly, children's study and life also need the participation and support of parents. Parents and children are cooperative relationships that learn from each other and support each other, rather than a single "employment relationship". Children are not slaves to life and study, let alone machines to carry on the family line. When parents learn from their children, they will know more about their real needs, and children will also absorb more nutritional value from their parents' manners. This is the importance of parents and children learning from each other!

Fourth, take self-improvement as the starting point.

The traditional educational concept of parents' free-range rearing has been unsuitable or has hindered the healthy growth of children's body and mind in the new era. Whether it is family or school education for children, it is inseparable from the premise of parents' self-improvement, and it is also the starting point of children's education and family happiness. It can be seen that only by improving themselves can parents grow physically and mentally. Parents should remember that earning money is not an education for their children, but a basic condition for self-survival.

Fifth, parents must keep pace with the times and keep learning.

The subject and object of education are advancing with the times, constantly changing and developing. For example, children's high academic performance and good comprehensive quality are inseparable from the education of excellent teachers. Irresponsible teachers can't teach excellent students. Similarly, the superior family education environment, children's quality and temperament are different from others, a poor child, his parents will not be very good. The superiority of family environment is not the superiority of material life, but the study and living environment in which parents and children live in harmony. Therefore, if parents want their children to be excellent, they must keep learning and improving!

How should parents educate their children?

1. Parental rearing patterns will also have an important impact on children's personality growth. First, parents' confidence. Parents' confidence in their children is a necessary condition for effective education. In childhood, a mother's trust will cultivate a confident child. The confident mothers of most successful children are willing to seek and accept advice. Secondly, parents' optimism. Parents are full of optimistic feelings about their children and the future, which is an extremely important cornerstone of good training. Then, parents' calmness, mother's love, parents' empathy, enthusiasm and independence for their children are all pleasant. These are the qualities that successful children need for good upbringing.

2. Parents' personality characteristics will play a great role in children's growth. First of all, parents' genes lay a large part of a child's personality. For example, if parents are lively and active, it is unlikely that you want a quiet and steady child. Secondly, parents are the children's first teachers and the children's initial learning and imitation objects, so parents' personality plays a great role in children's growth. Before becoming parents, we should make our personality mature, have a stable personality, learn more about how to raise a child, make good material and psychological preparations, and then meet the lovely little life.

3. Parents' expectations of their children. Every child is the desire of parents. Every child's growth is the embodiment of parents' will. When parents have expectations, they often ignore their children's personality development and let them obey their wishes. However, children will also be influenced by society and schools when they grow up. Therefore, if parents overemphasize their expectations, it will cause conflicts with their children. Therefore, parents should always be aware of their own expectations, find out the development of their children's personality, and then seek to achieve a balanced state, in order to achieve good education and training for their children.