In modern society, science and technology are advancing by leaps and bounds, information is exploding and social development is changing with each passing day. In the face of fierce competition, how can children become useful materials in society? This is a common concern of all parents. As parents, we must be responsible for our children, not only to make them grow up physically and mentally healthily, but also to make them feel happy and lay a good foundation for their future adaptation to society. My child was timid when he was a child. After more than a year of study and exercise, the teacher responded that the child was much more open-minded than before, which made me very pleased. So, how can children make greater progress? I think the key is to stimulate children's self-confidence. Below, I will talk about my superficial understanding of the courageous education for introverted children:

First, to change the concept of family education, educators should first educate themselves.

As the saying goes, "It is never too old to learn", which used to be just a slogan and a kind of modesty, but it is very important for parents in today's society. The report of the 16th National Congress of the Communist Party of China clearly pointed out that "it is necessary to form a learning society with all-people learning and lifelong learning, and promote people's all-round development". As one of the goals of building a well-off society in an all-round way, parents should also be in harmony with society, adapt to the needs of the times, and make learning a vital activity. Facts have proved that education level and social status are not the key factors for the success or failure of family education. Many parents are just ordinary people, but they are very successful in educating their children, and the quality of parents is the real decisive factor. Therefore, parents must improve their ideological understanding and change their concept of family education, provided that educators first educate themselves and improve their quality.

Second, put yourself in the other's shoes and walk into the child's mind.

I remember when I was a child, every time I went to a crowded place, the children always clung to the clothes of adults and found various reasons to go home. The kindergarten teacher never tells her loudly about herself, for fear that she will cry. Let's imagine that when an adult arrives at a new job, he will be nervous and anxious because he is worried that his knowledge and ability are not competent. Children have similar problems in learning and communication, because they are not fully prepared for everything in front of them and are nervous and afraid. Therefore, parents need to put themselves in their own shoes to help their children build their self-confidence, instead of rudely accusing them, which will only make them counterproductive. As adults, we should pay attention to children's spiritual growth and enter their inner world.

Third, discover the bright spots and give children the power of self-confidence.

Self-confidence plays a very important role in the development of a person's life. A person who lacks self-confidence will lack subjective initiative in the development law of various abilities. I remember when I was in kindergarten, because she didn't learn painting well. As soon as she got home, she said, I don't want to go to school because I can't do anything. I patiently advised her: "Drawing is not difficult, you will learn." Do you remember? At the age of four, you can accurately recite the ancient poems read by the teacher, which shows that you are not stupid. Everyone believes in you and works hard. "The child smiled. Although the progress was relatively small, the encouragement and comfort of her parents gave her confidence in painting.

Fourth, study, entertain and educate, and be brave in seeking knowledge.

As the saying goes, "artists are bold." When a person has a wealth of knowledge and a comprehensive and correct understanding of something, he will naturally not be timid. To this end, I went to the children's library to apply for a library card. Opening books is beneficial, and I think there will be great gains. Since then, every Saturday, my child is always eager to borrow books to tell her stories. Children's horizons have been broadened, and they have rich natural anecdotes and easy-to-understand scientific knowledge, especially stories of Chinese and foreign celebrities full of wisdom and hardships, such as the Tang Dynasty poet Li Bai's "Iron pestle grinds into a needle", Kuang Heng's chiseling and stealing light, and Yue Fei's loyalty to serve the country. Edison tried to find a filament that can shine in a light bulb without burning out, and successively chose more than 6,000 different materials for experiments. After more than ten years of efforts, he finally succeeded. Enlightening children is of great benefit to cultivating their noble character and perseverance. This practice strengthens communication with children and strengthens interpersonal communication in the process of borrowing books. At the same time, make full use of social resources to broaden children's knowledge quickly. I will stick to this practice until the children can read independently.

Fifth, reduce stress and cultivate children's brave temperament.

In order to get children out of the shadow of introversion, parents must also reduce the pressure on their children, give them free development space, respect their interests, be considerate parents, and don't impose adult consciousness on their children. For example, a child likes origami. When she comes home, she always holds something in her hand, cutting it and folding it. Although the home is a mess, we still insist on giving priority to praise. We can't underestimate the child. Although she doesn't know many words, she can actually read and follow the illustrations in the book, boldly pick up the pen and draw the eyes and noses of animals. This shows that the child is making progress. How can I impose restrictions? On the contrary, we should encourage and guide them to improve their practical ability and dare to try.

To sum up, the focus of modern family education is to let parents change the extensive family education concept in the past, and regard the process of educating children as a process of learning and making progress with children. Educating children and caring for the healthy growth of the next generation is no longer a unilateral matter for schools, but requires the common concern of the whole society. We should shift the focus of family education to non-intellectual factors, and cultivate children's good psychological quality from childhood. Let us cultivate and educate children with love, patience, self-confidence and respect, be good at discovering children's potential, and let children grow up healthily with affirmation and encouragement!