The weight of a glass of water
How destructive is stress?
In a primary school teacher's psychological decompression training activity, the author made a live demonstration. The author raised a glass of water and asked the primary school teacher present, "How much do you think this glass of water weighs?" The teachers' answers are varied, some say 300 grams, and some say 400 grams. At this time, the author said: the weight of this glass of water is not important, but how long can you hold it? Half a minute, you must feel no problem; Stick to it for half an hour, and you may feel sore hands; But if you take it for a day, you may have to call an ambulance for you then.
The weight of this glass of water is constant, but the longer you hold it, the heavier it will feel. It's like the pressure we are under in our daily life and work. If you keep putting pressure on yourself, you will eventually feel that the pressure is getting heavier and heavier and unbearable.
All we have to do is put this glass of water down, have a rest, and then lift it up, so that we can hold it for a longer time. The same is true for processing pressure. Learn stress management and relax yourself at the right time to better face the pressure.
How can teachers change themselves in order to get rid of psychological pressure and regain the pleasure of work?
Don't be a perfectionist
The pursuit of perfection is the life goal pursued by many teachers. Primary school teachers, in particular, have a strong sense of responsibility and attach great importance to their image among students. They always think that they should be perfect as role models for students and should not have shortcomings. Because of this, he excessively pursues the perfection of personality, restrains himself excessively, cares about all kinds of details, and tends to blame and condemn himself.
In fact, forcing yourself to pursue perfection is one of the most important factors of unhappiness and mental health. We should realize that the teacher is not a saint in ancient books, but an ordinary person with worldly desires. Don't blame yourself too much, try to do what you want to do and then try to do what you should do. If you really can't do it, you can ask your colleagues or friends, and don't blame yourself too much.
Correctly understand and treat failure
Teachers are psychologically "open" professions, and the probability of failure and mistakes is particularly high.
No one is perfect, everyone will make mistakes, and everyone will experience failure. The key is to see how to recognize and treat your own failure. If we can learn from failure and sum up experience, failure is the mother of success. But also can reduce the sources of stress and anxiety, which is more conducive to their own mental health.
In fact, many times, the so-called "failure" in life is actually only a personal subjective frustration, not necessarily objective. So you can change your mind, consider the problem from another angle, or be a Q in due course.
For example, many teachers may have been punished by the school for the bad behavior of a student in the class. In fact, teachers don't have to be too guilty. Some students' problems are caused by "the cause is rooted in the family, the symptoms appear in the school, and the condition worsens in the society", which is not only as simple as improper education, but also due to various reasons. As long as they do their duty, they can have a clear conscience.
Adjust work-related beliefs
To be a master at work, you must start by knowing yourself.
When you start to get tired of teaching, you should re-examine yourself and take some time to calm down and think about what you want. What field are you good at? What kind of work does personality tend to engage in? Is it possible for teachers to give full play to their advantages? Did you not work hard enough or did you choose the wrong position? What are your expectations for your job? What do you want from your job? Can your present job meet your needs? Of course, we should try to get rid of those unrealistic ideas, and at the same time focus on the positive aspects of work, and don't dwell on the negative aspects such as work pressure.
In addition, being a conscientious teacher is very hard, and it also needs rest and relaxation. Being an "omnipotent" educator is really tiring. Therefore, if you feel that you can't get a sense of psychological accomplishment and satisfaction at school, you can try to do a job in other fields during the holidays. The new work experience can not only relax you, but also broaden your horizons and increase your knowledge. It can also bring the experience and positive emotions gained from other work experiences to education and better promote education. If this method doesn't work, you can also cultivate a creative hobby, such as collecting stamps and writing, which are all good methods. With the deepening of these hobbies, you will be able to experience satisfaction.
Seek social support
When you are threatened by stress, you might as well discuss the current stress situation with your family, friends and colleagues and tell the psychological crux instead of keeping it in your heart all the time. Concerned relatives and friends will give you sincere advice, set a more realistic goal with their help, and re-examine your nervous mood. When you need some practical help, you might as well ask your leaders and colleagues for help.
In addition, some negative emotions, such as anger, fear, frustration, etc., should also be poured out in time to get some vent, which is very necessary to relieve stress and tension.
Besides, we should strive to build a happy and harmonious family. A happy family and a happy marriage can promote the formation and development of individual healthy personality, encourage and help individuals when they encounter difficulties, and relieve psychological pressure. When you are troubled and stressed at work, if you can feel the warmth of your family when you get home, you can make up for the satisfaction you should have experienced at work and get emotional relief and psychological comfort.
Exercise and relaxation
Exercise may be an old-fashioned method, but it has always been proved. Moderate and rhythmic exercise lasting 5 to 30 minutes can bring you a comfortable and stable mood. If you persist for a long time, you can effectively reduce anxiety and depression. When there is stress, a few minutes of relaxation is often better than an hour's sleep. Combine work and rest. Find yourself as many opportunities for exercise and relaxation as possible, such as jogging, swimming, doing exercises, walking, taking a hot bath, listening to music, singing, shouting, chatting on the Internet, swaggering, crying if you want, and swimming in the world of books are all good ways to relax.
In addition, you can also learn relaxation training skills, such as deep breathing and muscle relaxation. This is to enhance the specific action program through the active relaxation of the body. After repeated practice, learning to consciously control one's psychological activities can reduce one's awakening level, enhance one's adaptability, and adjust one's psychological and physiological functions that are disordered due to nerve reaction. Because this kind of relaxation is lasting and beneficial, it is formed by one's own efforts, so it is easy to form a sense of control over the environment. And this sense of control is very important to reduce the tension caused by environmental pressure.
Seek professional help
In the deep heart of each of us, there are two basic needs: one is to solve various conflicts, obstacles and puzzles in psychology and behavior; First, enrich and improve yourself, maintain mental health and improve the quality of life.
But in real life, we don't realize or face up to our two needs. When there is psychological confusion, most teachers always take an evasive or negative attitude. When it comes to psychological counseling and psychotherapy, it will be associated with mental illness.
In fact, not only teachers, but people from all walks of life should have such awareness. Psychological counseling and treatment, whether short-term or continuous, can help them work more happily and effectively. Teachers who turn to psychological counseling and psychotherapy are honest, brave and willing to make progress and development. It is meaningless for a teacher who is troubled by psychological problems to insist on inefficient work. The result is likely to be that the teacher projects his negative emotions on the students he teaches, which has a negative impact on the students' psychology.
On the other hand, teachers who have a deeper understanding of their emotions and behaviors are also more sensitive to the relationship with students. Teachers who are aware of their hostility, guilt and anxiety can understand the significance of these conflicts in students' lives and give them better help and guidance.