Spiritual influence
Many children's personalities are not born, but forged in life. What impressed me the most is that "some children are treated by childhood for a lifetime, while some adults have to treat their childhood for a lifetime."
Parents are the authors of children, and a newborn baby is like a blank piece of paper, and the contents of this paper were drawn by parents in the early days. Recently, I took my children to the community to play, only to see that many children are mirror images of their parents. Children brought out by polite parents will always be confident and kind, while some grumpy and even rude adults will always bring out the same grumpy children.
My child is two years old. Because of his work, he stayed with me in college all the year round. Most of the children he comes into contact with are college students, so when he gets along with children, he always likes to find children older than himself. It may be affected by work. He would watch me explain to the students or guide their work in my office, and he also learned to explain to others. Some children will be curious when they see his motorcycle, so he will stand aside and tell other children how to ride it. Every time I see him explaining to other children in an exemplary way, I always feel funny and gratified, because he can communicate and share at such a young age, thanks to the teacher's accommodation experience.
But there is a counterexample among the children who play together. I didn't understand it at first. Later, I got to know his parents as a volunteer and felt that family influence was very important.
When a group of children are playing in the community, there is always a little boy robbing other children's toys. When his grandmother asked him to return them to the children, he always beat her violently and threw the children's things on the ground and cried at her. Many parents let their children hide it from this child for a long time, so many parents are very impressed with this child. Because of the epidemic, the whole community has to do nucleic acid testing. As a volunteer, I met the parents of this grumpy child in this test. The reason is that I know this child, but it's the first time for me to see her parents. His mother was having a little argument with other volunteers. I'll mediate with the person in charge of maintaining order. After knowing the situation, I really understood that the child had formed that kind of character. It turns out that the child's parents quarreled because they got up late. Not only do they not wear masks in the queue, but they also quarrel loudly regardless of other people in the queue? In the past, volunteers were scolded for asking for registration information. Angry volunteers replied two sentences, and their mother quit, which caused the scene just now. After some persuasion, one of the children's parents continued to line up, and the other went upstairs to get a mask. After the exam, she was still pushing and shoving downstairs. I was a little distressed by that child. What did such parents give their children?
Children are parents' mirrors, and many parents' behaviors are invisibly mapped to children, which becomes their acquired character imperceptibly, so the first step to be a good parent is to control their emotions. Then there are extra points, continuous learning in life, setting a good example for children and making progress together.
Material influence
Recently, watching short videos and some articles, I always see "ABCD Mom", Dr. Harvard and your wife as her labels, but at the same time, she has also cultivated four excellent children. Specifically, you can Baidu. Anyway, I won't go into details about her story. However, we have to say that many children have different starting lines from birth, just like in the short video, "Children who are richer than you work harder than you", just like the four children of ABCD, just like Princess Frog Gu Ailing, just like Wan Wan, Qian Qian. However, we also saw the news that many poor children were admitted to Tsinghua Peking University. Material is only a small part, and more importantly, there are a group of considerate, optimistic and active parents behind these children, so parents' spiritual influence on children is far higher than material!
In short, many times, parents are like a mirror, affecting all aspects of children. Of course, we can't generalize, many children are successful by themselves, but after all, parents are the first teachers on the road of children's growth, so let us look at ourselves with a mirror on the road of children's growth, make continuous progress and grow together!