We often see friends taking C photos in the circle of friends, expressing that they have occupied the core highland, which is very beautiful.
In fact, the art of getting along with others is to learn to show weakness and take the initiative to give C to others.
This is actually a paradox, because everyone wants to express themselves and become the most beautiful boy in this street.
Sigmund? Freud once said that everything you and I do stems from two motives: sexual impulse and wanting to be a great man.
John, one of the most profound philosophers in America? Dr Dewey said that the deepest impulse in human nature is "the desire to be an important person".
Lincoln once wrote at the beginning of a letter: "Everyone likes to receive compliments."
Willie? James also said: "The deepest essence of human nature is to long for others' appreciation."
It can be seen that what we have to do is to give others "heartfelt praise and generous praise".
Today, I continue to read Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature". The second book is actually "The Secret of Getting along with People". Then yesterday's topic, don't criticize others at will, but satisfy others' self-esteem.
However, in our daily life, just some people always try to seize the C position, brush the sense of existence and show their superiority, and the result is often counterproductive.
A feature of this book is that the author lists a large number of detailed examples to prove his point of view.
In this chapter, the author not only quotes famous sayings and lists many successful examples, but also uses negative examples to educate and alert readers.
Why do some marriages end in tragedy? The author gives an example of dieting. Fasting for six days is almost the limit of human body. If someone leaves his family or employees without food for six days, it is a crime. However, they will not give their families or employees the praise they crave for six days, six weeks, and sometimes even sixty years.
There is another point in the article, which also inspired me. That's why some people become insane.
The answer is finally revealed. Many patients with mental disorders feel that they have found a sense of self-esteem that they can't get in the real world.
Covering up and thinking deeply, our thoughts wander involuntarily in our daily work, and we sometimes encounter some incurable diseases. We always feel that it is strange and incomprehensible to analyze and think with our normal thinking. In fact, we ignored the situation of the client.
Looking back, these people may be emotionally confused, frustrated in their official careers, or suffering heavy economic losses, so they can't extricate themselves from it, so they are insane.
Who doesn't want to occupy position C? So I think it is wise to leave C to others and satisfy their desire for self-esteem. Maybe this expression is not accurate, so let's continue to learn!