Since ancient times, education has been a tool for ordinary people to jump the dragon gate with carp. Through the school education examination system, you can get a good report card, get a good opportunity to go to a school with strong qualifications and good educational conditions and become a pillar of the country.

However, with the acceleration of social development and the blind expansion of school scale and enrollment channels, the disadvantages of traditional education are gradually ignored by us. Until the problem of education became very serious, many vivid lives were criticized by their parents because of learning problems, which seriously hurt their fragile hearts and came to the end of their lives. Tragedy happened one after another, which made people feel sad.

This point has been taken seriously by the state, which began to attach importance to education and began to implement educational reform. So there was a scene of double reduction, but the seemingly beautiful picture was hidden.

What is wrong with the education system? Let me talk about my own feelings, the gap and happiness of different reading methods in 70, 80, 90, 2 1 century. Show you the historical origin of education and how they have changed and evolved into the source of our pain and happiness.

70 s

In the late 1970s, the college entrance examination had just resumed. Most of freshmen's regular entrance items are cream, thermos, bedding and eggs, while watches are luxury items that only a few students can afford.

The monthly living expenses of college students 10- 16 yuan will be paid by the school according to the family situation. Although the material is scarce, the happiness is high, and the university has no tuition, and it is distributed.

This is especially precious for college students. It is a great thing that a village can produce a college student, which is the pride and pride of the whole family. Students are also proud of being admitted to the university, which is a tool to get rid of poverty and a family's sustenance.

The 1980s

In the 1980s, with the gradual improvement of living standards, radios became popular, and fashionable students basically wore a watch on their wrists. However, because the communication equipment was not developed at that time, the contact with family and friends could only rely on letters, so pens were almost a necessity for every college student to enter school.

Life is extremely simple, and the only thing necessary for admission is your own lunch box, because there is no public tableware in the canteen. As far as I can remember, at that time, everyone was very frugal and could not afford anything except school equipment. A few families with good conditions have walkman or guitar.

At this time, college students' material conditions are relatively happy. They don't need to bring rice to school by themselves, but they can eat food directly. If your grades are good enough, you can stay in the city and stay as an intellectual to adapt to a happy life in the environment.

1990s

Witnessed the upgrade of digitalization. Conventional items that college students bring are small fans, electric kettles and tape recorders, while luxury items are mobile phones and BP machines. From free to charge, from bag distribution to finding a job, the "iron rice bowl" of going to school has become history.

Schools began to expand their enrollment, and major schools began to snatch resources from each other to find students to enter the school for further study, but they did not provide employment opportunities. Whether you can live a good life depends on your luck and family background.

Since then, the employment war has been out of control. Even if you have a good diploma, you may not get a satisfactory job, but you still have to do ordinary jobs such as workers, waiters, cashiers and company employees. Sweat irrigation, especially hard to maintain their basic life.

The problem of the house has become an obstacle to our marriage and having children. Because no house is homeless and insecure. We can't give the next generation a good educational environment, nor can we achieve wealth growth. On the contrary, it will rapidly decline and accelerate the crisis of survival. Therefore, there are many single men and women, and everyone leaves by default, unwilling to enter marriage or love.

2 1 century

After entering the new century, the social and economic level has improved rapidly, and electronic products have gradually become popular. From black and white mobile phones, MP3 players, electronic dictionaries and desktop computers, to smart phones, notebook computers and digital cameras in the early years, and then to iphone, ipad and SLR cameras in the past two years, students are spending more and more on the "three big things".

However, at the same time of material abundance, educational problems and health problems have gradually emerged, and people have begun to pay attention to them. These problems are particularly obvious in big cities. Many teenagers have lost their healthy eyesight and put on glasses in advance because they are addicted to using electronic devices, such as common mobile phones, ipad and tablets.

Because of my eyesight, I can't concentrate on listening carefully in class. The decline in learning efficiency and quality led to poor academic performance, and parents forced them to send them to remedial classes to study again. If children make up more classes than three classes, then children will definitely be tired of learning and unwilling to learn classes.

What was originally a child's dream of learning and reforming has become a poor requirement for parents to learn from their children. The meaning of education has completely changed, and the happiness of life has not increased with the improvement of material level, but has obviously decreased.

So a large number of psychological counseling and training institutions for teenagers began to treat children's psychological problems to correct their learning attitude. It's just that the quality level of institutions is uneven, which may not really help children. On the contrary, it has increased parents' investment in children's education, and a lot of money has been taken away by educational institutions. Parents are under great pressure to survive on their own, and even have regressed.

It used to be fun to raise a child, and it was easy to feed him. Becoming deprived of parents' happiness and starting a family is the beginning of pain and suffering.

The young mother had to quit her job to take care of her children because of the problem of raising them. 1-3 years to grow up with the baby, time is consumed, and the sense of value is reduced.

When she re-entered the workplace, and after 90 or even 00, she grabbed the job, had no money to invest in herself, did things that others did not do, rarely paid back the money, and did not have much sense of security and happiness. Married life disappointed them and regretted it.

So some people in China saw social problems and put forward poverty alleviation policies. Help some difficult mothers get the opportunity to learn and grow, and re-employment to survive. Ensure that basic life will not fall into chaos and can survive.

Then widely publicize the importance of family education, encourage parents who love learning and need education to learn and grow up, set an example for their children, and reduce family conflicts. This move is particularly timely and urgently needed by everyone.

If a family wants to be happy, it not only needs to leave their children at school, but also needs their parents' own education. How to educate children and avoid family conflicts?

First of all, parents need to learn, improve their knowledge base and accept the baptism of wisdom before they can educate their children in a scientific way. Really understand the child's heart, the family atmosphere is happy.

Secondly, learning and growth are no longer limited games, but lifelong growth. Because the times are developing rapidly, the knowledge in books is updated every year. If children's academic performance is poor, there is no chance to repeat their studies, and they can only go to school with the majority.

It's just that his own learning foundation is weak and his ability can't keep up with everyone's rhythm. Finally, I was brushed down by the society and could only go to a technical school for further study. After graduation, I went directly to the factory to work as a coolie and got stuck in a fixed mode. There is no other simple way to go.

Only a few children with top grades have the opportunity to enter the university for further study and receive the baptism of wisdom. After graduation, I successfully entered the workplace, gradually found a suitable position from the grassroots level, and finally started a business, with resources and contacts envied by others. Even ordinary people are beautiful and powerful people who are looked up to in the eyes of others.

As ordinary you, me and him, how should we face a series of problems brought about by educational reform and seize this double-edged sword?

I don't think it's necessary to worry too much. Children's education will go with the flow. We just need to be ourselves, work hard for our career and set an example for our children. When the child needs us, come back to her and give comfort. Both material wealth and spiritual wealth can be affordable, so that children do not feel different from their peers.

You don't need the number of children. Three children and four children are not what you want to have. It depends on your family's financial ability. A family with very rich conditions can have two children, and the children can take care of each other. When they meet, someone can discuss things. The premise is that you can guarantee that you have a job and your work income can rise linearly. Secondly, there are old people at home who can take care of you, sometimes do housework and help you rest. Your lover is willing to cooperate with you to support you, return the money to you, hand in the bank card deposit, work hard for the future of your child for a lifetime, and leave a little affection.

Otherwise, being a child is enough, because you have to have the energy to invest in yourself and keep learning. Work hard for your own sense of security, and work hard for your children to suffer less and live a happy life in the future. Let children see the suffering in life, and the meaning of work is to support themselves.

You have to plan your child's life and career in advance, the sooner the better. Because only when she understands the helplessness of life and sees the difficulties of her parents will she study hard, give back to her parents with good grades and give you a satisfactory score for your own study.

Don't bother, be reasonable. Use video to wait for your child to understand the society and what difficulties he will face in the future. What are his employment prospects? What kind of ability is needed to make him realize his dream and embark on the road of prosperity and freedom.

Let the children see this society clearly in advance, and the law of the jungle is in the state. Only the winner can live a delicious life and be envied and looked up to by others. Let him know what kind of person he wants to be, analyze what he should do to achieve it, and study in a planned way with his own beliefs and goals to realize his dreams.

Through the education of school and the education given to him by his mother at home, a two-pronged model. Let him stand out among his peers, realize his life value in advance and find the meaning of life.

No matter how hard you work for yourself or your family, don't be confused and study for exams, stay away from ineffective efforts, and you will succeed in the end. Be envied by everyone, become a powerful figure in others' mouths, and spend every day happily.