Therefore, parents are also helpless in the face of these children. But sometimes parents turn a blind eye to their children's unreasonable troubles, which will only make them push their noses and face, making them more and more unreasonable.
This is Xiaofeng's case study. Xiaofeng is the only child in the family and is very loved by the old people in the family. Xiaofeng's parents are usually busy working outside and have little time to educate their children at home. Children live with the elderly, because the elderly spoil children too much, Xiaofeng has developed many bad habits.
After Xiaofeng's parents came home, Xiaofeng not only showed no obvious respect, but also told his parents what to do and cried. Xiaofeng's actions made his parents very helpless and sad. Parents finally realized that Xiaofeng would only get more and more annoying if he didn't correct it in time.
Therefore, parents must have the right way to manage their children and let them correct their mistakes in time.
First, why "manage" children 1. The influence of China's family's inherent concept of "strict father is a dutiful son"
There has always been a saying in ancient China: A strict teacher makes a noble apprentice, and strict father makes a dutiful son. There is nothing wrong with this sentence, nor is it the so-called feudal dross. Some people think that being too strict with children will lead to children's depression and can't develop well.
People who say such things must be unmarried and have children. They don't know how difficult it is to educate children. Most people with families and children will follow strict father's filial piety. The discipline of children is very strict, and children will not be pushed into the face and go home to uncover tiles.
Children are so unreasonable that language education is useless.
Many parents know that if children are disciplined too strictly, the more violent they will be, the more they will rebound, and it will become more and more difficult to discipline. But sometimes children don't listen to their parents' advice, and their parents' words go in one ear and out the other and never take it to heart.
At this time, if the child does something wrong and the parents educate the child with words, then the child will think that the parents are too weak to be themselves. In the face of this situation, only through sticks or severe lessons can children remember for a long time. Only in this way can children be put on the right path.
Second, what aspects should parents focus on managing their children? 1. Children should be allowed to bear the wrong things.
Some parents just say a few words lightly when their children do something wrong, so as not to let them take responsibility. These parents think their children are too young to take responsibility. If parents do this, children will not get enough education and exercise.
They will only subconsciously think that they have done something wrong and don't need to take responsibility, because their parents have taken care of the follow-up things for themselves. You don't have to worry about anything, just do it. When children are old enough to take responsibility, they just run away.
2. To cultivate children's temper, you should not be irritable at will.
Bad temper is the biggest obstacle to children's growth. A bad temper is like a devil. Every time you lose your temper, the devil will devour a little snack until it is completely dark.
Therefore, parents must warn their children not to lose their temper casually, because doing so will cause irreparable harm to others. It will also affect your mood and communication range, which is extremely unfavorable to your future life.
Children should not be lazy, but should be more diligent.
The lazier a person is, the harder it is to succeed. Parents should also educate their children severely if they are lazy. If parents don't let their children be diligent from an early age, then laziness will last until they grow up, even for life.
4. Cultivate children's independent ability and do things by yourself.
Nowadays, there is a phenomenon of giant baby in many families. These children are adults and have the ability to take care of themselves. But they are too dependent on their parents, and they need their parents to help them with everything, such as washing and cooking.
I think many parents don't want their children to become like this when they grow up, so they should cultivate their children's independent ability from an early age and tell them to do things by themselves.
To sum up, some parents believe in the educational philosophy of many experts: filial sons are not cultivated, but educated. Beating and scolding education is not desirable, only through oral education can children know their mistakes, which is the most correct education method; These people also believe that only in this way can children grow up healthily.
However, parents who adhere to this concept are likely to spoil their children and lead them to explore crazily on the wrong edge. Beating and scolding education is really not desirable, but sometimes oral education can't make children realize their mistakes.
Faced with this situation, parents must educate their children well, let them remember for a long time, realize their mistakes and change themselves.
I hope every child can grow up healthily in ignorance.