Parents are the children's first 1 teacher.

It is very important to shape a sound personality! !

1. Establish an optimistic attitude

Have dinner with children.

Establish family traditions such as having dinner every day to enhance family feelings. Familiar and intimate habits will bring children a sense of security.

② Participate in social activities.

Take children to social activities, such as school sports meeting. Children will realize their parents' attention and enhance their self-confidence.

③ Say goodbye to negative comments.

Adults often make negative comments on people and things, which will make children lose trust and sense of security in the people and environment around them.

4 cultivate hobbies.

Cultivate children's hobbies and get them involved, but this does not mean arranging a complete painting or dance course for children.

⑤ Close to nature

Being close to nature can cultivate children's sensory ability, observation ability and reaction ability, and experience the magic of nature.

6. Get close to small animals.

Children will learn loyalty, empathy, attachment, etc. Starting from raising small animals, learn to take care of others and gain a sense of accomplishment.

⑦ Take part in sports.

Regular participation in sports contributes to children's physical and mental health. Being healthy, strong and energetic will bring good self-awareness to children.

2. Learn to be grateful and tolerant.

(1) Make children feel useful.

Children, like adults, need a sense of accomplishment and like to be useful. Parents don't let their children pay, which is a devastating blow to their self-confidence in the long run.

2 respect the child's family members.

Treat the child as an independent person, such as respecting the small guests invited by the child. Ask the child for advice and respect the child's privacy in case of major family changes. Only when he feels respected can he have correct self-esteem.

③ Correct bad tendencies in time.

Care about children's psychological growth and emotional feelings, correct children's bad tendencies through education in time, and don't wait until the accumulation is difficult to recover.

(4) Don't always talk about salary.

Educating children to be grateful is not simply to be grateful to their parents, but to let them accept the goodwill of the world and have the ability to repay the beauty of the world.

3. Cultivate the courage to face setbacks.

1 let the children experience setbacks.

Children can't grow up without setbacks. Simply solving problems for children will make children lose the opportunity to grow up.

(2) Talk about the solution to the problem.

When children encounter setbacks, they should guide them correctly, try to turn setbacks into educational opportunities, and talk about solutions through chat.

③ Teach children how to deal with "bad things"

Use the encouragement after setbacks to guide children to form a mentality of taking setbacks as opportunities.

(4) Tell children about family difficulties.

Telling children about the difficulties of family life can not only enhance their sense of responsibility, but also enable them to receive frustration education. Parents who have the courage to overcome difficulties set a good example for their children to deal with setbacks.

4. Learn to protect yourself

① Let children master basic safety knowledge.

Let children master basic safety knowledge such as traffic safety, public health and food hygiene. Don't simply say "be careful", tell your child how to be careful.

② Conduct safety education for children according to their age.

Let children learn to protect themselves according to their own development level, which can infiltrate safety education into daily life and transmit knowledge in various forms.

③ Learn how to ask for help and who to ask for help.

Tell children that when they are in danger, they can not only ask their parents, teachers and police for help, but also ask staff, service desks or passers-by in parks, shopping malls and other places for help.

4 learn to refuse.

When someone asks him to do something, he needs to consider "whether this matter has bad effects" and so on. When children find "danger" and "bad influence", they should dare to say "no"

5. Dare to dream

Don't deny children's dreams.

Support children when they have dreams. Don't let your opinions interfere with children's dreams too much. Know how to let children do it.

2 encourage children.

When a child has a dream, urge him to move towards it. Rejecting a child's "why" is tantamount to cutting off his thinking wings.

3 be kind to children's interests.

Children who are good at creation often have a Mercedes-Benz mind. Discover what the child has never been tapped and hidden unsatisfied potential, so that he can grow up slowly.

6. Develop good communication skills

(1) Let children feel the same way.

No child is born "Xiong Haizi". Many times, they just don't know how their actions will make each other feel.

② Inform the result.

Children's behaviors are always motivated, but if they are told that some of their behaviors can't achieve their original goals, they will naturally choose more rational behaviors.

③ Using social evaluation.

People are dominated by morality. If children know that people think some behavior is bad, they will worry when they want to do it again next time.

4 accept the child's feelings.

When communicating with children, especially when giving advice to children, children should first know that their parents understand them, so that they will be more willing to listen.

⑤ Look to the future.

After letting children know what is incorrect social behavior, they should also learn correct social skills. It makes them think. What should I do next time I encounter the same scene?

7. Use money reasonably

Give children pocket money

People who are seriously short of money in childhood are prone to be too stingy or greedy for money in adulthood and lack normality.

2 encourage children to make money properly.

If there are suitable opportunities in life, children can experience the fun of making money, but don't let them regard it as fun.

③ Cultivate a reasonable view of money.

Parents should set an example, do not spend money indiscriminately, do not compare with others, and children will not easily form a deformed view of money.

4 organize your own wealth logic.

People may subconsciously overestimate the status of money and think it is despicable. Contradictory psychology produces contradictory words and deeds, and children's consciousness will be confused. If parents do what they say and do on money issues, they will have a good influence on their children.

8. Know yourself correctly

Tell the story of children's growth

Children like to listen to stories about their childhood and learn about their own history. A photo album can be a wonderful moment for parents and children to recall, share and communicate, and enhance their sense of belonging.

(2) Adjust self-cognition on goals.

In the process of setting goals, children can have an accurate understanding of themselves by analyzing the behavior results, so as to better complete their goals and plans.

3 Encourage children to reflect on themselves.

Review 1 day's satisfactory and unsatisfactory things with children. Parents can demonstrate and reflect on themselves first, such as telling their children "maybe I should do it in another way", and children will learn a similar way of introspection.

(4) Help children understand their feelings.

Let children express their feelings, and at the same time help them sum up, so that children can better understand themselves and gradually make choices according to their preferences and needs.