Some people say that people have to grow up many times in this life.

Weaning is the first time to adapt to the diversity of things and ensure that you can survive first. At the age of six, I embarked on the road to study and armed my mind with knowledge? This is the second time to make myself stronger.

Eighteen is the best time, and you begin to learn to think. If you don't want to learn, puppy love is also a poppy in your heart. At the age of 28, I took responsibility; At the age of 36, I learned to choose; In the blink of an eye, I am not confused; I thought that when I grew up, I could freely control my work and understand my life.

Yang Jun didn't do his homework until the team leader came to report. I just realized that I thought I was mature, but it was just a joke.

From the second week of school, Yang Jun has a new reason waiting for me every day: "I forgot what homework I assigned yesterday." "I didn't remember clearly, I wrote it wrong." "I left my notebook at home." "I can't find it." "I'm too tired to write." "We had guests at home last night." "I want to take my younger brother, and my mother has an exam."

When he sorted out all the reasons and came back for the third time, I suddenly got angry. He has consumed all my trust limits-I trust him so much that I will make up my homework. However, he didn't fill in a word and hurt the old standard. He didn't write a word for a month and didn't even have a punctuation mark.

The first round, call parents, Xiao Sheng.

I looked him in the eye and asked him to call his parents to school. He choked, didn't call or talk. I said you can make up your homework without calling! I watched you fix it! He didn't move. "Then I'll go home with you after school." He looked up at me. It's no joke to see me! I changed my mind and told my mother to come to school.

An hour and a half later, my mother came to the office. I made a list of all the missed homework for my mother. Tell her to make a plan for her children, do homework every day first, and make up some later. Be sure to get into the habit of doing your homework consciously and conscientiously.

My mother tried to suppress her anger. I could feel sadness and disappointment, the unspeakable heartache. The child seems to be indifferent, not looking at his mother or talking to her. Just after school, my mother went home with her children. In tandem, both of them seem so lonely. There is a big iceberg between mother and son, which makes me breathless.

What an indescribable emotion this is! I am distressed, worried and regretful. What makes me most stressed is frustration. I thought I had exhausted all my strength to care about him and save him. I thought I was very responsible, and I had never suffered so much from my children. However, he is still him, and I am still struggling to sing a monologue.

A week later, he basically made up the homework he left behind. I'm relieved. Well, my parents and I are still very cooperative. Yang Jun began to do his homework. After a week like this, he did his homework, and I accepted and approved it. Harmonious and orderly, how I hope this period of time will go on like this, longer and longer.

In the second round, I went to the Political and Educational Affairs Office for re-education. defeat

Soon, a "basketball carnival" activity was in full swing on campus. The children shouted and ran on the basketball court, and Yang Jun's heart was lost in the lively basketball court. A ball game completely ended three weeks of hard work. He stopped doing his homework again. I called him to the office, chatted, called his parents, didn't come home from work, and watched him make up ... I tried my best to be gentle and strict. I think as long as he can do his homework, I'm not afraid of a little hard work. But, but, after all, he is a child.

Finally, when I collected my homework again in the morning, he said that my homework was at home, and my tense nerves tore at each other, and a "hissing" 10,000-volt high voltage emerged. I lost my mind and packed his schoolbag. I growled and told him to go to the student affairs office: "Go to the student affairs office! I can't control you! " When I said this, I was in a dark abyss. I'm terrible. I'm surrounded by despair. I really want to cry: how could he break my heart so much? Why doesn't the child do his homework? I don't want to explore the reasons why children don't do their homework. I want to give up. I am really tired. My mood has been strained to the limit. The child went to the student affairs office, and I called my father.

The child went to the student affairs office and came back. I said, do you make up your homework? He doesn't talk. Asked again, he said, "I don't want to write." I feel bored. "I said you went to the student affairs office for education, and he went again. After repeating this twice like a big saw, I asked him again, "Have you done your homework?" He still doesn't talk.

Can you understand my feelings at that time? Yes, depressed, angry, helpless and pale. )

In the third round, parents, teachers and children held tripartite talks. Success? Failure?

At the time of stalemate, Yang Jun's father came here travel-stained. Yang Jun turned pale at the sight of his father. Took a small step beside me.

The child's father repeatedly told me that he was sorry and gave the teacher trouble! Looking at the child's drooping head and the child's father's face blaming himself, I seriously said to the child's father, "It's not that I have caused me trouble, but that I have no ability to teach the child well." I cried when I said it. I said to Yang Jun slowly, "Yang Jun, your father is here. Just to be clear. If you really don't want to do your homework, write me a written proof. Don't say I didn't take care of you in the future. "

At this moment, the math teacher came in. He patted Yang Jun on the shoulder and said, "You are a clever boy. Why don't you do your homework? " ? Who did you hurt by doing this? "The child still don't talk.

Teacher Wang told me to leave and calm down.

"I don't go, my in the mind not uncomfortable? I worry day and night. When I first met my child, he told me that he wanted to have a deskmate. I arranged a deskmate for him and watched them help each other and make progress together. Give the child a certificate and praise him for his progress. Choose a child to run for the brigade Committee and let him be the team leader. I care about him, cultivate him, warm him and love him. Why did he do it? Why? "

"Ask me to love my children and pay attention to them every day. Has anyone asked me if I need love? I'll get hurt, too, right ! I don't feel well! " I am so talkative, just like Sister Xianglin. This makes me hate myself even more.

Yang Jun still didn't speak. He looked at me and burst into tears. Silence, tears flow quietly. I stared at him and he looked at me. Suddenly he spoke: "Sorry, teacher, I don't want to do my homework for any other reason." Don't be sad, I was wrong! I'll correct it! I'll make up my homework! Do your homework well in the future! "

Miss Wang sighed and put her arms around Yang Jun. Say, "Yang Jun, dad, take the children across the street to eat noodles!" " It's late at noon and I have to go to school in the afternoon. "

Yang Jun walked out of school with his father for the second time. The heavy schoolbag pressed on his thin body, making the child thinner.

Late performance: write homework every day to make up homework and return to the learning track.

After finishing my homework every day, Yang Jun plans to make up some homework every day and then take pictures of me.

Finally, in the mock exam, the scores except the number of languages are above 90.

Reflection: Under such special circumstances, as a teacher, I adopted traditional management methods: talking and calling my parents. But the effect is not particularly good. Why?

First, teachers' cognition.

Many people think that the purpose of schools is to learn lessons, and all kinds of disciplines should aim at students' excellent academic performance. Therefore, teachers generally implement a discipline method based on rewards and punishments, with the aim of controlling students. This method of discipline has great lethality and quick effect. I am no exception. I tried to control Yang Jun and make him obey my orders, but it backfired.

Second, the teacher is busy.

The teacher is very busy, busy preparing lessons, busy attending classes and busy approving homework; Busy checking health, busy watching two exercises, busy sending the road team; Busy with meetings, busy organizing activities, busy filling out various forms ... You see, I am so busy, how can I have time and energy to deal with redundant things? Yang Jun repeatedly does not do his homework and informs his parents that it is the quickest and most direct way to cooperate with education. The most direct thing for parents is to beat their children. The result is make-up homework, but it will be repeated. The most terrible thing is to hurt the mother and son. Because it is not the child's conscious and voluntary choice. He was ordered to force.

Third, children are not allowed to make mistakes.

Many teachers don't realize that children have personal rights and will use it in one way or another. If children are not given the opportunity to use personal power in a constructive way, they will use it in a destructive way. Many teachers, including me. It is wrong for children not to do their homework, but I didn't explore their motives for not doing their homework, nor did I talk to them in good faith, nor did I wake up their inner order. To put it bluntly, I didn't respect my children.

Fourth, children do not have a correct view of right and wrong.

Children don't understand how their actions will affect others. After the problem happens, there is no clear consciousness and perception to evaluate the problem or what happens around you, and there is no good judgment. And willing to take responsibility for their actions. When problems arise, guide children to learn to explore what happened, what caused it, how your behavior affected others, and how to avoid or solve such problems. When they learn to react according to the situation, the risk of more serious problems in the future is actually automatically reduced.

For example, Yang Jun didn't do his homework. He knew it was because he was playful, which involved the teacher's energy and affected his mood. And he also realized that he was really wrong and was willing to take responsibility and accept the consequences. I didn't do my homework. The teacher asked me to make up my homework. I should make up for it. This is not a punishment. Then, the problem of making up homework will not be so complicated.

Looking back at the problem that Yang Jun didn't do his homework today, I handled it simply and rudely, without wisdom. Fortunately, the children themselves are psychologically strong, and their parents are more tolerant. My class teacher helps me, and the Political and Educational Affairs Office of the school also helps me. There are some mistakes in these links, probably because the homework is still sleeping. Or home-school confrontation. Or cause other unpredictable problems. Turn small problems into big problems.

There is no doubt that I am lucky in dealing with the problem that Yang Jun doesn't do his homework. Because I confided my bad feelings, I got the help of my leading colleagues and the tolerance of my parents and children. However, education, is it possible to take a chance? Why can't I have such good luck every time?

When I can accept children's occasional mistakes, I am willing to give up control over students and respect them instead, and work together with them in a cooperative way; When I learn how to ask more questions and preach less; When I am very curious about children's ideas and opinions; When students are encouraged to express their views, they have the opportunity to choose instead of being ordered to solve problems with others; Children will learn to cooperate, respect each other and take the initiative to solve problems.

"The spring breeze turns into rain, moistening things silently."

As an educator, I hope I can truly respect children, deal with problems intelligently, cultivate children intelligently, make children full of hope and joy for the future, and really be the active leader and mentor of children, not the person who controls and commands them.

I hope that I will continue to grow and grow again until I meet a better myself!