The core of sex education is personality education and gender relations, and the beginning of sex education is to let children know that boys and girls are different. In fact, for children's sex education, mom and dad's behavior and sexual attitude are very important, so mom and dad should make correct guidance with their own actions. The content of this article is to let children receive correct sex education.
Let children receive correct sex education 1 Most children learn some poor sexual knowledge, learn to fall in love and learn to have sex through peer-to-peer physiology textbooks and occasional kissing scenes on TV.
In fact, sexual ignorance may be good for our ancestors, but for us modern people, ignorance means harm. Therefore, more and more parents are beginning to realize that if children know more about sexual knowledge, they can better protect themselves.
Experts pointed out that sex education can be divided into three stages: early childhood (0-6 years old), childhood (7- 10 years old) and adolescence (1-14 years old). /kloc-sex education before 0/0 years old, parents are children's teachers.
At present, there are disciplines that specialize in children's sex education, providing some reference experience for parents.
Case: Where am I from?
When children are 3-5 years old, they will ask their parents such questions. This is mainly because children begin to have a strong understanding of the origin of life, but different parents will have different answers.
Wrong answer 1: I picked it up from the garbage.
Consequence: Many children will quarrel with their parents when they are twelve or thirteen years old, and feel that their parents are not good to them. After all, they have already picked it up.
Wrong answer 2: I won't tell you now, but you will know when you grow up.
Consequence: Children talk about this problem with friends in junior high school, and they don't understand anything, so they feel embarrassed.
In the face of children asking themselves such questions, in fact, parents can tell him generously. After mom and dad fall in love and get married, besides hugging and kissing, there are other behaviors that make you appear in mom's stomach. Ten months later, you were born from your mother's birth canal.
In addition, you should tell your baby that giving birth to him is a very difficult process, and let him know how to respect you.
Children's family sex education should mainly pay attention to the following four aspects:
1, identification of gender roles
The beginning of sex education is to let children know that boys and girls are different. Usually, boys will better identify and accept their gender roles, while girls will be almost.
Now that mom and dad are busy at work, many children are brought up by grandma, which makes them more prone to "feminization of boys" and tends to be timid in doing things; Some girls will be selfish and bossy because they are spoiled.
2. Identification of parents' family roles
Mom and dad play a key role in children's sex education. Dad should have a sense of responsibility, take care of the family, care for his wife and children, and be responsible for the family; Mothers should be smart, diligent, housekeeping and pay more attention to educating their children.
3. Have good hygiene habits.
Girls should remember to wipe after going to the toilet; Boys should also clean their bodies every day and know how to protect their penises.
Parents' behavior and attitude are the most important.
For children's sex education, parents' behavior and sexual attitude are the most important. Experts have said that children learn the truth through observation. Therefore, the relationship between mom and dad, mutual respect, mutual concern and so on. , will be seen by children.
The core of sex is personality education and gender relations, so there should be no misunderstanding about sex education. China's parents always mistakenly think that fighting should be in front of their children, and when they get close, they secretly come in private. In fact, the correct approach is just the opposite. Parents should let their children know how to treat men and women correctly with their own actions.
Some children have bad habits, such as moving their sexual organs from time to time. Parents should keep calm about this and don't scold their children at will, because reprimanding will make them feel like bad children and hooligans.
Mom and dad must first tell their children that dirty hands and dirty sex organs will make them sick; The second is to divert children's attention, give them his favorite toys and take them out for a walk. After a long time, children will forget.
Let children receive correct sex education 2 1, early education.
It is better to teach early than late, and it is a better period before the age of 5. Childhood is a critical stage in the development of children's personality, temperament and gender consciousness. Children have a clear understanding of gender and should pay special attention to training. Children are innocent, so it is much better to let them know some gender knowledge earlier than to let them learn shyness and adult taboos and figure it out for themselves.
2. Inevitable
In the face of children's doubts about gender, parents must correctly guide, patiently explain, don't avoid, don't deceive children. Children may ask these questions: Where was I born? Why does dad pee standing and mom pee sitting? Why can mom and dad sleep together, but I have to sleep in a room alone? Wait a minute. This is an inevitable problem in the process of children's growth. As parents, don't avoid, don't avoid, don't use "you will understand when you grow up" to fool your children, but to arouse their curiosity.
3. Have the concept of equality.
Parents can't let their children have gender discrimination from an early age, especially discrimination against girls. A few parents prefer sons to daughters, which makes their children feel inferior from an early age. There is also a kind of doting on boys, which is also an unequal thought. The latest research shows that boys from one-child families are generally favored by mothers, most likely gay and sissy. Preference for boys and superior family conditions are likely to lead to the phenomenon that children have vague gender cognition during this period.
4. Parents' voices
This is also worrying and incredible! This is a good time to educate the difference between men and women, and proper guidance is enough. Her daughter said that it is estimated that the son preference instilled in her a good relationship with boys. When my daughter was a child, she saw her father standing and said she would stand on the toilet. Later, I told her that you are a girl, and the girl is sitting on the toilet. She knows! Later, when I went to kindergarten, I came home and said that boys urinated standing like my dad, and we girls all urinated sitting, which is very common.
Matters needing attention in sex education
1, appropriate age
Theoretically, the gender differences between men and women, especially the primary sexual characteristics, can be solved before children's puberty. As far as the current social and cultural situation is concerned, it is best to answer the difference of primary sexual characteristics between men and women before the age of 5. Sex education should be more advanced, but it is inseparable from children's understanding ability.
2. Appropriate methods
Children can speak with their parents' bodies before the age of 5, but after the age of 5, it is more appropriate to use books, audio-visual materials and other methods.
3. Appropriate content
Children's sex education, the content of each age group should be focused. Simple problems such as gender knowledge should be solved before the age of 5. Before puberty, sexual physiology education should be carried out; When teenagers develop, it is necessary to carry out sexual psychology and sexual morality education.
In short, sex education for children should adhere to natural and appropriate principles, and should not be done deliberately, nor should we look at children's problems from an adult's perspective.
Methods of sex education for children
1, tell the child the body structure.
When children are young, they don't know their own bodies, what are the functions of buttocks and breasts, and what are the different meanings. So the first step is to let children know their composition.
2. Tell children the difference between men and women.
Children don't understand the difference between boys and girls in early childhood. They think they are all the same and can hold hands and kiss. Therefore, parents should tell their children that their breasts, lower parts and buttocks should not be touched by others. Let the children have an idea of these.
Answer the children's questions about where they come from.
It's hard for this parent to say, because they feel that they can't explain to their children that mom and dad sleep together and have her, so they will make up a lot of lies and so on. In fact, the correct way is to tell the child that you came out of your mother's stomach because of the love of mom and dad.
4. Give children universal sex education.
In adolescence, children will be curious about the opposite sex because of physical changes, and it is normal to make friends and have sexual impulses. Parents should not be beaten to death with a stick and say that they can't fall in love early, but should tell them the consequences of sexual behavior. Let them understand the seriousness of this matter, and they will deal with emotional problems rationally and correctly, and think twice before you act.
Step 5 observe children
Once you find that your child is confused about emotional problems, you should guide him in time. Don't blame blindly, it will make children more rebellious and cause great disaster.
6. Sex education should start with dolls.
Don't treat this problem as unsuitable for children. Let children know people earlier and fundamentally protect children from infringement.