Our understanding and cognition of children is far from reaching the level of cognition of the external world and the material world. Children's thoughts and behaviors are a mystery. Parents are children's first teachers, lifelong teachers and eternal teachers. You can't even think of the motivation and idea of entrusting your child's education to the school. The role of family education is absolutely irreplaceable by schools. In developed countries, children's school hours are strictly limited. Especially for primary school students, parents take their children home at 1:30 in the afternoon, and school education should give way to family education. All parents, have we ever thought about what kind of person to train and how to train children? This should be the top priority of our family education. In today's article, I briefly talk about the top priority of family education, hoping to inspire and help all parents.

First, tolerance and kindness. Giving children a normal life and protecting their physical and mental health is the most important family education. In other words, you can't treat a child as a little monkey in a circus, nor can you think that he is proficient in eighteen martial arts. Walking a tightrope, drilling a circle of fire, moving a stool to hang bananas high, and so on.

Second, wait. I remember there is a book in Korea called Good Mom Take Your Time. We try to ask ourselves if we are too eager to educate our children and can't tolerate their natural growth. We are always looking for all kinds of quick doorways, always looking for all kinds of shortcuts, desperately fertilizing and watering, which is tantamount to pulling out the seedlings. You can imagine what kind of gains will be made. Early childhood education is not early education. What you can't do at the age of three is done at the age of five, what you can't recite at the age of five is done at the age of six, and what you can't do in the third grade is easy to do in the fourth grade ... What's the hurry? What is the satisfaction of all kinds of quick things? In the final analysis, it is the vanity of our parents.

Third, liberation. Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator, once proposed that children's hearts, eyes, ears, mouth, time and space should be liberated. Parents, we can ask ourselves whether we are liberating children or binding them. Obviously, I am doing something I shouldn't do, but I openly pretend to be "good for my children." As parents, we can't do it all, we can't do it all, we can't restrict and control it too much, and we shouldn't orient ourselves too early. No towering tree can grow in a flowerpot. What many parents do now is to put pressure on their children layer by layer, pull out the seedlings to encourage them, and apply too much fertilizer and water, which completely occupies the time that children should be free to control. Then teach your children to be stupid, how can you cultivate talents, let alone the dragons and phoenixes between people.