A leopard cannot change his spots, can't he? , said is this every day.
So, if you don't want your child to be a? Soft persimmon? 、? Little coward? If parents want their children to be strong and brave, they need to teach them three things.
The first thing: teach children? Kindness should have a bottom line?
A child was bullied at school and came home crying to his father. And dad said? It's great to be calm for a while, take a step back, and care nothing. ?
Dad's pet phrase can be recited by children. But this time, the child was angry. He growled and asked his father? Why do I have to endure it every time? Why can others bully me? Was I born a doormat? ?
Obviously, this father's approach is wrong, and his attitude makes the child very wronged.
The right thing to do is to tell the children? Kind and measured, tolerant and measured? Kindness should have a bottom line. Although tolerance is a virtue, kindness without a bottom line will only encourage the arrogance of bad people and do great harm to children.
Children who habitually tolerate bad people may become soft persimmons and be crushed to death when they grow up, especially at a loss.
The second thing: teach children? Say no?
In life, you will find that some children don't know how to refuse, especially easy to talk to. Such children are typical honest people and are very popular in the class. Lend whatever you want, and promise whatever you want.
Such a child can't talk? No? , think? No? It will hurt others. For example, even children's favorite toys may be given to others and taken away by themselves.
Therefore,
In addition to having a confidant, there may be others around the child? Bad boy? Habitual advantage
This kind of child who doesn't know how to refuse is particularly vulnerable to being bullied in the unit when he grows up, and is destined to suffer a lot and is likely to become a bad person? Fill the pit? Props.
In the eyes of the bad guys, it is a soft persimmon. For example, a bad guy will ask him to borrow money, but he will turn his back on him and refuse to pay it back after borrowing it.
It can be seen how important it is to educate children to say no!
The third thing: educate children no matter what happens. Be calm and brave?
This incident embarrassed Yu Huanshui. He doesn't know whether to listen to the teacher's idea to educate the children. No hitting? , or should I tell my children? Don't be a soft persimmon? .
Obviously, in this case, Yu Huanshui's son is a courageous person. But what he has not done well should not be done directly. As a father, Yu Huanshui didn't tell his children in time that their thoughts were correct and their behavior was wrong, which was the dereliction of duty of their parents.
The right thing to do is to tell the children? Be calm, rational and brave? . For example, children can reprimand such behavior and shout for help. Or hurry to find a teacher to take care of this matter and find a school security guard to deal with it, instead of taking the initiative to hit people.
If a child is weak from an early age, habitually kind, does not know how to refuse others, and is not calm enough when something happens, it is particularly courageous. Then, parents are advised to take their children to exercise well.
Let's leave now. Children are bullied? For example, parents can help their children to shape their brave character by doing so.
What should parents do if children are bullied?
(1) Teach children to fight back? Coup?
Parents don't want their children to be bullied and don't want their children to be hurt, but sometimes some bad children will choose to bully others for fun. In this case, parents should give it to their children? Tips? Teach children to understand complex situations.
For example, if someone bullies a child, will the child fight back, how likely it is to win, and whether the other person and himself can get away with it without being hurt. Fight back if you can.
If there is danger, choose other methods quickly, for example, shouting for help, looking for adults or companions around you, asking teachers for help, etc.
This coup should make children remember that children will become calm, witty and brave and fearless in times of crisis.
2 Parents intervene to give children a sense of security.
Some children are gentle and don't like to make trouble. After such children are bullied, parents should intervene to prevent them from being targeted by bad children, and feel that quiet children are easy to bully.
Meanwhile, parents should tell their children. Fight back bravely? . Maybe, the bad boy is just Doby. Relax just to see you being bullied. But if the child dares to talk back, the bad boy will cut off his retreat and stop bullying this kind of thing? Soft persimmon? Yes