Over the past few years, parents have often reflected in front of me: "Children are really disobedient at home, and they won't scold or fight. Sometimes he was angry and locked him in the house, but he was still annoyed afterwards. There is nothing I can do! " In my opinion, the key to this problem lies in parents' lack of correct understanding of children's punishment.

Punishment is the most complicated and difficult way of education.

Its purpose is to help children realize their mistakes and correct them, and to generate and strengthen their conscience and sense of responsibility in front of adults and children of the same age. Of course, the punishment we are talking about is not corporal punishment, which requires adults to pay special attention to discretion and care. ?

So, how to punish children? ?

1, change the attitude towards children. On weekdays, the enthusiastic attitude towards children will change into a relatively cold attitude, suspend the conversation with children, remain silent, and leave a deep impression on children. Reduce the caress that the child is used to, and make him feel that this is a punishment for him. ?

2. temporarily ban the work you like. For example, teachers do not allow children who are at fault to be on duty; Parents can cancel the promise of "going to the zoo, going to the theater, visiting relatives and friends" and explain the reasons to their children so that they can understand the fairness to others. ?

3. Use the method of discussion. Parents are advised to discuss their children's faults with other family members. In this way, we should not only eliminate children's fears, but also let them know that adults are only acting in good faith and similar phenomena will not happen again in the future. ?

4. Take the method of "reaping the consequences". The educational method of "eating one's own fruit" is to let children eliminate the adverse effects of their own behavior. If you litter, you have to clean it yourself; Sprinkle water and do it yourself. This method can make children take their behavior seriously in the future, otherwise they will pay the price for their bad behavior. ?

Parents should also pay attention to the following points when punishing their children:

1, don't punish children who are at fault with their work. If the child is disobedient, force him to clean the room or tidy the bookcase. This violates the educational principle of making children love labor. ?

2. Don't punish and yell at children often. Shouting and reprimanding children often will make them develop a stubborn temper. The timid and quiet child seems to be "tortured"; Excited children strengthen their "resistance", either playing dumb or crying. ?

3. Don't use material stimulation. If a child disobeys an adult's orders and the adult buys him toys and delicious food, then he may be more willful and try to bargain and push his luck to satisfy his wishes. ?

4. Punishment should be based on respect for children's personality, and corporal punishment is strictly prohibited. When choosing each punishment method, it is based on respecting the child's personality, arousing the child's conscience and inspiring his consciousness.