Secret 1: set an example, but also set an example.
Method example
Mr. Liu Bei 'an, a famous scholar in Taiwan Province Province, is over eighty years old. He is not only physically strong, but also has an amazing memory. Talking about the anecdotes of childhood, he said one by one with ecstasy; Talking about anecdotes about travel, he said happily one by one; Speaking of reading experience, he is even more interesting. The clear thinking and vivid description are really amazing. His son, Mr. Cai Lan, said of his father: His father is not old because he has been studying all his life.
Mr. Liu Bei 'an has a study, surrounded by bookcases as high as the ceiling, which are densely filled with books of ancient and modern figures. For him, the days without books are indispensable. His children are excellent in art and education, and they all love books. The quality of this love book is formed by Mr. Liu Beian's painstaking management and unobtrusive cultivation of them. When Mr. Liu Bei 'an recalled how to educate children, he said with a smile: I bought a lot of books and put them on the ground for children to read. They turned the book upside down and threw it all over the floor, and I quietly cleaned it up. Every once in a while, I buy another batch of new books for them to read. I never force them to read, but when they see that I read with relish and the books in the room are within reach, they all automatically become book lovers.
Operation prompt
Teaching by example, not by words, is the highest state of education. Parents are not only the authority in front of children, but also the providers of children's speech and behavior norms, and they are concrete images with strong hints and appeal. Teach yourself by teaching others. Parents require their children to have good qualities and habits, and they should have them first.
Tip 2: Give your child a good demonstration from the details of life.
Method example
The father took his son Chen Mingming to the lake for fishing. Before the scheduled fishing time, Chen Mingming was filled with excitement and threw the bait down. I didn't expect to catch a big carp soon. Chen Mingming was ecstatic, and his father admitted that he had never caught such a big fish. Chen Mingming was about to take the fish down, but his father stopped him: it's not fishing time yet, so the fish can't be taken away.
Chen Mingming looked around the lake. There was silence. There is no one but father and son. Chen Mingming could not bear to part with this big carp, so he said to his father, If you put it back, you may not catch such a big fish next time. Father said, I know, but you still have to put it back. Because it's not time yet. Chen Mingming said unhappily: There is no one else here. Father said: Heaven knows the earth, you know me. Seeing his father's firm eyes, Chen Mingming reluctantly put the fish back into the lake.
Operation prompt
In family education, parents often tell their children that they should do this and should not do that to regulate their words and deeds, but this empty preaching often has little effect. And parents' words and deeds, every move, children will see it in their eyes and follow their parents' example to imitate it. Therefore, parents should be cautious in their daily lives and set an example. All bad words and deeds must first be prevented from happening to themselves. Parents should do what children are asked to do. Only in this way can we receive good educational results.
Tip 3: Parents should match their words with their deeds.
Method example
Li Dadong is a boy in the fifth grade of primary school. His father is a worker and his mother is laid off. Li Dadong's parents are very strict with his education: they are not allowed to go downstairs to play after school; Do your homework before watching TV; Don't play video games. Violate, lightly scold, heavy hit. However, this strict education method did not make Li Dadong a good boy.
It turned out that Li Dadong's parents were addicted to mahjong all day and didn't pay attention to the example they set for their children. They think that children will be obedient as long as they are in charge and play a few times. The result is just the opposite.
Once, the father came home from a continuous battle, only to find that his son was playing poker with several friends, and everyone's face was covered with many notes. His father flew into a rage at once and began to fight. Li Dadong cried and shouted: The homework is finished. You can play mahjong. Why can't I play poker? His father was stunned by a question.
Operation prompt
Parents require their children to behave well and have good moral character. First of all, they should start from themselves. Whenever and wherever, parents should be consistent in words and deeds, and never be a hypocrite who says one thing and does another, one thing outside, one thing at home, one thing in person and one thing behind his back. In front of children, only words and deeds are consistent, and words count, can we establish prestige in front of children and make children believe in the discipline of their parents.