Learning to learn is important, but learning to be a man and do things is more important. Cultivating children's good moral quality is an important goal of current education. This paper discusses the following aspects: 1. Ways to cultivate children's good moral quality. 1. Good habits are the basis of cultivating children's good moral quality. 2. Establishing self-confidence is the key to cultivate good moral quality. 3. Pay attention to children's psychological feelings. It is a means to cultivate children's good moral quality. 3. Learning to be grateful is the requirement of cultivating children's good moral quality. 2. Effect and experience. Keywords habitual self-confidence, psychological gratitude, I always put personality education in the first place in children's education, and cultivate children's noble character and selfless spirit of helping others. Children have the nature to protect toys since childhood. I often teach children that "sharing good things with friends can make them happier". If our parents are vulgar, don't abide by social morality, don't safeguard public democracy and litter everywhere, children will also be affected. Therefore, we dare not relax bit by bit, don't relax our demands on ourselves, and use our words, deeds and actions to influence children's young minds, so that children can develop good habits and learn to be a man, do things and learn. You should also learn to be grateful. Many people have told me that as a teacher, you must be very good at educating children, which is really embarrassing. I'm usually busy at work. I go to work early every morning and get off work after six o'clock in the evening. I often go home. It's already dark and people feel very tired. There is a lot of housework to do in the evening, but also to study, study and prepare lessons. I really don't have time to discipline children. However, I don't think it takes a day or two to educate children, but it takes a long time to train. I think the most important thing in educating children is to set an example. Let me briefly say that I am: 1. Ways to cultivate children's good moral quality. (1) Good habits are the basis of cultivating children's good moral quality. Good behavior habits can benefit children for life, so I have always been very strict with children. For example, when eating, be sure to let the elders eat first. When we divide things, we should be small, give them to our elders, and don't throw things around. Here I will talk about my specific method: 1. Good habits include good behavior habits and study habits. To cultivate good habits, we must first set an example for our parents. For example, I don't spit or swear. My daughter will "learn from others" when she sees me like this. Like me, she can't swear, spit or litter. When I got home, I let my daughter do her homework in the room. If I want to watch TV, I will close my daughter's door and turn down the TV as low as possible. For a long time, my daughter never asked her to do her homework. She did it since she was a child. Gradually form a good habit. 2. Cultivate children's good habit of thinking and solving problems independently. It is every parent's unshirkable responsibility to bring up their children. It is also important to let children think and solve problems independently. Children's independence can only be gradually cultivated in practice. As a parent, I deeply realize that no matter what I do, my child will never attend a meeting and then become proficient. They should let go and do it themselves, as long as they work hard. Whether it is successful or not, it should be encouraged to make children proud. After all, children are children. When children do something wrong, I always encourage more and criticize less. You can't do it twice, twice and three times at a time until you are satisfied, so that children can feel the happiness of completing tasks independently. However, many parents have suffered a lot in the process of growing up because of historical reasons, so they often put all kinds of things in their own growth process. Put the best "hope" on children, who have high expectations for their "success". Therefore, parents arrange to do housework instead of children. First of all, they are very concerned about their children and refuse to put the responsibility on them prematurely. Second, they disdain to let their children do "housework" for fear of affecting their learning and growth. Actually, we should let them do more work. Only in this way can they realize the hardships of life. So as to cultivate good work habits. Secondly, we should have more contact with the school, communicate with the class teacher and let the children participate in school activities. Only in this way can children's independence be cultivated. 3. Be cautious about making promises to children and cultivate the habit of keeping promises. Parents' promises to their children must be cautious and realistic, so that children can have a motivation to make progress and urge them to complete their tasks better. Only by keeping promises can parents' prestige be established. However, in real life, some parents' promises to their children are largely blind, coping and even deceiving, which often has a great negative impact on their growth. As parents, we should carefully consider whether we should make a promise to our children, whether it can be fulfilled, whether such a promise is good for our children, and so on. Otherwise, we will lose the true meaning of our commitment. If we don't keep our promises, it will do great harm to children's self-esteem and lead to the decline of parents' prestige in children's minds. It will also make children mistakenly think that they can speak and promise to anyone casually, but they are not responsible anyway. Of course, appropriate commitment is also very necessary, and commitment should be linked to meaningful activities. For example, if you promise to take your children to the park and travel abroad, you should pay attention to spiritual enjoyment. Try to avoid material and economic stimulus. Economic commitment will make children pay attention to money and material enjoyment from an early age, and it is easy to form selfish personality and extravagant habits, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. 4. Learn to let go and cultivate children's own good habits. I remember that when my child was in the first grade of primary school, Teacher Mo also mentioned this in his letter to his parents. Parents can help their children for a while, but not for a lifetime. Therefore, in the process of children gradually forming habits, we should let go as slowly as possible and let the children manage themselves. I remember that when my child first went to school, I helped him pack his schoolbag every day, but the parents were very entangled. Because the child didn't pack his schoolbag by himself, he didn't know where to put things, and it would be very troublesome for the child to find things, and the schoolbag would become messy when he came back from school because he couldn't pack it. So I changed it and asked him to clean it up every day. The supervisor reminded him how to put the books and whether it was correct to change books according to the course every day. The supervision and reminder of adults is still easy to make children dependent, because he knows that even if he is wrong, there will be adults to help him worry. So I stopped supervising him face to face, and he cleaned up completely by himself, but after he cleaned up, I peeked at him to remind him to correct anything. When I transition to the second grade, I don't have to worry about him packing his schoolbag at all. In this process, I think it is an easy process for parents to let go slowly, and it is also a process for children to gain self-reliance, which is more important and valuable. 5. Read more extracurricular books to cultivate children's good habit of reading. In the process of educating children, I attach great importance to the study and cultivation of cultural knowledge, especially to cultivate children's reading ability. First of all, we should create a good reading environment for children. As parents, we should love reading, which is the most effective education for children. If children often see their parents having fun in reading, they will naturally like reading. As a teacher, I also like reading after work. Therefore, in reading, we set a good example for our daughter. When the girl was two months old, we showed her some big animal paintings. Let her little hands touch the lovely animal paintings. When he was three months old, she was taught to read cards and identify animals and flowers. A card is read two or three times a day. In the fourth month, I held her next to the table where the cards were placed, so that he could read the cards with his little finger. When he was five months old, we bought him a set of six books, including animals, plants, transportation and so on. Read it to him. When a child is three years old, he can recite many chapters in San Zi Jing and some poems in 300 Tang Poems. Every night before going to bed, I accompany my children to read stories from their childhood. When she grows up, she will read aloud. When I hear the wrong words, I help him correct them. Gradually, I found that he could remember new words two or three times. Probably from then on, children became interested in all kinds of books. She reads all kinds of story books with interesting plots, and when she sees interesting chapters in any book, she often makes me improvise and compose together. My daughter's devotion, vivid performance and creative play make people laugh, and I enjoy it. I often discuss novel and interesting books on scientific knowledge, such as 100,000 Why, and anecdotes about celestial bodies and animals. Satisfy children's curiosity and thirst for knowledge. I also encouraged him to read more books about learning to do and guess, combining reading with hands-on and thinking, which not only enriched his life, but also understood that books can guide practice and operation. For example, doing experiments, planting crops and raising small animals according to the methods mentioned in the book makes my daughter feel particularly happy. Reading has become a part of his life. I often take him to the bookstore, where I can stand. He often asks questions to test us, such as "What are platelets for?" "Why do fish keep their eyes open when they sleep?" My daughter has taught me a lot of encyclopedic knowledge, and I often pretend to be ignorant and ask my daughter some questions, and he will tell me in an orderly way. Up to now, my children have read many Chinese and foreign famous books and put forward their own views and opinions on those famous books. Through reading, children's curiosity is satisfied. At the same time, it also stimulated his stronger thirst for knowledge. He not only gained knowledge in the process of reading, but also found the pleasure of reading. This not only increased his knowledge, but also cultivated his children's good habit of reading. (2) Self-confidence is the key to cultivate good moral quality. As parents, we should believe that we are good and don't always find fault with our children. We should always encourage children to learn to be confident and let them believe in themselves. Try to avoid blaming children for their poor academic performance. Don't let them feel inferior, encourage them to win without arrogance and lose with grace. All children have their own advantages, but there will inevitably be shortcomings and mistakes, so parents should grasp the scale. 1, good boy is bragging. My child is now a sophomore, and I have seldom criticized him for more than ten years. I seldom criticize her loudly. Maybe some parents always like to say that their children are not good in front of others. Originally, their children were obedient at home and their academic performance was good. However, if they say that their children are not as obedient as other children in front of others and do not study well, they will have a rebellious mentality in their hearts. Children will think, I have done so well, and my parents say that I am not doing well. Anyway, it is good or bad, and it is so bad that I simply don't do it. "It's too standard, similar to the pronunciation in the tape recorder!" I can clearly feel the inner joy of the child after being affirmed from the sudden shining eyes of the child, and the voice of reading is louder and more confident. And the enthusiasm for learning English has also improved. Many times, the teacher didn't ask for recitation. She suggested that she should try hard to recite, instead of crustily skin of head to finish the task from the beginning. This change made me really see the important influence of praise on children. Let me really believe that a good boy is boasting. Parents should keenly capture the child's first progress, praise him immediately, and guide the child to develop in a gratifying direction with appropriate praise language. 2. Encourage more and criticize less. Children always do something wrong or do things against my will. For example, if a test or exam fails to meet my requirements, I will find out the reason. It is because I don't care enough about her study that I care more about her. I will correct her study method, because she is not attentive in class, and I will encourage her. Whatever the reason, I will criticize her as little as possible, because she is in a bad mood and because she didn't do well in the exam. If I criticize her again, she won't tell me about her study in the future, then I don't know her study, and her grades will definitely get worse and worse. I remember that once she got more than 80 points in the math exam, so I first communicated with the teacher to find out. Use knowledge to solve practical problems. In the mid-term exam this semester, she was ranked 15 in the class. I praised her in time and said, "I did well in the exam. Keep working hard, but don't put pressure on yourself. Just take a good test in the future. " I'm afraid she won't do well in the next exam, so I haven't asked her to reach a high level. As long as she tries her best. (3) Paying attention to children's psychological feelings is a means to cultivate children's good moral quality. 1. Learn to listen and be a good listener for children. Now children are boarding at school, which is both hard and happy for boarding life. Every Saturday night, my daughter will talk endlessly about her life and study at school. I will listen quietly. When she is talking about her life and study, I never teach her with my own opinions and will, but listen quietly. When appropriate, I will praise her. For example, she said that she won the second place in the "sports meeting", and I will praise and encourage her in time. I will say, "That's good, you are really good, and continue to work hard in the future." In the future, I will continue to practice writing brush calligraphy more. "For example, she said that when she took the music exam, she got 98 points for playing the piano, and all her classmates envied her for playing the piano. I will say, "I did well in the exam. You see, learning the piano is good for you. "If the child encounters some confusion, I will give her advice and share her troubles. 2. Protect children's self-esteem. Respect children's inner needs. Doing so is conducive to the development of children's physical and mental health. Children, like adults, have many inner needs besides studying, such as games, making friends, reading extracurricular books and watching favorite TV programs. If children need a little pocket money to buy computer game cards, game cards, small toys, etc. It is a normal psychological need. Parents should encourage and guide their children to express themselves confidently and correctly, and should not blindly stop them for fear of affecting their normal study. It causes children to make dishonest excuses to cheat or even take money. Children in one-child families often feel lonely, which leads many children to rely too much on computers and televisions. So my father and I took the initiative to adjust ourselves and arrange as much time as possible to accompany our children. Especially on holidays, accompany children to study, play games, play ball games, watch TV programs, support children to bring friends home, encourage children to help with some housework properly, or take them out for a trip, etc. , thus enriching children's minds, expanding children's horizons, and striving to create opportunities for children to express their confidence. Children will also be more willing to show themselves in a warm family atmosphere and work harder to complete everything carefully planned by their parents. So as to improve the quality of family education and promote the improvement and development of children's comprehensive quality in all aspects. (4) Learning to be grateful is the requirement of cultivating children's good moral quality. Gratitude is a kind of love for life. Only by learning to be grateful can we know how to respect and cherish life. Learn to be grateful, and our life will be full of bright sunshine. If children don't know how to be grateful, this is a question worth pondering. Gratitude is a life attitude, a moral quality, an indelible conscience and a reflection of the healthy personality of successful people in modern society. Every day, I intentionally or unintentionally create an atmosphere of gratitude and put the concept of gratitude into every little thing. For example, when I was young, I used the opportunity to tell stories to my children before going to bed at night. Consciously choose stories such as "Lamb Kneeling on the Breast", "Crow Feeding Back" and "rhubarb dog Gratitude" to tell children that one should know how to repay kindness, be affectionate and righteous, and be able to repay others in the future like a crow; When I was walking on the road, I saw the sprinkler playing music and spraying water on both sides of the road. I also told my children, intentionally or unintentionally, that this is not only fun, but uncle sanitation is working and making contributions to society. Don't complain that water drops splashed on his pants. We should thank my uncles for their work. It is they who make us have a good living environment. Now that the children have grown up, it's time to judge right and wrong. I will intentionally buy some magazines such as Yilin and Readers, and then I will ask her what she thinks of the protagonist in the story. In addition, I also pay great attention to words and deeds. If I have no filial piety, I believe my children will have no filial piety in the future. Therefore, I have always respected my elders, often asked them to be caring and attentive, and often bought some things that my elders love to eat to honor them. My children will hear you. Naturally, I have great respect for my elders. Second, the effect and experience. After years of training, my children can develop morally, intellectually, physically and aesthetically. When my children were in primary school, they were rated as "three good students" every semester, and they were also well evaluated by the class teacher in junior high school. Now, she is a sophomore, and she can live in harmony with her classmates. I have a good relationship with my classmates. I have won many gold medals in piano competitions. I can also win the first prize in the calligraphy competition organized by the school many times. I can also get better grades in school sports competitions. My relatives and friends praised my children for their good ideology and morality. In short, which parents in this world don't love their children? The problem is how to love, how to teach and how to educate children. We must be persistent, patient, caring and persistent.