Many netizens think that her education method is too strict, and she is too controlling, so that children can easily become "Ma Baonan" in the future.
Including her good friend Zhang Shaogang, also directly said that she was "rigid", "when your child is in pain" and "be careful that he will rebound later".
But after watching the program, I found that netizens and Zhang Shaogang were really worried!
When "Tiger Mom" meets "Cat Dad"
The family education in Liu Xuan is a typical combination of "tiger mother and cat father".
Liu Xuan, the Olympic gymnastics champion, was sent to a sports school by her family at the age of 5, won the national championship at the age of 15, became the captain of the national team at the age of 20, and achieved zero breakthrough in the China women's balance beam Olympics at the age of 23.
High-standard and strict "iron-blood education" has already been written into her blood!
Therefore, a highly disciplined lifestyle is a natural thing in their family, not an overkill.
To put it bluntly, we ordinary people are used to being lazy, but you can't say that others' self-discipline is abnormal. ...
Including Liu Xuan himself said: "This is to establish rules and self-control for him, and I will be particularly strict because of his physical condition (children's allergies). In fact, I want him to be particularly open-minded."
Maybe at some point, the child will feel very tired, but I think his future life will be wonderful.
Because I can see that "Tiger Mom" Liu Xuan is not the kind of mother who is particularly controlling. She just has a strict discipline. She also said that when her son grows up, he will definitely take a back seat. I totally believe it.
Besides, her husband Wang Mi is a famous clarinet player and a professor at the Central Conservatory of Music. What flows in the bones is the romantic and delicate artist temperament, which is a typical "cat dad".
Although Wang Tao didn't fully agree with his wife's iron education, seeing Liu Xuan's persistence gave the other party the greatest respect, never interfering, never dragging his feet, and affirmed the mother's efforts for her children.
However, every time a child cries, he will immediately come forward to appease and guide. His tone is particularly gentle and patient, and he will also use his art to cultivate children's imagination and artistic perception.
For example, the hero's son lost his temper because he didn't want to write. He first soothed the children's emotions gently, diverted their attention with the "Dont Ask For Help" in his hand, and then guided their interest in learning with the interesting name "Dont Ask For Help".
Finally, Xiong Yong really completely forgot the crying just now and took the initiative to write with his mother.
This is simply the best example of "encouraging education" and deserves to be a professor at the Central Conservatory of Music!
So, brave children describe them like this:
"My father is very docile, like a peacock, and my mother is like a tigress."
Husband and wife are both rigid and flexible, rational and emotional, and just the right harmony and complementarity. Anyway, I like their family's tutor atmosphere, and I can see that the protagonist is a little boy who grew up in full love.
After getting up every day, I will say hello to my mother: "Mom, I love you!" " "
When eating snacks, I will miss my mother's unborn sister:
"This is one of my brother's cookies. Can I share it with you when you come out? "
I have known many words since I was a child, and I am particularly curious about my father's bookshelf. I would point to a book and say, "This is a book by Bach, Shostakovich and Chopin. I want to see it. "
The result was ruthlessly exposed by his father: "You can listen to Chopin, but you still can't understand Chopin."
Love between sports students and art students
More importantly, the love of parents is the best education for children. Let's talk about the love story of "sports students and art students" between Liu Xuan and Wang Tao.
Not long ago, Wang Tao wrote a particularly romantic essay to his wife in Weibo. He said:
"I have been married four times, and I married the same one."
The first time in Las Vegas, Elvis Presley spent the largest amount in his bank card just to buy a marriage proposal ring.
"With a ring, I came out of the Prudential Center and became a poor man. My pocket is empty, my walk is floating and birds are chirping. "
"Then, standing in the church, watching her come in with flowers, no one, just me and her. Looking at each other, I am happy and my heart is beating. "
Liu Xuan in Wang Mi's eyes.
The second time in Hong Kong, Elvis Presley said it was his perfect wedding.
For this wedding, he wrote a plan of more than 20,000 words, from moving pictures to guest seats, to details of the ceremony and pick-up and accommodation. He finished every detail of the whole process himself.
The location was chosen in Hong Kong because Hong Kong is a city of special significance to Liu Xuan.
Because that year, Liu Xuan, an athlete who was transformed into an actor after retiring, traveled to TVB alone: "Loneliness, injury and self-reliance never let me know any pain. I didn't know until I lived for half a month that the room she lived in was very small and she usually ate fast food when she was too tired. "
"She suffered from childhood, used to eat, it is absolutely won't let the family know. In this case, I shed tears and she laughed. "
Even at the wedding, Liu Xuan, accustomed to big scenes, remained calm. Only Wang Tao cried like a child, which was ugly.
Later, recalling that day, he said, "I think she suffered a lot from me and was speechless when she took the oath." But she's been laughing. Maybe she's satisfied with me. "
"On that day, the thunderstorm, which was originally hidden behind the clouds, left quietly and rationally. The sun poured down and we kissed in its light and shadow."
Wang Mi in Liu Xuan's eyes.
For the third time, I participated in a reality show about marriage and love in Chiang Mai. "Work is marriage, and marriage is work. I am very drunk. "
What I didn't expect was that Liu Xuan got pregnant soon after signing the work contract. Because she dared not let anyone know for the first three months, she had to grit her teeth and finish the work.
So at the end of the wedding, Elvis cried again, but this time because of helplessness and guilt, he said to Liu Xuan, "I'm sorry, because I can't make money, so you have to work so hard to make money with children." I may have chosen the wrong major, which is too small. "
Liu Xuan is as calm as ever: "You have worked hard, why do you always embarrass yourself in the economic view?" ? I love you very much and don't care. "
The fourth time in Beijing, because children need a marriage certificate to apply for a birth permit, these two idiots found out that they didn't get a certificate at all.
On the second day after receiving the certificate, when passing Tiananmen Square, Liu Xuan looked up at the flying five-star red flag and murmured, "Husband, I have been trying to raise this five-star red flag to the highest position for the first half of my life. I'm so tired ... "
"Now, I want to have a baby. Do you think I can naturally let go of this obsession after I become a mother? Then I should enjoy life? "
In recent years, tabloid media always like to compare Liu Xuan with Guo Jingjing. Guo Jingjing is both an Olympic champion and a beautiful sports queen, but they always say that she is not well married and even use the word "losing".
I think this comparison is really narrow, because as Elvis Presley said, "Dear son, she really married love. I'm not that rich. I can't let her enjoy the beautiful scenery as time goes by after marriage. She still has to go out to make money and needs me to hold hands and fight for our small family. "
"It's very kind of her, her good, is really rare. She is 40 years old this year, and I have said happy birthday to her for almost 20 years. This year, I said, dear son, just be material, let me do my best.
"A girl like my wife, fireworks, stars and the sea should all be in her arms."
Such a love letter is really romantic!
An "art student" who is willing to make a commitment and a "sports student" who doesn't care about wealth are both pure and enthusiastic idealists in essence. They are also top talents in their respective fields with rich souls, and then they create their own romantic love together.
Therefore, it is really superficial to measure them with the narrow and secular values of "marrying into a rich family".
Because the best love and the happiest marriage are not exactly the romance and security you want, just what I have here.
With you, I will always be free to be myself. ...
In fact, love, marriage, mode of getting along, parenting methods … these things are not fixed.
But I think a good relationship between husband and wife and a healthy family education must be based on love. It is a castle and harbor built by two mature and responsible people for each other and for their children.
It doesn't have to be a lot of money, but there must be a lot of love.
I envy heroic sons and daughters growing up in such an environment. Of course, I envy the immortal love like Liu Xuan and Wang Mi!
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